love more your 1st...what??

Hello shamzy18 I am a mother to 3 beautiful boys. When I had my first child I loved him so very much that I couldn't imagine loving anyone or anything as much. When I fell pregnant with my second child I was so worried that I wouldn't be able to share my love between them but of course I could and with the third also. I love all my children all the same even though I do treat them differently because they are individual and have different needs.

well i have 2 great children and i love them both equally alot. when i had my son he was and still is a joy. he had my attention 24/7.. 4 years later i had a daughter. she was born 3 months early so it was a difficult time for all of us and i think my son felt a little pushed away. but know matter what i still loved him the same as the day he was born so i would honestly say that i dont love my son more than my daughter i love them both the same.

I have four children and I can honestly say, hand on heart that I do not love any one of them more than another. I remember when I found out I was pregnant with my second child and I remember panicking, thinking "how am I going to love two children, what if I love one more than the other, will I have enough love to go around?" As soon as he was born I knew all the answers to my questions there was no difference at all. The same when my third and fourth child came along I just loved them all as much as the other.

i dont know. i have only one child and that is all me and my wife to love. but based on experience i am a first born of 5 children and i think my mom loves the youngest most. she even loves her grndchildren from the youngest. maybe first born is were parents learn to take care of a baby, but i wish all parents love their children eqully.

I think NancieM answered perfectly. My sons are 20 and 5. I know a lot more about children, parenting and life now than with the first. My 20yr old is 'number one son', he was born first, not because he is loved more. My 5yr old is my special son because I thought i'd be only having one after seperation [the 1st time]. I see my 5yr old more often so he figures more in my day to day life, but even though my adult son is too busy now for dad, i'm thinking about him every day as well. He has a key to my place and visits or stays over every week, thats better than some can say. I have 30% access to my 5yr old and i'm learning more each day, and at times recalling old tricks and habits. If you favour one child because they are most like you or easier to deal with, fine, but that is not loving one more than others. One is at uni and working part time, the other at kinder or playgroup, both I call SON!

i cant tell you the difference cause i only have 1 kid. but just incase ive more than one kid. ill be fair with everyone. for me, we parent must not be practicing favoritism. if God gave me more than one kid, whatever the problem of the other kid or one of them is not pretty or not doing good in class. i will still treat them fair. the love that i will give is 100% fair. no one will like it even if your in their position. you will feel unfair .

Well, I have 2 kids 1st girl and the 2nd was a boy, I love them as the same and when I bought something for one I should buy to the another, I don't like to make a difference between them because this will destroy their personality that they build for them selves but the the time. Have a nice day.

My kids are ten years apart my daughter is 14 and my son 4 . I love both my kids equally , with all my heart, But i am one who does give a little more attention to the youngest, my son mostly because he is younger, needs a little more attention, and i know he is my last. But you know what i think it all balances out in the end. I dont love any one child more then the other , they both have such diffrent personalities and are unique in ther own way, I love the good times the bad times and all in between . I just love watching them grow up , and watching them develop there personalities.

NO. My children , believe it or not are 20 years apart. I love them both equally, I see things with my First son that I may never see with my second, I see things with my second son that I may have been too young to see with my first. I think it's all equal, I could never love one more than the other, it would hurt too much!