How Do You Take Criticism?

I do take part in criticism ... but never be a part of mad act. I have seen people loosing control when it comes to criticism... but it always wise NOT to take criticism to that level where you become mad.

yah, that would be good but I think that will always stay as a dream. Not everyone has that kind of thinking and way of concepting how the world is all about. Me, I'm embarassed to say that sometimes this criticism gets into me, sometimes I find myself lost in translating criticism but still in the end I find something valuable...Its like sometimes I get to learn thing in a hard way.

I think it would all depend on the person who is criticizing me. My mood at that moment. And if I agree to what the person is saying. If I am in a bad mood then I would not take criticism from anyone even if the person is right.

Hi, I guess the initial reaction is to take it negatively. But you just have to learn to filter criticisms so you know which ones are meant to help you and which ones are meant to hurt. It's not easy, but if I take criticisms too seriously all the time, my eyes would be swollen.

Me, I personally tend to take it as a personal attack...but I am working on that! I don't like feeling this way when people are only trying to help me so it's one of my goals to take and learn from the criticism I recieve, but usually it makes me feel awful I think because I always try to do things the way I think they should be done without taking into consideration that there are other ways to do things... I'm trying!

Sometimes criticism is good for people. In someways they make a person better by letting them realize what is not good about what their doing. But if criticizing people too much then thats just not right. These kind of people are mostly insecure of themselves. Remember that we are all made different and we like different stuff. Plus, no one is perfect

I always try to take criticisms constructively regardless of how it was said. The problem with a lot of people is that they think of criticisms as negative things. I guess it's also the way that criticisms are delivered. We just have to open our minds to these. It all boils down to taking things positively.

Hi Muelitz, [i]Not all the time I can take it in a positive way...When I am confronted, I will be very glad and open enough to discuss with a friend about it and also listen to their suggestions...But it the criticism will be addressed to another person and another person then last to me, I will be mad and I will confront the person who spread such and ask her why not addressing it to me... When I have comments with my friends, I always address to them so that things are clear, we can't edit the facts as well as it is easy to resolve![/i]

I don't mind criticism if it is offered in a constructive way. Everyone can learn more about themselves from that. When it is offered in a destructive or negative way, it's not meant to help but to hurt the recipient. I don't take it too well when it is meant to be mean-spirited or destructive. I never criticized my daughter in a negative way. She in turn, is the same way. It's not hard to tell the difference between positive and negative criticism.

It's important to have an open mind whenever you hear criticism. I agree that these criticisms may help us become better whether other people are merely telling the truth or just taking advantage of the truth by using the chance to scorn us. After all, we can look at ourselves and validate if you can also find the same fault they're throwing at you. Then we can make improvements but if what you're doing is what you think is rightful but only making them uncomfortable, nothing else, look at your objectives for doing that and go on. It is a reality that not all people may agree on anything you deem beneficial.

Yes, I agree with you 100%! We should take criticism with a positive attitude. I've always told my kids to let me know if they thought I was wrong about anything. I wanted them to know that they were important enough to have an opinion that could make a difference. It probably stems from the way I was raised. My mother was always telling me that I could do better. "That's good, but..." I heard that so many times that I began to always strive to do better. In one respect, it made me a nervous person. But in another respect, I can look myself in the mirror and like who I see because I always try to do my best. If someone tells me something about myself in the form of criticism, I will take it in, mull it over and decide whether or not a change is needed. Of course, there are those who criticize with no other intent other than being mean. Hearing something like, "You're stupid" or "You're ugly" is certainly NOT constructive criticism! For people like that, who are generally just looking for an argument, I will shake my head and walk away. There's no sense in even trying to deal with them and I won't give them the satisfaction of getting me upset. They're not worth the effort.

Hi, there. i think i will look at two sides, the positive and negative. it depends on the attide of the person who criticises me, and also depends on what kinda things. because i do everythig for a reason and i will reason the criticism. And i agree it is very important to have an open mind and embrace all different views...it will definitely help us look at things more clearly and can make better decisions.

if someone will criticize me i should take it a positive & negative views about me, or should i say i will take it as a challenge so that i can prove them that they are wrong, in this i will make my work or my appearance better as before hehehe..

I think I am OK at taking criticism. My knee jerk reaction at any criticism is a negative one. Even if I don't outrightly refuse to accept the criticism I am never convinced the criticism is right when I first get to know about it. And I think thats the usual reaction any one would have. But I always make it a point to have a thought about the criticism and understand the reasons of why such a criticism come up in the first place. It's very rare that I don't get to the reason of why it came up. And when I have the reason I believe its better to work on the issue than to give justifications to the criticizer. I am glad that my hubby has been very influential in my taking up all criticisms positively. He has the view that as long as you are true with your conscience no criticism matters. Now if you get bothered with a criticism then you should first try to rationalize the criticism and then decide on whether its worth worrying about. And if it really is worth worrying about then its worth more to act on than worry so its better to act on it.

well i get criticised quite a bit at home and at work. sometimes i'll fume when i feel that the criticism is a personal attack. but i won't retaliate or say anything to the person. i'll just think about it and sleep on it for a day to see if it really is a personal attack or just something i lack. most times though, i'll think long and hard about what has been said. i will then take note of the criticism and do my best to improve on it. some times i still lapse back to my old habits but i'm still trying. cheers ;p

I tend to take criticism positively and try to learn from what has been said as most times it is beneficial to myself littleowl

Hi Muelitz, Well if some critice me they should have good reason to or I'd get miffed and they have to tell me the truth and then I will be alright. Tamara

different situations have caused me to react with all three of the choices. first, it depends on how the words were said. i do not like to be "put down" and there are different ways of delivering the message in a very nice way. if someone just tries to put me down, i react sharply. but, not verbally. second, if it is someone i respect and admire, i will take the message to heart and know that they want me to strive to do better. i've always been a firm believer that you can say anything to anybody and not upset them, if you choose the right words and body language. oh, and please respect me enough to deliver the message privately, too.