Would You Rather Be Respected or Feared?

Respect is forever and fear goes away as soon as you do not fear anymore, so to answer you of course Respect is the most important one!

I I think I would rather be respected without having to invite that respect, in that way, the respect will come sponteneously without any coercion, hence repect without fear!

Why would I want somebody to be feared ? I prefer respecting people. I think it is hard to respect somebody, you are scared of.

Of course, I would go for being respected. If there will be fear, I would want it to be out of respect. I'm also a boss in our workplace. I may say that my subordinates are respectful since they acknowledged and follow my instructions to them. Fear without respect will just result to damage of relationship. =)

I think respect is beauty and highly embrassed in an organised society. I will prefer to be respected to being feared. Being feared means you are a torn in the flesh of your subordinates. For a feared boss or father,no proper work is discharged in his absence. However, there is that sort of cordial relation between boss/father and subordinates/children and can easily approach you with their problems. So my advice, be friendly and do not be feared

Respect if much more important. Why would you want someone to fear you? In an office environment, a good boss is someone who treats employees fairly, is knowledgable about the company and doesn't go around terrorizing the employees. I used to work for someone that you could tell when she walked in the door if it was going to be a good or a bad day. This person seemed to delight in trying to make her subordinates cry! Not a good situation. We all hated going to work, but with good pay, good benefits, etc you don't want to quit. Perhaps thats not quite fear of your boss, more than fear that she would single you out that day. Thank goodness she finally retired. With our next boss, everyone was much more productive, and the entire work atmosphere was soooooo much better. As far as your children go, I would much rather my children respect me. I think that if a child fears their parents, it kind of screws up their interaction with others later on in life. Maybe they would think being feared gives them the upper hand, that kind of thing.

In the work situation I certainly would want my subordinates to do as I ask out of respect and not from fear. I would also want to work better and harder for someone I respect. I think parents should also be respected and it would be nice to think that children do as they are asked, out of respect for the parents. However, I think that for most children, the fear of how the parents would react is a stronger motive for not being disobedient.

i would rather be respected and looked up to, rather than feared. stupid lowlifes make themselves feared because they fear rejection. no one likes them or listens to them anyway...so they force others to listen to them by fear before they become rejected and alone hated by society...no one wants to associate with. so they get their attention to fear to be noticed.

Good question. I would obviously rather be respected as a person and a boss. But I have to admit that fear works better in some cases and for some people. I find this sad, but true.

Being a boss is difficult. It is very difficult to manage people of different personalities. If I would be a boss someday i wish to be respected. In respect comes friendship and true value in life. The subordinates will also have a good memory of every year that they are under my control. If there is respect, they will work smoothly. People do make mistakes and they should be told about it but by respect too. There is a saying that positive attracts positive. This means that if you do good to them they will do good to you out of respect. Take care

Respect, definitely. It can be hard-earned, but it's more than worth it. I can't even deal with fear from animals; I can't imagine having any humans being afraid of me. A quote comes to mind from Star Wars: Episode One: "Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, and hate... leads to suffering." I'll stick with respect, thanks.