Bottled Up

@lisa0351 (303)
United States
August 12, 2008 2:54am CST
My husband bottles up his feelings and emotions until one day he just breaks down. We've been working on it, but he is getting nowhere. I can tell when something is bothering him, sometimes he tells me, other times he doesn't. Usually he just brushes it off like its nothing, and uses the excuse that he does not want to burden me with it, when its not a burden at all. Usually his problems are with work, things like that, nothing personal with me or he would tell me. How do I get him to talk so he doesn't build it up and let it eat at him? Anyone have a problem similar to this?
5 responses
rkrish
@rkrish (3003)
• India
12 Aug 08
I am too a hubby of that kind you mentioned. We unshare things sometimes, on thinking may be the other cant give proper guidance or the other may insist on updates of the issues or the other should not get scared of real work risk. But if you really interested to help him out. You can ask the kinds of problems a man face in life and segreate and make your strength on the weakness of you hubby. Help and enjoy living !!!
keepklose
@keepklose (127)
• United States
12 Aug 08
i do the same thing i never show how i feel and i can say last week i just broke down and started crying. im 350 lbs and i was crying like a baby and i really dont even know why. something just hit me wrong.
mimpi
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
12 Aug 08
Lisa I think, you are doing the right bit by trying to hear him out. It's very difficult indeed for introvert ppl to let go. It takes time, sometimes a long long time. But do not lose heart try to include yourself in his activities and show your concern. Having said this, do maintain a balanced role by not going overboard with it As this could make life worse. Thanks.
subha12
@subha12 (18441)
• India
12 Aug 08
some people are just like that. they are introvert even with the love of life. they think that sharing the problem will burden them. its better to give them the space they want. when they break down, give patience ear and shoulder to support upon.
sanjana_aslam
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
12 Aug 08
Oh ya .. i go through that everyday ... sometimes mine does not event sleep ... he walks around the house with his zombie face .. i used to ask him why showing me the face .. the more i ask the lesser i get i learned to ignore him and carry on with my own work .. sometimes it works , he goes to office next day and calls me to share with me the troubles