Did you regret getting divorced?

I was married at 18 and divorced at 20 and have regretted it off and on for the past 30 years. We were both young and things might have turned out differently if we had gotten counseling but neither one of us even thought about that. It really doesn't sound like you want a divorce, especially since you still love your husband so maybe the two of you should talk to a marriage counselor so that you can try to fix whatever problems are piling up in your marriage? It's worth a shot and both of you could benefit from it.

i've been divorced twice. no, i never regretted it. the second one caused me to move from san francisco back home to a small town in PA and i regret THAT ! that is why there is therapy for married couples. that is why there is a trial separation. do you think he feels the same way? do you think he worries that you two are on the verge of a divorce? if the problems are not major, but it's enough that you are unhappy, would you consider seeking therapy for yourself? perhaps that would be the best answer. you know if you begin therapy for yourself, you can bring your husband at a later time. maybe now is not the time to be so black and white about marriage.

I can honestly say..I do not and will not ever regret my first divorce. I am remarried now. Thou we are having some problems..mainly me not being happy and not enough money. But I compare to my first husband..I think I will stick with this one a little longer. I suggest making a list of pros and cons about your marraige. That means you have to think of good thinsg about yoru marriage as well as the bad. I also suggest talking to a marriage counsler before you do anything rash. Try it by yourself and see if it helps. If your hubby won't go with you..than maybe it is time to split up.

Hi ravinskye, [i]I have not tried that situation but I guess it is better for you and your partner to sit down and talk heart to heart about your situation...Just remember that he is from Mars and might be thinking this matter differently..If that is not very major then for sure, there is a way for you to resolve that! If you're totally in love with him then why are you talking about divorce? Marriage isn't about perfect every minute of the day! I hope you will be able to save your marriage![/i]

If you are still in love with your husband and the problems aren't major then it is not the right time to get divorced - I mean you know if the relationship is working or not but after only a short time of marriage it would be a shame to give up on it. x

Hi. Im separated from my husband. It has been 4 years next month. At first, it really hurt the way we did it. but over time, I dont regret it. Just take it day by day. Have you thought of counseling. good luck

I'm not divorced, but my mom told me several months ago that maybe she shouldn't have divorced my dad (they divorced back when my sister and I were kids). I was taken back. After all, he is the one that had an affair and it ruined their marriage. I tried to make my mom feel better by telling her that had they not divorced I would have never met my husband and she wouldn't have her two beautiful grandsons. I also asked her what would this have taught me, her daughter? That it is okay for a spouse to cheat? No. To me, she chose the best thing to do, even if it meant breaking up the family. I'm sorry your marriage isn't going well. If your problems aren't major, maybe you can work them out and save your marriage.

From the way you are talking I would suggest counseling rather than divorce. You should only get a divorce if you feel the problems of the marriage are irreconcilable. Like Robert Townsend said in Hollywood Shuffle, you don't throw away a Rolls Royce just because it has a dent in it. I know I'm the very one to be giving advice, having never been married in my life, but there are too many divorces going on in the world as it is. Just the fact that you are worried about regretting the decision shows that it wouldn't be a good one IMO. I would at least try working on the problems with your husband, at least find out if they can be fixed, then if they aren't then think about divorce.

it has no place in my life

If your problems aren't major and you are still very much in love, then divorce is the last thing you should be thinking about. Ask yourself if these things that bother you so much are things that are just annoying or things that are life altering to you. If there are things that are just annoying, then perhaps just getting some counseling will help the situation. After twenty-one years of marriage, I can tell you that not being happy isn't a good enough reason to get divorced. You won't always be happy being married and that's just a fact of life. Take the good with the bad and if the bad begins to outweigh the good, then perhaps it's time to move on, but until then, try to stick it out before you do something you may indeed regret.

If the problems aren't major, there might still be a solution.

If you love him and he loves you (you haven't said otherwise), I would suggest counseling. A woman counselor, as already suggested is one option. A pastor would be another. One of my pastors and his wife used to conduct Marriage Encounter weekends. That's a national organization and at their site they do have a free video that you can get. Here's the link: http://www.wwme.org/new.html I have been divorced twice myself, but the first was because my spouse was abusive to me, and the second was because my spouse got abusive to our son when he reached puberty. No one should stay in abusive situations. But yours doesn't sound like there is any abuse involved. Rather than tossing the marriage away - which some think is the easy way - I would find a way to make things better.

I've never been divorced and will never be because I am happy and secured in marriage. I believe marriage is a sacred thing and hence must be fully honored and protected. I suggest you give yourself enough time to think it over. You said the problems are not major but the reason is that you are not happy. It seems that your man is womanizing? Oh well, many husbands do that and that drives a lot of wives really crazy.But not all of them ended in divorce. Many marriage of womanizing husbands are still intact and going. Why not fight for him? You said you are still totally in love with him. How about him? Is he still in love with you? Go and ask him? Sit down with him and talk about the problem heart to heart. Let him know that you are not happy with what he is doing and that you love him so much and you want to save your marriage but it takes two to tango and you tell him he has to dance the tango with you. You try your best to convince him to go to a marriage counselor with you. That could help. Above all... pray! Let God intercede with the pains you are undergoing and trust that he will help you today.

If you are still in love with your husband then you need to fine some way to work things out. If nothing else, try counseling. I personally have not regretted my divorce, but I didn't love my husband anymore, and there were other issues as well. Your situation is different in the fact that you still love yours. Try to work things out.

I've been divorced two times and never regretted either one. My first husband remarried shortly after our divorce and his wife is going through all the same things that I did and we were married over 12 years so that proved to me that I did the right thing.

You need to go on web check out Marriage Encounter with all the speed you can and if you have children take a parenting class Marriage encounters is along weekend sponsored with by the Catholic or Lutherans where both you and spouse learn to communicate your problems then will go bye bye!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have been married now to my second husband for almost four years now. I was married before to a man for about ten years but was with him for about sixteen altogether. After the divorce was final, I did feel a little bit of regret and that lasted for a little while. But sometimes in later years after the divorce has come and gone you could possibly remember why you were not happy in the first place in the marriage. I wish you luck. You are faced with a difficult decision.

First time i wanna know, how long your marriage? If your marriage very long, 10 years, 15 years or old, you're must introspections. However, marriage is everything in your life. Think and see all dimension before decided divorce.

First time, i wanna know how long your marriage? If you was been way too long, 10 year, 15 years or old, maybe needed introspection. thinking again and see around, many factors before decide divorce.