Get Tired of Being the Bad Guy....All the Time

I say we all go on strike. You know it's sad we work and work to make sure everyones fed clothed and off to work. But if there is something wrong were responsible for that too. MY son and husband fight all the time I pop in something to make them stop and what do you know it's my fault. I threatened to leave and let them either kill each other or get along and suddenly everyone changed their tune. Who would cook clean or find clothes if i weren't here.

i have a two year old son, my wife is a 24/7 hands on mom and wife. and because she is the one who manages the house and always with my son the blame always goes with me. why did i put this on that, why did i let him eat this. it is always me me me. har har har well i cant blame my wife for that because i should have ask first.

Don't feel bad,it's the same way here. I always hear after picking up after them "well no one told you to move it,or pick it up!" And then i get accused of just doing things because i like to B****.Your not a failure their just too lazy to do anything themselves,thats why i went on strike and boy did they change their tune when they had no socks,underwear clean clothes or junk food to eat. Then they had to hear my husband complained and i just sat on the computer playing on pogo and i really laughed because then he knew how i felt!

I meant to start a discussion, but I caught a glimpse of your title and I had to respond. I am sort of passionate about this subject so forgive my bluntness. The title for your discussion is all wrong. It should read Tired of My Bad Unappreciative Disrespectful Kids. The problem, though, is you. You LET them walk all over you! you need to stop doing for them the things they can do for themselves. Like clean their own room. And if they don't put their dirty clothes in the correct specified location then it won't get done. If they refuse to do their chores, then remove privileges. No sports, or friends contact, or weekend outings. Hit them where it hurts most. And more importantly, DON'T BUDGE! YOU are the boss! And YOU decide what's for dinner. If they don't like it then they don't eat. And no snacks allowed in its place! You need to take control. Then they will really think o you as thr bad guy. But you are not being a true parent until you are that type of bad guy. They won't understand now, and they're not meant to because you are the Mother, the BOSS! Pushing and testing boundaries is how they learn and grow. But the next time they snap at you or use that tone of voice, you immediately punish. Ground, deny them something they love. Because Respect is also something they need to learn. The reward of being hated as a parent comes when they've grown up and realize how your love and discipline has hekped shape them into upstanding adults. Now, I'm not saying your kids should hate you in order to be a good parent, but at the point of disrespect that they have with you now, they most likely will, but it's part of the transition. When they see you mean business they will comply. When respect and independence is taught from the beginning, then it becomes a way of life. But if you start later then it can be quite a battle. But very possible. Stop letting them walk all over you. But if you "don't want them to hate you" and you feel wothless if you are not waiting on them hand and foot, then you have more personal serious issues to deal with. Like Low self-esteem. Either way, the problem still comes down to you. And that's great, because you can change that. But if you still say, "but I'm not that type of person" then you have 2 choices, suck it up and stop complaining, or learn how to be that person. A mother's job is to teach her children to be loving respectful ABLE adults so that when they move out they can do their own laundry. Good Luck!

I get this all of the time and sometimes it gets to me but generally I just let it go. I know that I am a good wife and mother but I also take the blame for alot of things that happen in the house. I usually tell my teenagers or my husband aome sarcastic remark and that usually gets them to realize they are wrong. It's hard when you work so hard to keep on the house or make a good dinner and a kid comes to the table and throws their nose up in the air and decides they aren't going to eat it. After 6 kids it just rolls off my back. Don't worry your family appreiciates you - just stop doing what you are doing for a week and where would they be?