A Universial Challenge
By Rozie37
@Rozie37 (15499)
Turkmenistan
August 12, 2008 8:52pm CST
Dealing with the loss of a loved one is hard for everyone. I would think that losing enough people would make it easier, but it remains the toughest battle for me to face. I will be moving on September 1, 2008. I have lived in this place for 3 years and I am more than ready to go. The only problem I am having to look forward to is saying goodbye to my dear friend's.
It takes a lot to let go and move on with your life. You always hope that the relationship was as meaningful to the other person as it is for you. I am glad that we are not parting in death, but sometimes the pain can feel that way. Although, in your mind, you know that everything will be alright, your heart struggles with what seems like an overwhelming tragedy. Sometimes, moving away from that person will test the relationships strength.
I have lots of experience with loss and I will be pulling on the tried and true in the next few weeks to get me through this. I hope to not be gone from Mylot for a long time, after I move. I will be excited about getting back on and telling you guys about my adventures. Anyway, I will be on Mylot for as long as I can, before moving. So tell me, what are some of you funny antedotes for dealing with loss?
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6 responses
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
13 Aug 08
Losing someone you love is one of the hardest things to go thru. Its even harder when you watch them die and you can't do anything about it. Its a nightmare, a terrifying nightmare.
On to you moving, good luck hun with the move. I will miss you on mylot while you get settled in. I expect a full report on where you are moving and why you are moving. Of course if I am being too nosy you really don't have to tell. I do wish you well in your move. Moving is such a big pain in the you know where. I moved next door after living in the house for 20 yrs., you would think that was easy....NOT. It was still a big job, after 20 yrs. can you imagine all the crap that I had to go thru. I threw tons of stuff in the trash, gave tons of stuff away, donated tons of stuff too. Take care and good luck.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
23 Aug 08
Right now, a lot of it is still to painful to share. I think that I may have shared a little in someone else's response. I am sure that I will be able to tell you guys everything when all of this is over. I have been moving all my life, so I am pretty use to that. I have been saying goodbye too, but that part seems to only get harder with practice, even though I know that everything will be alright.
@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
13 Aug 08
Hi Rozie37! It will be indeed sad to part ways from friends but I guess, you can always see and visit each other once in awhile. I don't like good byes but I guess, sometimes we have to accept it wholeheartedly in order for us to welcome new beginnings, fresh starts and new Hellos that will come in our life.
Take care always..God Bless!
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
13 Aug 08
I heard someone say that the only certain thing in life is change. I need to be the kind of person who embraces change with positive expectancy and not negative regret. I know that God has so many special things ahead for me, I can feel it in my spirit.
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@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
13 Aug 08
Hi dear friend! That is very true my friend. Change is the only constant in life. No matter how much we try to hold to people or things, something will always come up and pave way for it to change somehow. And I do agree with you that there will be more beautiful moments, beautiful things and beautiful people that will surely come your way in your life journey my friend. Keep your spirit alive! Celebrate Life and Give thanks to God for He is Good All The Time!
lovelots..faith210
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@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
13 Aug 08
Mine is usally writing out my feelings in a notebook. That seems to help me and then stop and read my bible and then pray about it. It was rough for me to see my best friend and her husband and their two kids move out earlier this year but I knew that she needed to be closer to her mother who is dying from cancer. At the same time I was a upset over it for a few days.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
13 Aug 08
Your moving? why Rozie if you don't mind me asking? are you going to be ok? do you have somewhere to go? where are you moving to? why this sudden turn of events? I am very concerned!!!!
I know how hard it can be to move places, hell I've moved to two different countries but it really comes down to what you make of it Rozie. It will be hard at first but if you are up for the challenge and have an open mind about it all, then you will do fine. You will miss your family and loved ones, like I do from time to time, but you will in time make new friends and your new place will become your home in a sense (well eventually).
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
13 Aug 08
Awww I hadn't realised it was that bad living there Rozie and I do empathise with you. If there is anything I can do let me know ok? I'm here if you need me, I may not make sense at times or seem like I'm not around as much, but I am here - either an email or pm away ok?
You'll be in my thoughts and definitely in my prayers HUGS my friend!
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
13 Aug 08
At first I was a little nervous, but I have been wanting to leave here for a long time. I would love to get my own place and I pray that God will make that possible. I am in a relaxed state as far as where I will be moving to. This is not up to me, but God. I will search and he will direct me to where he wants me to go.
I have been very stressed out living here in the last few weeks. The administrator and I do not get along, because I am able to speak up for myself and my rights and everyone else basically goes along with the program. I was abused as a child and there was pretty much nothing I could do about it. The abuse is what caused my mental illness. Now that I am a grown-up, if I do not speak up for myself, I get angry at myself and become self abusive. So I really have no choice.
Anyway, in order to get me out of here, he made some very vicious accusations against me. They were so bad that they messed up my sleep, my memory, my concentration, I mean it hit me at my core. I have fought with him for three years and I will continue to fight. I just won't be living here any more. As far as I can see, he and I will never get along and I am sick of trying to get along with him. I guess the bottom line is that I refused to be institutionalized. For me, that would cause self hate and I can not afford to habor those feelings against myself any more.
I am not worried. In situations such as this, I have no choice, but to trust God and he has never failed me yet. I know that no matter what happens I will be fine. I am sure, God is not through with me yet.
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
23 Aug 08
Good luck with your new move girl friend do you have a place to go? I hope you will be happy in your new place.
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@Audreyk1970 (31)
• United States
13 Aug 08
dart board photos seems like a good antedote for me...wadda ya think? ;)
hang in there!!!
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