The Power of a Woman's Tears
By kayedanda
@kayedanda (1850)
Philippines
August 10, 2008 1:34am CST
Do you cry to get what you want? I think that one of the most powerful weapons of a woman against men is her tears. Or at least, that's how it is in my case (my husband's heart breaks when he sees me crying). Just two nights ago, I cried hard until my eyes hurt because for a week now, he's been playing World of Warcraft like crazy. I mean he'd stay until 3 a.m. just to play the dang game. All his free time he spends in front of the other PC at home, and the other night I just can't take it anymore.
So in the middle of the night while his back was turned against me, I cried like hell. He heard my sniffs and sobs, and hurriedly went to ask what's wrong. We are an open couple, and hardly keep secrets from each other, so out came what's bothering me. All the time he was consoling me, and looked like he was about to cry himself. After I have cried out what seemed like half of my body's liquids, I stopped and let him speak. Predictably, he said he's very sorry that he got carried away with playing WOW and promised that he'd limit his playing time to two hours a day while wiping my tear-streaked face.
I've proven a thousand times before that once he sees me cry, he gives in to what I ask, most of the time to stop whatever he's doing that i find disagreeable. And what i just shared was another proof. I don't think that there's anything wrong with my crying (after all, they ARE real tears) if that means I can get him to, at the very least, listen to me. I have no qualms whatsoever in using this weapon in the future when and if i find the need to. Am i so bad? :p
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10 responses
@thundero14 (29)
• Philippines
10 Aug 08
I don't think you crying was a factor. I think what made him do the thing you want is love, only love. If you love someone, you would never want to make him/her sad more so crying. Love moves mountains and it makes men like me a whimpering slave. Love is not a thing that should be abused, cry when he hurts you not when you want something. :)
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@kayedanda (1850)
• Philippines
10 Aug 08
awww...that was a good response :)
unfortunately, i had labeled the first one as the best already :P
anyways, thanks for the tip and will sure keep that in mind :)
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@pink_maven (265)
• Philippines
10 Aug 08
Hi friend. Seems crying works for you. However, doing a thing over and over again might loose it's essence someday. What if someday you cried and your partner thought that it's your style of getting his attention. Save your tears dear and show it on he proper time. =)
@bjcyrix (6901)
• Philippines
10 Aug 08
Hi! Welcome to myLot. I was just dropping by to say that I was about to start a discussion similar to this one but I did a search. I was really surprised to see that someone beat me to it! I mean it wouldve been fine but the way you worded your title was almost the same as mine. But after reading all of your post, it is similar to what I was thinking but different perspective. I did think of not starting the discussion anymore but finding that the responses of people might be different from what you had. Your whole discussion anyway couldve been one of the best responses on my (idea)discussion. Well, I guess Im just gonna have to start that one tomorrow and give spaces in between similar discussions.
Congrats on having a healthy relationship and Goodluck!
Congrats on having a healthy relationship and Goodluck!1 person likes this
@kayedanda (1850)
• Philippines
10 Aug 08
well, what do you know. I'm a psychic now. :D
btw, thanks for welcoming me!
@soooobored (1184)
• United States
10 Aug 08
If that works for you in your relationship, then that's fine, right?
Personally, I would never manipulate somebody with tears, but I was raised that way. And I would never want to be with somebody who allowed me to.
If you are asking because you are trying to find another way to approach him, then the advice would just be to be direct with him. On no planet is it unreasonable to ask him to limit his game playing to two hours a day, if he would be unwilling to accommodate such a reasonable request from you, then that would need to be addressed as well.
Good luck!
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@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
10 Aug 08
My girlfriend cries every time we had a date that I
canceled because I'm busy with something else. She
would cry mountains of tears and what can i do? I will
bring her to another special date and this time I wont
cancel it.
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
10 Aug 08
it depends for some man like my husband the tear does not affect him at all.. he will look at you, and pretend not to see .. he is so very strong.. i don cry anymore .. stopped when there was 1 day he told me .. do not use your tears, it does not effect me in anyways ..
from then onwards ... if i feel like crying i will go into another room or kitchen and cry my heart out
i don mean my husband don love me ... don get me wrong.. if someone else made me cry .. he will get really angry and dare to kill
@wolfewatcher (191)
• Canada
10 Aug 08
if it works for you then thats what works. it don't work in my house. i know about the wow thing i have friends that play that. my hubby don't but until last week his computer could not handle that kind of game (its a real crappy computer) but he gets that way with his xbox. i used to just hold it in and go cry in the bathroom or out on the patio if i was upset. but i finally grew a backbone and learned to tell people what i feel needs to be said. some people don't like it, my husband gets pissy cause of it sometimes but i got tired of being walked all over and no one listening when i would say no to a neighbour when they needed a sitter (that never pays the sitter)but i'm sick of it. if it makes the person mad at me you know what i've gotten to the point i just don't care anymore. if hubby gets mad oh well, if he don't like it ...lump it. hes started paying more attention and helping out more since i grew this backbone.
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@questionsnoanswers (622)
• Canada
10 Aug 08
Hahaha this is so true! I have done the same thing when i am frustrated with my man. Sometimes you try and tell them but they are so intune with what they are doing that they dont even hear the words you are saying to them. And tears are one thing that stops a man in his track!
I dont think a women crying is bad (unless she just keeps "crying wolf"). I mean if its something which is truly bothering you, something from your heart, then i dont think its wrong.
I believe it begins to be wrong when a women will cry over small things which dont really matter. I have seen some couples standing at the movie theater and they be arguing over what movie to see. "Honey i really want to see that movies (sniff sniff)" A women can look like a young child when she starts to cry over things like that.
Well thats my view anyhow lol... But bottom line, A WOMEN HAS TO DO WHAT A WOMEN HAS TO DO!
@Essedel (12)
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
It really depends on how you want to use your tears. If you want them to be used like a weapon, then it's a deadly weapon, and most men find that very much distressing so they would try to patch up things and sometimes do something special so as the women won't cry anymore. If tears are meant to tell someone that you're really hurt, or you're really worried, then it could be used as well. But sometimes even if we don't like people doing things that they shouldn't be doing, sometimes tears aren't the only weapons you need, for it doesn't work all the time too. Like with smoking, you can't actually tell a person to stop what they're doing that instant, it has to be gradual, and you have to stay committed to doing that to get him committed. There will come a time wherein the person won't be affected by the tears, and it could evolve into a low weapon if misused too. You wouldn't want to be treated that way too, right. :P So if it comes to arguing all the time because you got people to do what you want them to do, because they felt compelled to acknowledge your tears, then it somehow becomes even worse. Communication is the key, understanding is the key. You said you have a very open relationship, so it must hold that you communicate and understand each other very well. Addiction is a very hard thing to heal...:P
