How long it is fair of time, to decide to live together after being
By sharie16
@sharie16 (2212)
Philippines
5 responses
@pooh923 (94)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
i haven't been in a 3yr relationship yet but i am in an almost 2yrs relationship now. I'm no expert but all I can say if your partner has been giving hints of wanting to tie the knot with you or spending the rest of his life with you then maybe it's time to open up the topic to him and discuss the idea of being together for the rest of your lives. If you both love each other and are stable enough to start a family then why not tie the knot already? If you both want to keep each other forever then begin eloping under marriage... goodluck!!!
@Linda4ualways (2282)
• United States
12 Aug 08
Hello there sharie16. First off, you are going to get different responses to your post because you have a lot of people here who do not believe in couples living together before marriage. Secondly, I would say that 3 years is a long time and in that time you should know whether or not you would want someone to live with you. Like for instance, the man that I am with now, I have been with him for 5 years. We have talked about him moving in with me and I agreed to it because of what I know about him. Now they say that you truly get to know a person after you live with them and that is why I feel that it's a positive thing for couples sometime to live together before marriage. However it is up to the individuals themselves. I hope I helped out somewhat and have a blessed day!
@youngsweetheart (772)
• United States
12 Aug 08
I absolutely agree that it can be beneficial to live together before marriage - oh the things I would have known before saying "I do" if we had lived together first! It can make for some unpleasant surprises, that's for sure.
@Gesusdid (1676)
• United States
12 Aug 08
id say as long as the both of you have yourselves established, if you two have jobs were the both of you can dib in on the rent and on bills its ok , now 3 years is alright but have the both of you been on your own alone without any help ? it could be a problem if the both of you are coming straight out your parents house without any knoweldge of how to be alone how to live alone , get your own you know ? if the the both you have your own appartment and everything than go for it its a given if not than i suggest live in different appartments and experience how it is
@youngsweetheart (772)
• United States
12 Aug 08
It's enough time if you say it's enough time, and if your boyfriend agrees. Some people live together right away; others maintain their separate spaces 5 years or more into a relationship. No one can tell you what's right for your relationship but you and your boyfriend. If the two of you are ready to take that step, then congratulations, and best of luck. If not, don't force yourself to do it just because of some arbitrary time stamp. There's no set timelines in which you have to cross milestones in a relationship; go at your own pace and use your best judgement.
@rkrish (3003)
• India
13 Aug 08
When both are matured to handle a life of living together and the other extras like finance,home making, security and social csutoms.
If all are in right way and there is no changellenges except to start living together, then its the right time to start.
Actually, the good day is the today if all in place.