Your views on Public Display of Affection

I'm a Filipino and I've had my share of naughtiness also but seeing people, specially co-Filipinos doing public display of affection really turns me off. It's not that I'm being a goody two shoes about it but it is really not pleasing to the eyes. one time, I was in a university campus and there was this couple "eating" each other's lips in front of me. I wanted to tell them to get a room! I mean, c'mon, they were in a school campus and they were right in front of the cashier! What would their parents say if they saw them. Such a shame. I've always put it in my head that my parents raised me not to give them shame at all times. They put me through school so I should be at least decent all the time giving pride in the name I bring.

I live in the US and I do not like PDA's for the most part. A quick peck, or hug is OK, but some of the people are really going overboard. I just want to say to some of them "come on, get a room." It is nice to see people in love, you can tell by their interactions how they feel, but please be respectful of others and confine your demonstrations of affection to private.

hi swirlz! i often see couples PDA-ing like in mrt stations, at the streets while waiting for a bus, in fast food chains... usually i'd think of the words "get a room" because it seems a little vulgar and the odd thing is i am the one who feels embarrassed when i see scenes like that. hugging and kissing in public places in front of many people. why can't they just do it in private! maybe i'm being too conservative or maybe i'm just feeling a little envious because i currently don't have a bf but either way, i still think things like that should be done discreetly. maybe a couple can hug in a public place but that's it, a simple and quick hug. a peck in the cheek or a smack in the lips, not longer than 1 or 2 seconds. holding hands is okay. but for other intimate gestures, i think it should be done discreetly.

i am from marikina metro manila.... but i will respond to you based on what i feel. i met my wife when i was 28 when we start to have a relationship my wife (girlfriend during those days) is a sweet person. she likes hugs and kisses. so it doesnt matter if we are out on public for there is nothing wrong on what we are doing. but we dont kiss toridly. we only kiss like a peck on the cheek or a smack on the lips. so for me there is nothing wrong about it. i want tosay proudly that even we are married for 5 years already and this month is our 6th year wedding anniversary we still are sweet and still do kiss and hug even on public. this is a wonder for me. why there are more sweet couples but you can see them they are only bf and gf but there are less sweet couples that have children. i dont want this to happen to me and my wife. i want us to be sweet even we grow old. getting back about public display of affection it is okay as long as you are old enough. dont like to see teenagers who are still wearing school uniforms and have bf or gf already. and i am happy to see old couples who still hold hands when walking.

Oh, this PDA thing is one of eyesores that I wish not to see especially when I'm commuting in the morning. Whenever I see partners having a vivid PDA esp. on the jeepney in the morning, I feel gross. Call it narrowmindedness, I don't care. I wish those who practice PDA should also feel respect for people surrounding them. Also, I wish them to learn the word "Dignity/Privacy Appreciation and Retention" and add them to their own vocabulary. I know some might see this as "no harm done" and that may be based from physical sense but think about the moral sense. DOes it really harm? Yes. Practicing such act makes the public sinful because it gives judgement to those who see it.

PDA as in Pinoy Dream Academy? lol..just kidding..but seriously, i hate to see couples who do PDA especially if they are not that cute (pardon me)..it hurts but reality bites..i guess couples who do such thing are still a lil immature that's why they have the 'carefree' attitude in showing their affections..

Well I live in Manila and I seldom see any one having PDAs maybe in the parks and other public places I saw once in a while. But I think it is already tolerated already since I do not see them to be indecent. Well for me I think if it's just a simple kissing or hugging in the public I think I can allow that but for them to torridly kiss each other then I do find it distasteful already and so far I haven't seen one for sometime already.

Hi there swirlz! There are more and more young people now who publicly display their affection. I am teaching in one of the universities here in our city. Having to spend a lot of time with college students gave me the opportunity to see how they behave. I get to see some of them kissing and hugging in the corridors. I also see them in the canteen. Being a couple of years older than them makes me understand their behavior. That doesn't mean though that what they are doing is right. I would see more senior teachers who would raise their eyebrows or would frown upon what they see in terms of the behavior of these students. I also understand how they feel about it. I think that the society has become more open to this kind of actions. PDA is very much common in almost all places here in our city. I think I have gotten used to it.

