Was the vision you had for your children correct?
By redkathy
@redkathy (3374)
United States
August 12, 2008 6:14pm CST
I have two sons who are now adults. I have great memories of them growing up. I think all parents have visions of what thy want for their children. It's funny when the time comes how different things can be. My oldest son is a very mild mannered guy, and a bit to gullible for me. I used to try and tell him but I guess it was part of his nature, which a parent can not change. Well, he spent eight years in the marine corps. He went in right out of high school. I couldn't believe he joined! He was so mild mannered. Now, he is now becoming a licensed insurance broker. I would have expected him to become a graphic designer or cartoonist. He was very talented in drawing and cartooning. In fact when he joined the service his job was graphics. He submitted his portfolio to get that job before he officially went to boot camp! My second son was a dare devil, and very grounded in his faith. In fact so grounded my mother used to say he was going to become a Pastor. He loved sports, the more dangerous the better, music, writing, and video editing. He is a very sensitive person but doesn't show it. I imagined he would become a news journalist or a youth director. He is in college now, studying digital photography. I was close but still surprised.
So how did you children end up? Did they turn out as you visioned or was it something unexpected?
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7 responses
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
13 Aug 08
I think as our children are growing up we all tend to invision how they will turn out, what their career path will be, etc. I have two grown daughters. My oldest was always 'high maintenance', she was also very talented flute player and even wond a scholarship for college. I always figured she would be playing with a symphony, as she loved playing and could play any song she heard without the sheet music, she could also read music. She has been married for 3 years to the Army, no she didn't join, she married into it, her husband is serving in the Army. Which has made her a much stronger person having to deal with him serving 3 tours in Iraq, 2 since they were married. My youngest, I always figured she would become a veterinarian, she loved animals, was always in 4-H, and worked around animals any chance she got. She is now a mom to a 5 month old little girl, which I somehow knew she would be the one to have children, my oldest was not that much into having children, her children are her two dogs lol. Although they both took paths that were unexpected, they are both independent women, and as long as they are happy that's what counts. I think too many times parents want or push their kids into living their dreams and not what the child wants.
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@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
13 Aug 08
well yeah ..it did but i had a son who almost not make it in finishing college..but because of our never ending support despite of his gullibility as you called it..he did graduated at the age of 27..as the saying goes better late than never..at least all of my children except the youngest (she's in her fourth year in college)graduated and having or starting to have a career of their own..
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
13 Aug 08
I thought my oldest, my daugher would go into something exotic...and she did go to school for a while for international business...ended up getting her degree in Travel and now she is a stay at home mom. My second struggled in school....I really didn't know what she would become. She now has her masters in education. My son...well he was always in a bit of trouble. I just wanted him to live long enough to grow out of his teens. Well now he is just finishing getting his business degree paid for by the company that he works for...has a wonderful wife and a beautiful daughter! I miss on all three of them! LOL
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@zeny_zion (1283)
• Philippines
13 Aug 08
most of it. maybe because moms has an instinct. we can tell in advance what our children will have and will be. im a very keen observer with everything my daughter does. that why i know she'll be a good person. a little bit bratty cause shes my only child but she has limit. she knows what is her limit.
@jaffna (778)
• India
13 Aug 08
yeah ,it's obvious...see but we can't rule our zodiacs right!these situations are often met by us...even ma mother used to say me that when i was young,i would become a architect for ma designing capabilities....but now am an IT student in college..likewise,we can help only our thoughts but not god's thoughts..
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