Showing love to children

Hi yrayne! I can remember growing up how my parents would simply express their love but just telling me. When I helped out or got good grades on report cards, they rewarded me with money. It taught me responsibility and it made me feel really good when I would do something of that nature. That was when I would go and buy things on my own. One day I was asked, if suddenly they were taken from me, what would I look back and say really meant the most to me. There was no hesitation in me even answering that question. Material things come and go. Might be sad... might be upsetting when you don't have those things anymore, but the memories of spending quality time with my parents and hearing them tell me that I am loved... nobody can take that away.

Giving "stuff" to your child is not love. Giving yourself is. Beimg there to meet their emotional needs, knowing and being there for what is important to them - "seeing" them for the great individual that they are. (Even if it is not quite what you had in mind for them). Just my opinion - I have 2 children 21 and 14. I wish you so much luck with your family!!!

I actually do this to my child though I am actually opposed to this idea. I understand those who give their child to be pleased, but it is wiser to train them no to be attached that much with the world. It is still best to train a child in the best way he can be a human being.

you can not buy people's love. that is the only way some people can express their love. my mother was like that but it didn't always work. i think kids have way too much nowadays. it's like christmas all the time to them. i don't think doing that is a good thing. they turn out to be selfish brats & selfish adults. my dad did my half-brother that way. he has lived off my dad for 45 years.now dad is sick & in a nursing home & he will not do right by my dad. he is worthless, want work & still expects everything given to him.

Friend, there is no limit set for what you can shower upon your child. But all the time be careful that your child is not carried away with your love. Child should understand his small responsibilities and should love his parents in turn. This may be silly but a big lesson that a parent could give.There should be always a sentimental relationship between parent and child. This is the responsibility of a parent to create the same on that child mind.So that when he grow up he will show the same affection in return.

I show my love to them by being vocal about it. I say i love you most of the time and always tell them that when I scold them does not mean I don't love them(my kids are 5 and 3) and i knew they know how much I love them, I am a full time mommy so I have no problems with it. WE are together 24 hours a day seven days a week, the only time that we were away with each other was the night I gave birth to our 3rd baby. Well some parents show their love through material things. There is nothing wrong in buying them toys but you should limit it.like us we have a rule that toy is only for reward and we follow steps in choosing what to buy ( is it cheap? is it durable? is it good?) those are the simple questions that i instilled in my kids when we go out to buy their toys. And also teach your child to be thoughtful by showing them how, in that way they would know that you have been thinking about them, like if you are a working parent always give something for them when you go home ( does not have ot be expensive). I spank my kids sometimes but i always explain to them why. I guess a lot of talking to them is one of the key on showing them you love them. Communication is the best!

No, I don't think it wise to just give a child anything they want even if you can afford it. They get a very warped sense of entitlement from the world. We give our kids something really nice for Christmas and their Birthday. Everything in between, they have to earn. When my daughter was very young (under 5), she would watch the TV and everything that would come on she would say "can I have that." I would always just say yes if it was something she COULD have if that was the thing she picked for her birthday or Christmas. This avoided a lot of whining. By the time the next commercial was on, she would have forgotten about the first thing anyway. She still only got to pick one thing for her present when the time came. At first my mom thought I was spoiling her, but just because I said she COULD have it, didn't mean she WOULD get it.