i use to work as a hairdresser

What gets me is when women bad talk their husbands, I think to myself..why are you with him if he is so bad. I think it sometimes make her look not so smart to be with somebody like that or to put up with that crap. I have never been one to talk bad about my husband like that, I do admit there where times, then I would only talk to my best friend or my stepdaughter. I never wanted people to think bad about my husband. Some people just like to b!tch.

Well... I think in every workplace has it's own secret. I mean, let's take an example of my lecturer. She never told anyone about what's happening to her students, but she always knew why a student never come again to the class, or how a student should be handled... she listened so many stories about students... like you, you get so many stories from housewives. Actually, there is many unhappy people in this world, we just never knew because everyone is wearing their mask. They just want to be looked happy.. but nobody ever know what's inside their heart

it is true. there are many marriages with out love. i ahve seen in many cases women are compelle dto get married, even without love. in some cultures it is prevalent.

Well back in the sixties and seventies and before that, women did not make as much as men. And there was the custom of some families in taking the pay from the girls and not the boys (that was common in the Old Country and it carried over here.) Girls did not get paid as much as boys and so many times they married out of necessity not out of love. Then there is the raising children, and being out of the workforce so you marry someone you are truly not in love with - like he is a good friend and you get along, but there are no sparks. Also with the widows, back in the sixties and seventies, you were expected to stay home and be a housewife even if you were unable to have children. So what we have is these women who would have loved to work part time, who married someone because they did not have the money to get a better education, go to university, etc. And they did not have the opportunity to wait. So they married the first one who came along or the only one who asked them because they could not make it financially by waiting until Prince Charming appeared. Then there is divorce, etc.

Hi slickcut, [i]I guess this is very possible and have heard news about this..But, for my personal experience as to my friends, office mates and relatives, I know they marry for one reason, LOVE but for some unavoidable circumstances like differences, attitude, priorities in life, relationship tends to change and the feelings are affected! I have talked to several friends who will always say it's not what they dream and not their expectations,there is no perfect relationship but it takes time to adjust really and a lot of factors can be the reason for unhappy marriages...With this, I guess we just don't need to expect too much as well as we have to be open minded that in real life, it is not always what we want to happen and we have to know how to dance with the music! Great that they are trusting you with that and I am sure after venting out, they will at least feel a little bit better![/i]

There are many unhappy married women because they choose to. If you are not happy with the relationship you should do something about it. Work hard with your partner to make your relationship happy. It is always a choice. Never a destiny.

I think hairdressers are kind of like a friend/confessor. Anything they told you would not get back to their husbands and probably not to any friends/family members. Its like you are so intimate with their hair (a very personal thing for lots of women) they feel like you are also close to the rest of their lives. I, for one, only go to places like Supercuts once or twice a year so I have never developed a relationship with a hairdresser.

well...i think that its the best part of ur profession...well..i think women tend to just spill out watever they have in their mind...in that way...i dont think...any man..is also happy with these marriages...

I am rather curious too, why most women would tell their hairdressers, secrets that even their nearest and dearest do not know. And they don't mind if there are other customers around. I've heard a number of ladies talking about their loves and marriages, while I was there, having my hair cut or treated. Coming back to your question - why do people marry if they are not in love? It's mind boggling, right? Well, I suppose they were in love at first, and then love flew out the window as the years go by. Or like you said, for security, companionship, peer pressure!

most of that woman who got seperated might be cheated by their husband. getting another one for a partner might be one of the reason to make them happy again. not just because they want to haver partner in bed. but, maybe they want to be with someone not just to help them pay the bills. im separated im looking for a partner again. why? its for companionship. of course if my daughter got married and have family of her own. ill be left alone and thats sad. thats why i want to have a partner again to be with for my companion.

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ya hair dressers get a lot of info that most people dont know about.