Dear friend, It India were I live it is very rare to see PDA and moreover there are people who do that may be fined by the police or they may be taken in mobile cam by others. Much of other people will stare at them. In parks and other public area there are lovers who come there but rarely do PDA. I hope it is part of life of lovers particularly which is usually done here at inside home or private places. But if this is mistaken by children and tend to imitate it would be worse. Hence I feel those places were adults are allowed may be given permission for PDA with certain limitation that does not harm others there.

i beg to disagree. i am from manila yet i am not "used" in seeing those. what i meant by that is, i feel uncomfortable whenever i see 2 people making out. but yes, there are a lot who do that nowadays. you can find them almost everywhere! in the fast foods, malls, clubs, bars, etc!

Good day.. I don't see any problems with it as long as it's just kissing and holding hands. I believe it makes the relationship better and sweeter as well. I think people shouldn't judge other people who're doing it. I mean it's their relationship.

i have a frnd from phil for 4 yrs but i never saw her indulging any such public activities of sentiments.....everything depends upon what you think and what you personally like..

When I see people display so much affection in public places (like french kissing) i am tempted to tell them, GET A ROOM!

Well here in Quezon City you could see it any where at the mall, PUVs, parks, anywhere! I don't know why but for me I am not that alarm or annoyed when someone is hugging, kissing or just leaning on someone's shoulder it is just their way of showing how much they love each other, but on your photo you said that they were not on a relationship well maybe it is their way of showing how close they are. I mean for me it is ok to hug someone, give a simple kiss, or something like that just SIMPLE ones and not those torrid kisses! Or those couples caught at the park doing more intimate things, if you know what I mean. In tagalog, "ilagay mo sa lugar pa rin yung ginagawa mo" because not all people here in our country is liberated or had accepted this new culture that we are facing especially on big cities like here. I think they are still adjusting about this pda stuffs, coz here at my place (I don't know to some parts of QC) when they saw some PDAs here they don't mind it at all, they just do what they are doing, not minding it "Just mind your own business" as they say. lolz

Where i live... PDA is a very common thing... especially between a Filipina and a foreigner... and some Filipino couples are following suit... but that is still not very common... holding hands... a hug here and there are what i usually see... and i thing that is sweet... but when the touching becomes very vulgar... and they start kissing a lot... people will start to stare and frown at them...

i never grew on traditions that we have..i live in Pampanga and i see lots of those in here as well most particularly young ones..it never bother me though, not that i don't care but i guess its what it is now adays..people out grown the traditions and us being populated with foreign people we kind of adopted their culture somehow...it will not bother me for as long as they wont bother me i guess

In America it is quite prevalent and I mind my business. Some cultures may find it repugnant. In my opinion, it is the couples business and if that is how they keep the fire in their relationship going, go ahead. But I do draw the line when it starts to go too far if you know what I mean. In short, if it bothers you, look away. You dont have to look at them or pay attention.

I live in Manila and PDA is generally accepted over here. It's not even limited to one social class. Everyone does it, whether in school, in the mall, on the streets, in the theater, etc. We're adopting western culture so fast that over the past year, Maria Clara-like women have gone almost extinct. Personally, I feel that PDA is a good thing and not offensive at all, unless you make out too long...

Well there are a lot of people who do that here. I'm really not against it but couples should now their limits in showing affection for each other. I remember one time when I was at the park, I saw a couple kissing each other. At first it was ok because it was just a smack but later I already saw the girl lying on her back. The park was full of trees but they don't know that people could still see them. I just walked away and maybe they would learn their lesson.

we Filipinos arent just used to it...thats why we are affected when we see some of the couples showin public display of affection..yeah we see them everywhere now..so its normal for me now.. =)