Can people change?

Good day... People do change the question is it for the better or the worse. I think that you two should talk it over and work things out. Having a marriage for 10 years is something and would be just a shame to throw it out the window without trying to fight for it. Good luck.

I really don't know, I think each couple is unique to their relationship. I was married 19 years to my first husband, he cheated 1 1/2 years into the marriage, being that young I wanted to believe in him. For me, once the trust was broken nothing was ever the same, and he continued to cheat and get into stuff through-out the marrage, I see it as years lost and wasted. Again I was young and told the same old things 'it's normal for men to cheat' 'stay together for the childrens sake' bla bla bla. You said maybe you didn't appreciate what he was going through, on the other hand, maybe he didn't appreciate what you were going through.

I really cant understand your problem.. you say you have lived with him for 10 long years you must have understood him atleast by 50% then how can you have this thought? Did he cheat you by having any illegal relation with any other women? I know yes its true when a man is not showing his love towards his wife she do feels everything is under totall loss.. but do you think you can just divorce this man who had loved true for you caring for you these 10 long years will stop loving you and be able to digest your separation forever through divorce? And do you think even if you marry some other guy in life after this man you can make out the new relationship bloom , after all you cannot make the life happy with a man who had been with you 10 years then how can you do it with other man if you have an idea to do? Soemtimes during our anxities we do take some decisions in nanger or without planning just think about the words which i have spoken to you.. it will be really helpful for you to take a decision.. but before that make yourself clear because you shouldn't worry for your mistake..!!!GOD BLESS you dear

i know some who didnt. i dont think people can change. its their natural thing. i think its hard to do that.

I was divorced on my own wish. Of course it depends on the reason why you separate but normally or better in my case the feeling was completely gone. I couldn`t share my life with a person I wanted to leave so badly that I had the wish to get divorced. You have so many opportunities before going to the judge, I am sure you talked to your husband plenty of times. So why didn`t it help to safe your relationship ? Before somebody ends a marriage every possibility should have been worked out and most people do. So if you try to get together again, I wish all the luck for you and that you are able to change your entire life to go on.

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off course people can change even in ten days. change is name of life. if you could have been not changed you could be only small kid

Ofcourse people really change..there's nothing in this world except change right..it's already a cliche..but when it comes to love...love is always there..even a person would change his appearance his attitude or his perspective in life...Love is a constant feeling that will nevere change as long as that love is being taken cared of...

i can change,if i am wrong ,and if i am be hurted,then i will change to get rid of my trouble ,and don't be hurt again. i will abandon everything for me not to be hurted,i don't beleive that the world has free lunch,and i must do my best to get rid of relationship,because it only can bring me more pain .

I say that people change a lot and it's up to us to accept them or to change them again. I think that people should be open that people do change and they should be willing to accept changes within a relationship. However if this change brings harm to both of you you should stay away form that person.

It is definitely not easy to be contemplating divorce. I have been through one already. There wasn't any children involved but it can be painful for something to end after ten years of marriage. I know that personally. I don't think that it is necessarily going to be impossible to get the lines of communication open again after separating for a while. It depends on each individual how they feel about the relationship. Sometimes in life you can work things out and sometimes you need to think if it would just be better to move on with your life. The divorce rate is pretty high. I wasn't aware that 40 percent of women are filing for divorce these days.

I get married when i was 21 and we are almost 1 year living together so far it good.I think people could change depending on there relationship.Sometimes when they are living for 10 years or 20 years they get tired to each other then it means they dont love each other.Theres only rare relationship that stay longer.I think your right that you dont appreciate what your husband doing or maybe just maybe you dont have any feelings to him anymore,Maybe you change and it same with him too.

if a man wants to change for good he should have changed during the marriage itself, not after divorcing then coming back and claim they have changed Don be influenced by him, if you have already started a new life keep to it and enjoy it do not let him confuse you do you want to go through the years of heataches that he put you through ... maybe you are lucky enough to find better love than him sorry for being too direct but .. 10 years with you and he cant give you what you want and once you left now he say he has changed During you married life .. you would definatly talked to him about this and why did he not change then ??? should he not have changed to keep the family harmony ??

I think people should be able to work through their differences and difficulties while still together. I have always believed that love is not enough to keep a relationship together. After ten years he should be able to let you know he loves you on a regular basis reguardless of what he may be feeling and you the same. Men aren't as open to conversation so I believe it is up to the women to say "hello I feel left out...please let me know I am important." If they don't respond then maybe they love you, but like I said before there is more to a relationship than love. You need trust, understanding, appreciation for one another, honesty, respect, and LOVE just to name a few. If all you have is love than you are missing out on a lot.

I think people can change only if they are willing to change for the ones they love. I am willing to change things for my boyfriend that he sees as good changes and the things that I would want to change. I suggest you and your husband read the book called the Five Love Languages. IT seems maybe he doesn't know how to express his love in your language. It is a great book and I know it has helped my relationship and the relationships of many married couples around me.

I think that if you can work it out through therapy then you should do it...afterall, a marriage is a two person thing and it isn't always easy to work it out. At the same time, I think ppl can change but only if they really want to. You can't make someone change and if they don't want to then your only causing yourself more grief. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]

I am not yet married but in my own perception, I believe that people can really change. People if given too much stress in life without any time or space for themselves tend to view the world as full of stress and not worthy to live for. In a relationship, it should be give and take. Give because of love and take because we are also human. If the husband id stressed in money, fallling etc, the woman should be supportive and understand th situation. But the case is the woman is also stressed, the result is filing a divorse etc. My mother told me that the person who will carry the relationship is not actually the husband but the wife. It's because, women view as weak at first but actually whjen the man fall it's the woman who will stay strong. That's why there's a quote, in every man's success there's a woman behind. That my perception smurfettewv, Thank you and God bless!