Who are Real Friends??????
By vidhyavini
@vidhyavini (6111)
India
August 12, 2008 11:31am CST
I actually had three friends... Had some misunderstanding wit one among them.. Little misunderstanding grew as a big fight... What should the other two frnds do???? Aren't they suppose to solve the prob between us... But they din.. One by one both of them went apart from me... Our frndship broke...
Then i faced many probs with my family.. They knew everything abt this.. Still they din talk to me anything.. No consoling words, nothing.... I was left all alone...
Those ppl were wit me when i was happy n shared all my happy moments.. But when i had problems they din turn up.. Are they real frnds???? We din talk wit each other since 3 months.. Should i talk with them?? or leave them????
7 responses
@butterpai (8)
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13 Aug 08
Hello I'm new here in this group and I read your message. Friends are hard to find...that's the fact but if you have them you are so lucky. A friend for me is someone who can accept you of what you are and always there if you need them not physically but more on emotional.
Your friends might not be a real friend all you have to do is leave it as it is...just talk to them if they want to talk to you and if not just just move on they didn't deserve your friendship.
@butterpai (8)
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14 Aug 08
Its sounds that they are not real friends anymore to you what need to do is to move on...you can find friends in the future ...did you know that you can always find real friends when you are in need and during your down moment...they are the real friends that you can count on...and it that time comes...treasure them. Goodluck.
Maria
@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
13 Aug 08
Hey thanks a lot buddy... The same thing was bothering me. Even i had your opinion. How come a friend can leave others in trouble? This is the question that rises in my mind often. I am staying away from them but still something just keeps reminding me of them. And still i miss them a lot. Thats why i apologized to one of my friend in that. But i cannot move with her so freely as we were before.
@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
13 Aug 08
dear vidhya,I dont have a real friend in my life so I dont know the solution.
@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
13 Aug 08
That is so sad. In life, one of the main thing that you should have is friends. Life without friends will be miserable. And leaving any friend who are close you to is more sad. I am in that situation now. You will get true friends. Don worry. Cheer up!!!
@jhenn22 (1242)
• Philippines
13 Aug 08
I guess you really need to talk to them...You ask sorry...You tell them that you are sorry and dont want to let this small thing destroy your friendship...You better do the first move. Im sure they will talk to you coz you are a friend of them. You have to be a real friend to them im sure they are real to you too.
@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
13 Aug 08
I asked sorry to one my friend and talking with her now. But the relationship we had before our fight and the relationship that we have now is totally different. I couldn move on properly with her.
@newar18 (24)
• United States
13 Aug 08
It depends on what the fight was about and how you were acting towards them at the time. If you were being a complete jerk ten you should probably just apologize to them and start talking to them again.
@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
13 Aug 08
Both of them acted so weird... Once she asked me to get out of the room n all...
@laura83 (22)
• Lebanon
12 Aug 08
True friendship means that you take the initiative and never wait for the other party to do it. I strongly believe that you have to take the initiative and go talk to your friend about the problem rather than wait for others to work it out between you two. In addition, you might be surprised when you talk to her and she might react in a way that you couldn't have imagined. The most important thing is to show her that you are concerned about her and about your friendship and that you would go out of your way to return the relationship to its previous state, even if it will require you to say sorry. It takes guts to sya sorry but this small word can do miracles.
@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
12 Aug 08
Hey i asked sorry n all ya.. But finding it difficult to move with her as i did before...
@cooldj (5)
• China
13 Aug 08
ummm, actually i think u need to figure out the real reason ur friends left u by a nice talk.
or maybe they were not leaving u but trying to leave more time for all or u to think about the friendship more carmly and carfully.
about ur family, u can't blame them, for u have already has the ability to handle these things by urself now. their advice can only be a plus.
i can sense that u still treasure ur friendship, then why not being brave to talk first? things r difficult before they r easy :-)
good luck :-)
@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
13 Aug 08
ya is still need them.. Tats y i am more concerned in solving this prob.. Out of those three i spoke with the one i had misunderstandings with.. But i couldn speak to her normally as i was before.. What can I do for that??? For the same reason only I am afraid to talk to the other two also..
@_Robert_ (54)
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12 Aug 08
Hi Vidhyavini,
You sound like you learned English from a text message, I don't mean to offend you but I think you would have more luck with your responses if you left all the letters in the words, it is very hard to read what you have written.
It is possible that your two friends don't want to 'solve' the fight because they might not want to offend one of you and then they become part of the fight too.
I think it would be very grown up and mature of you to talk to your friend and explain how you feel, listen to him/her and apologise.
Good friends are hard to find and shouldn't be lost over silly things.
Good luck
Rob:)
@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
12 Aug 08
Ya even i thought like tat n apologized to the one whom i had misunderstandings with... But still i couldn move freely with her.. And about the other two, i don't know the real reason of why they left...
