Cheater Beater

good day...It would be very hard to digest the fact that my partner cheated on me. Honestly my world would be torn apart. First, I would confirm then confront. I would sense where would she be going with our relationship. Whether she want to continue with me or not, it's really irrelevant at that point in time. I would ask for time out and assess the situation. I think the hardest thing to do is to recover the trust and respect I had for her. Now, whether things would work after the cheating I really can't tell, guess we've had to wait and find out.

What i would do? First of all ask the reasons. That doesn't mean i would forgive something like this. Forgiveness is such a wonderful trait to have, but really, this kind of cheating, at least for me, would be unbearable. I would just try to understand if i somehow did something wrong, or whatever. Basically i would just try to understand better what can go through the mind of a partner. No matter the reason though, everything would end. Being cheated is the most evident sign of a broken relationship that would end up destroyed anyway, sooner or later, so it'd better be sooner. Of course one have also to take into account the different level of "cheating". There are differences between some tenderness or a kiss and the "whole act" or a full going secondary relationship. That doesn't mean i would pass on it in ANY case, but that's because of how i am. I know that sometimes humans can be WEAK, and that sometimes forgiving can be the right thing to do. But i am not really that kind of person, at least not in matters of such importance, and anyway, more often then not, somebody who cheated once, is very likely to do it again. So you'd better save yourself the trouble.

Cheating is cheating and I beleive you don't get a second chance. As the saying goes "Once a cheater always a cheater". I am not going to invest my life with someone who cannot be faithful to me. I couldn't reconsile with someone if they did that. I have been in a few relationships where they cheated on me. I walked away and never looked back. I am not even friends with them as they hurt me and played me for a fool. They are not worth the time and effort if they cheat.

My reaction would be to hit the road Jack. I had a cheating husband, and I was not going to put up with it, even if he said he would not do it again. to me, somethings are just not acceptable, and a cheating partner is one of them. I did not try to save the marriage, because the marriage was already tainted and violated. Some people can forgive, but what good is a relationship if you have to track someone to know their whereabouts everytime they were out of eyesight.

once a cheater, always a cheater!

I can not tolerate cheating. I know i will find it hard to live without her, but still when she has more interest on some one else than me there is no point in sticking to that relationship. I will break and try to console myself.

Well, I can Honestly say this would be very hard for me to take, and if anything would probably harm my self esteem for sure. I have been married to my husband for just about 9 1/2 yrs. now, and he is my everything. I would hope if this ever did happen it would be a one time thing or something like that, but it would still take some Counseling and Prayer to keep it together without me wanting to leave him, and feel distance towards him, and other things of life as well. I have seen how cheating can destroy a family, as my Step Dad cheated on my Mom, so that was enough for me to last a lifetime.

i would never keep contact with him. i just can't withstand cheaters. mys o called best friend cheated me and i am not anymore in contact with him.

Cheating having been proved, what is there to stay on? Better break the relationship.

yes,if your lover cheating you.first you don't to angry about that,and think why he cheat you.and why he has this thought,and where and when ,what things can cause him to cheat you.and if it is important to you,if just a little thing you will not take notice of it. because it will be a big and important things if you take too many notice to it.and argue with your lover constantly. i love china.

Lisa I feel the option of counseling is very sensible and should be considered by every married couple when things are not well between them . Talking about one's feelings is the best way to solve problems . Divorce is not a pleasant thing to do and should be avoided as far as possible . Being humans we can all make mistakes, that doesnt mean a person who cheats on his lover is a criminal. The other partner should feel compassion and forgive the other.

This for me is the worst thing that I can experience and I really don't know how would I react if this will happen. Thinking about it now, I will surely make a scene. I will surely hurt the girl physically and throw anything i can to them (like electric fan, pans, plates, knives, anything I can!) I am thinking of killing them but no, I would let them suffer and let them feel the pain that is in me. I'll humiliate the girl, wreck her reputation and spread rumors about her. for my partner I will never ever forgive him and I will wreck havoc in his life. I would not let them live peacefully. I would destroy them to the point that they would beg me to kill them. I will not show any mercy. cheating is the most unforgivable thing for me. In my mind that is would be my reaction if I caught my partner holding hands with someone else. if more than that.. well.. you imagine.

I would simply walk away and say nothing.

Hard as it may be,I would confront them. I wouldn't be ashamed since they did me wrong. I'd let them know that I knew what they were doing. THEN I would break it off! You're right, this would be one of the hardest things to deal with.

I would probably be livid. I know I would just be freaking out on him, and ask why and da da da da. But it would be difficult to say whether we would call it quits since we have our daughter. I would probably try to make it work, and just keep a real close eye on him. I honestly don't believe my spouse would ever cheat on me, and he never really has the time to.lol. He works 12 hr shifts, then comes home to sleep so he can get back up and do it all over again. But if he ever did, I certaintly wouldn't be like, oh it's alright. I would take him back once, but he woulddn't get a second chance after that.

it is extremely hard to answer this, but if she is going to confess about what she had did, and promise that it wont happen again i will let her go, if she is not going on to hold the promise well i will dump her in the garbage

First I'll just get away from them because I might do something bad to them. Then I'll wait a day or two to calm myself then talk to my girl and hear her side. If what I'll hear would be really bad then I would surely break it up.

ive been into that situation. what i did is that ive tried to work it out first, did everything i could to make it work. just incase in doesnt work ive tried everything. we've been separated for 9 years now. and ive nver been happy since we got separated. ive peace of mind, stress free. as long as my daughter is with me no problem. he can do whatever he want to do i dont care. i believe in karma.

Option #1 would be beat the hell out of him until he passed out. But then I think that would be too much. Option #2 is to walk away with tears in my eyes and make him chase me. Then I would hit him on his chest, cry, and walk away and never talk to him again.