Do you think moving in before marriage is a good idea

I see nothing wrong with it at all. It will give you both a chance to see what you are truly like, as we all know that people dating are only showing their best Better to discover that you really can stand to be with each other!

For some couples it does work like living in for sometime before they are allowed to get married. It is like trial marriage and if there comes a time they feel like ready and matured enough to be together then that is the time they decide to settle down for good. And if it happens that they feel uncomfortable witht he partnership they could simply say its over at least they have not tied the knot yet and it's more easier to break things off than they are already tied together it rather complicated to really break a marriage up. But for those that feel rather conservative they would rather stay apart and would just stay together when they are already married. That also is good idea if you are really sure that you really know your partner and you are both matured. Plus of course this is the traditional way of a couple getting married are usually accepted by society. Live in relationship are tolerated nowadays but society usually frowns on them when they know that you are living in with your love one. So it totally depdns on you which one you feel comfortable with. As for me it really doens't matter at all.

it actually depends on many factors. social structure, culture are also responsible. Its very good to know the person in term of staying together. but its not possible always.in my country its not so usual

I think that moving in before marriage has its advantages and disadvantages. Yes, it is nice to get to know each other better before you tie the knot and moving in with your partner can help you get to know each other better. However, the downside is that you may end getting to comfortable with your partner that things will become boring and you will both end up not going through the marriage.

you make a good point but also it depwnds on your belieafs

im really not an expert on relationships but since youre in need of an advice well here's mine...." marriage is a sacred thing(well at least for me) & as you know and i think you already know that moving in before marriage is a big nono.

I actually think that it is better to move in, before you get married. When you live with someone, you learn so much more then you do when you are dating. You learn all the qorks, and things that you didn't see before. It's better to see if you can stand living together, before you get married and realize that you can't stand each other. Good luck.

I did it only after we were sure we were getting married. When we moved in I already had a son and would never put him through another break up. I've been married for 21 years now. I think it's a bad idea when the couple is not for sure going to wed. Marriage takes work and a life long commitment of give and take to be successful. I think living together gives the couple an easy out.

My fiance and I have been living together for over 6 years now. I was married once and we didn't live together long before we tied the knot. We ended up separated 5 years later and divorced 3 years after the separation. My fiance and I have had a lot of time to bond and get to know each other. We have both made mistakes but, made up for them after. I am not sure if we will get married or just continue the way we are. Sometimes marriage can actually ruin the friendship and love that you feel for your significant other.

This is the twenty first century, living together is a must for almost every one, but in any relationship it can have its pit falls, some how not having that little bit of paper that says your married makes it all to easy to walk away, years ago if you moved in with each other, it was considered shameful, the man was a user, and the girl was a tart, most forward thinking people have changed there views, but at the end of the day, its up to you, if you move in, and its no good, get out, if you marry, and its no good get out...

i think its a good idea to move in before marriage because it lets you know if you can actually stand to live with the person for your life. You can still sleep in seperate beds and things but you'll still be sharing the space and getting to know each other on another level. It is what i am doing with my guy and it has increased our relationship and helped us become closer. we will be getting married next year and knowing that i can live with him and not get annoyed with his little flaws helps me to know that we can last a very long time.

My boyfriend and I moved in together near the beginning of our relationship. It's been two long years and I have to say that living together can be really hard at times but if two people can stand living with each other for a few years then they will have a better idea of what committed is and they'll have a lot of foundation.

Hey apples99 I think that to move in or not is a question that you should be asking yourself. I believe in doing things that i am comfortable in doing and if you think that you have no hang-ups in the idea of being together before marriage then there is no reason to hesitate. By living together you are going to see if you can live with the person for eternity despite all the negative things that you are about to find out about a person. Aside from that it is your time to adjust on what is instore for you the moment you two finally tie the knot. Although you can always say goodbye after being disappointed after marriage, still it is less hassle if you finds out now if you are going to be comfortable together after settling in. lol :)

No!it's a bad idea. I was raised in a very strict Catholic environment where refinement and decency are the key rules and we always admonished by our parents that living together is undignified, so we never entertain that idea. You will know the other person better if there's respect and trust involved in a relationship, even if you are living together but no respect and trust you still have doubts towards his attitude and purpose. In fact couples being married for 10 years almost doesn't know the real personality of their partners and still in the adjustment period. It is very difficult to discover the inner self of each person, there's only one way of knowing the person well and making your relationship stronger and healthier, that is through prayers, strong faith in God always creates miracles, even if you just know the other person last week then get married next month if your faith is very strong and you come closer to God then your relationship become stronger ever. Always make your faith in God as the center of your relationship so everything will fall into the right place, living together is not a surefire that you will know the real behavior of your partner.

i am also a little old fashioned. before, i would not accept the idea of living in before marriage. my parents aren't into that idea neither. but after my parents separated and when i had so many failed relationships before, my parents and i realized that there is nothing wrong with the idea of living together before marriage. i am already 29 and my boyfriend's 32. we do plan on getting married one day but we're not in a hurry as of now. we're living in for more than a year and really love each other more than we expected to before. it all depends on the couples... they reasons for living in should be in perspective and in the right path. or else, it will just be a wrong idea to be in it.

I think it can be a good idea depending on the relationship and whether or not there was an understanding of each other from the beginning. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship and it's getting to be a little rough on us, and I have a few job opportunities out where he lives, so I'm making the move to move in with him.

For me it was a great thing. My highschool boyfriend and I were together for 3 years. After high school we moved into a house with 2 other friends. We quickly learned that we weren't meant to be together. We couldn't stand living together. The relationship had its ups and downs anyways, but when we moved in together we really saw we were different.

I reckon some will claim I am prudish... but, no, I do not think it is a good idea to move in and co-habitate with your intended. I do not think that it prepares you for marriage, but rather it robs you of a bit of the solemnity of marriage and has us desiring the ends (fruit) without the means. It is the cause of many poor marriages and divorces in my opinion -

I think moving in before marriage is fine. I have been doing it for about 2 years now and I have no problems with living with my fiance. I don't see why people get anal about it as it does help out the situation of being married and having to live with eachother anyway. I guess living in before marriage is more of a thearpy than anything. It is a true test to see if you can actually live together.

I think that if you plan to live the rest of your life with someone you should probably live together first and see how that goes. It's more than a good idea.