How long can a girl wait for a guy?

I think instead of dropping all of these hint, she should just tell him how she feels and put him in the position of having to answer one way or the other. Its nothing new for a guy to be nervous or shy when talking to a girl he likes and sometimes guys arent so good at taking hints. I dont think I would wait 3 months let alone 3 years. If she thinks he's worth it, she hould tell him its now or never. Hugs, Tianna

Acturely speaking , i think if is me i camn't wait him for a long time ,if i think he is good ,maybe i will wait longer .but just before the age i can wait and it won't have a bad effect to my fruture!

It depends ,depends how much the girl love the boy .and also depends the situation among the girl. if there are so many guys love the girl and the girl don't love the boy so deeply, the time must be not very long . ok,tell myself. I have fallen in love with my boyfriend since I was a high school student , but we are seperated in differene cities in university for 5 years , but we were loyal to each other , and we even love each other more and more. and now we are going to get married.

People love games I think in the case of your friend she is just involved in this situation to have a game, maybe the guy is just not interested or something like that. I would never wait that long for nothing, waste of time!

Koharu nowadays many girls actually ask the guys and the guys admit to their liking .Since your friend is the more extroverted character in that relationship she could aks the boy rather then wasting time . I think that is one good option which she needs to consider , since from what you said the boy is very shy.Dont you think it will work that way? .. Does she really love him so much or is she looking for other guys too?

Yea, three years is kind of long. Are they dating? If not, i think she should open up to other opportunities. Because if she doesn't, who knows, maybe their game might last up to ten years and she'd still be single at 34. Who knows, maybe the guy might speed it up a bit if there are other competitors.

I think in this case its better for your friend not to wait for this guy. may be this guy is not at all interested for her.I have seen that love should never be one sided. it can't mature that way. it should be from both side.

I waited for a guy for probably a year and a half. He was friends with my friends and we talked on msn, but never came across eachothers paths in person. We started to fall for eachothers personalities and really liked eachother. We talked for maybe 4 hours a day. But we never got around to meeting eachother. There were always stuff in our way. One day he kissed another girl and lied about it adn I was crushed. For the next few months it was rough for us, I couldnt forgive him so wed fight on and off. Finally one day, we said, whatever lets just meet. We had to know what would happen if we did. So we did and started dating officially and were together for 14 months. So Id say, all in all I waited around for 1 year and a half. It really sucks, doesnt feel good, and throughout the whole experience feels like a HUGE waste of time. But in the end I got what I wanted. But if I knew for sure, that theres no way in the end that I could have them, I wouldnt hang on and keep trying.

Why should a girl wait for long if the guy doesn't really want her? Better give up and look or wait for another one to come. No more waiting. But simply hoping.

i tink can be lifetime becoz boys are waiting there dreamgal for lifetime

Waiting for love is actually not a good idea. Love is like opportunity, once it's gone it's gone forever. I think that waiting for love for a very long time like that is actually wasting your time because if they both feel the same for each other then they should have been a couple a long time ago right? Tell them to have courage to tell each other how they feel.

maybe the guy got the hints and got intimidated or felt like his ego's being challenged by your friend....or his like my brother who had this friend who gives him hints about her feelings for him and i asked him why not return the feelings and he just said i don't like girls who spoonfeeds her feelings to me like she's so desperates.... personally i won't wait that long cause i'd rather ask him what's my stand on him and if he can't tell me straight then i'll just have to move on and wait for the right one for me....

I would say that this girl must really like this guy. Three years is a long time to be pursuing someone. I would think that by now this person would get the hint that he is found attractive to this girl. Sometimes in my experience where I have pursued or dated a guy who was very shy or quiet, I would just make the first move and just not look back. Maybe your friend just needs to make the move and go from there. Things just need a little push sometimes.

I would start off by saying that every mouse is not Jerry and so every guy may not have the courage to express his feelings because what males fear most in the matter of love is rejection. So maybe even after getting so many hints from your friend the guy might still not be absolutely confident about getting a positive response if he proposes to her. Or maybe the guy has seen some of his friends having faced rejection from the girls of their interest even when the guys were confident about having similar feelings from the girls side. This can really de-motivate a guy from proposing. I think its foolish of your friend to be waiting anymore for the guy to make the first move. I believe if she really loves the guy she should go and propose to him herself. This will not only open the guys emotional barriers but will also give her an upper hand in the relationship. How many girls can really boast about being the one to have the courage to propose and chance rejection. If even she is hesitating to propose then I guess both are equally nervous about the relationship and this will prove to be a big hurdle in their relationship further in their life.

I think 3 years is already too long. And if she has been making hints and the guy is still not making any move, I guess it's time to move on. Besides, if they are really meant for each other, they will find a way to be together. The girl cant go on waiting for him forever. She has a life too. May I also suggest that if the guy likes this girl, then somebody should hep them get together. Hope it works out.

let me ask, did your friend ask the guy if he likes her?.. and if it is, what's the reason on why they can't be in a relationship?.. that already happened to me, waiting for a guy to be ready to commit into a relationship. although it shouldn't be.LOL. I like him, and no one can stop me from waiting.. but of course, before waiting, I asked him first if he likes me and if there's a chance for us. (of course, I don't want to wait in vain for nothing!).. and he assured me that he likes me and that I should wait for him to be ready.. (because he suffers from a heartbreak that time, and still in trauma in his past relationship. and so he doesn't want to be with me, if he still feel pain from the past.), so reason's accepted.. well, I just don't want to be a rebound so, I will just have to wait for him to be ready.I just waited 4 months, and there, when I am about to give up, he told me how much he loves me and thanking for waiting.. the man I am talking about was the man I am with now.. he's worth the wait and so happy with what is happening with our relationship... with regards to your friend, 3 years of waiting was too long.. she really loves the guy.. so, I think she really should ask the guy.. If the guy doesn't have the courage to declare his love for the girl, well, i believe that he doesn't love your friend that much.. just my opinion.

Well I guess it is really up to her. How long she will wait. Maybe what needs to happen is that she makes the first move since the guy doesn't seem like he's budging. I think it would be better this way cause then your friend won't be waiting around for a few years finding out that it's not meant to be when she could have found that out right now. And not wasting all that time on someone who may or may not be interested.

Well, sometimes the shy quiet types are the best ones, so I would encourage her to make the first move. If she won't then why don't you? If you feel this guy likes your friend and you know your friend likes him, then set something up yourself without making it obvious.. Send her flowers with a note to meet up and send him something with a note to meet up.. something like that... I think if it was me, I'd do something like that for my friend if I knew it could work out. Good luck!!

Hi,It is just like marathon,one year,two year or many years.The time isn't problem if they can love each other .God bless them!Best wishs to you!

Well he is Is oviously shy, but wAit maybe not! He likes her. anda she likes him. Am I right? Well he doesn't know she likes him. Or has a little hint. He doesn't wanna get rejected because he's a man ( and men don't like to get rejected). So he hates playing this game as much as her he just wants her to make a move. WANTS HER TO. Besides this could be a valuable lesson for her!