AGE doesn't matter?
By pinkista
@pinkista (892)
Philippines
August 13, 2008 1:56pm CST
Do you believe that age doesn't matter? Is it okay for you to have a relationship with the oppositive gender younger or older than you? Or did you find it awkward when you saw these people sweet to each other, hanging out somewhere, etc...
Are you one of this people? How old/young is he/she?For me, I believe that AGE DOESN'T MATTER as long as you love each other. If ever I'll make a relationship with someone, i'll choose 4yrs younger/older than me...ehehe. I don't like to have a relationship with some who's 10yrs gap.
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42 responses
@payout (3794)
• United States
13 Aug 08
Well I thin that Age doesn't matter. Love is Love and Love has nothing to do with numbers or age. People back then like 100 years ago I think use to allow there sons and daughters to get marry at a young age sometime to even older people way older then them.
Like in the movie the color purple even though that wasn't love more like lust and abuse it was a large age difference. I think there are people who are in love and have a big age difference like my parents there 19 years apart and they loved each other not anymore though so yeah. So I think Age is nothing but a number and Lvoe has nothing to do with numbers or age. so Thats just my opinion.. Well yeah take care. ^_^
@belindabentley (223)
• United States
13 Aug 08
It depends a 15 Year old with a 21 year old isnt cool. Many times younger kids are being taken advantage of by older people, or the older ones are preverts... If we are talking legally, then who is to saw. I would go out with a younger guy now, but when I was in my early 20s I wouldnt have.
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@spiderlizard22 (3444)
• United States
13 Aug 08
Age is just a number. As long as they care and love each other that is all that matters. Age has nothing to do with maturity. There are people who take advantage of other people regardless of age.
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@belindabentley (223)
• United States
13 Aug 08
True anyone can be taken advantage of, but for children there are laws that protect them because they are just learning about all of this stuff. They dont alway know what is going on and I dont feel a much older female or male should be dating someone 15- or 16. I thk it is the same as luring in children to molest them. I feel after being an adult 18 + if you wanna date someone 65 fair enough because at least you have some life experience and might be able to make better choices. Kids deserve a chance to grow up and learn responsiblity and get some understanding before having to deside if they should be with an older person. Teens brains are not mature yet and science has proven this.. they cant think like an adults yet on certain instances, including relationships and rationality. So mature arguement doesnt sit with me.
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
14 Aug 08
age really does not matter and it depends on the couple, too. if they are okey with it and do not find anything wrong, then let them be. i don't look at them with so much negativity. it's their lives and they are the ones who should choose what and who can make them happy.
my boyfriend's 32 and i am 29. not much of an age gap and it works well for us.
@Bluepatch (2476)
• Trinidad And Tobago
13 Aug 08
It depends on the individual and thats about the size of it.
I've heard girls rave over realtionships with older men.
They say its the best.
And I like younger women.
Seriously, it depends on the individual.
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
14 Aug 08
true. noone can really say if it is okey or not. everything depends on the people involve in the relationship. we all differ in what we believe in and in what we want in life.
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@maxilimian (3099)
• Indonesia
14 Aug 08
I don't think age doesn't matter, i think it does matter! Well i know that love is blind until it makes a difference age as nothing to be remind, but when you goes to the marriage, this difference could have you some troubles later ...
There's not a big deal when the gap is about 1-4 years old for me, but when it goes to 8-10 years i guess it's not good for the long terms of a relationships
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@srini33333 (710)
• India
14 Aug 08
i think its not gonna be a prblm....bec wen i was in skool i loved a girl who was 3 years older than me...but she rejectd me......ther r still some people who wld like to marry ynger or older guys...
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@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
14 Aug 08
It should not matter, but to some people it does. My boyfriend is four years younger than I am, but I do not care. I am 23 and my boyfriend is 19. Age did not matter in our case. My mother surely did not care about age. My father was 20 years older than my mother, and my brother's father was 17 years older than our mother. My grandfather was 10 years older than my grandmother, and my uncle is a year younger than my aunt. My brother's girlfriend was a year older than my brother. Age is nothing but a number in this family.
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@stcherry (37)
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14 Aug 08
I believe that age does not matter. But you should know your limitations. As for a 19 year gap it would depend if the person if of legal age. I have two children and do not want to get myself into trouble. My daughters father is about twenty years older than I am.
But I do agree if these people do love each other than it should not matter about the age. I have dated both younger and older men. And I found the older men can be just as irresponsible as someone younger. Sometimes I did not know which way to go, I sometimes wanted to just give up. But I know one day I will find the right one. Hopefully.
@StarChild517 (657)
• United States
14 Aug 08
Nah I dont think age matters love is love and love is blind you never know who your going to love just enjoy it while you have it because well you may never have what you had in this lifetime again.
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@infoeaglesforce (49)
• Nigeria
14 Aug 08
Age not make any different in any relationship solong they both love each other, except they are not conpatible. I love to date someone older than me, younger or even of the same age, it does not realy matter to me.
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@lipsticknladdles (814)
• Philippines
13 Aug 08
all is fair in love, may you be young or old. We're free to fall in love to anyone, may he be younger or older than we are. My husband is 3 yrs older than i am, so it isnt a big deal. But my dad is almost 10 yrs older than my mom and they are very much in love to date.
Other people may just find it awkward to see an 18 yr old woman dating a 40 yr old man. The younger person's intention is questioned, why would she date someone that old-is it because of the money? But if these people really do love each other, as long as they are not hurting anyone, they should not mind what other people think.
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@pinkista (892)
• Philippines
13 Aug 08
You've got that point! There are young people who will abused the older ones just because of money. Money is important to them, they don't even know the meaning of love. In few words, they just using this older people for the sake of money. Argh! Poor older people. Yes, we're free to fall in love, you can't control your feelings especially to your loved ones no matter what his/her age is. Thanks for responding.
@teezerob (27)
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14 Aug 08
Age matters only in one direction. When a man dates or marries a younger woman, as long as she is over 18, nobody cares about the age difference. In most cases, it is looked on as if he has done something great. Actually all through history, there have been recorded instances of aging men marring very young girls. King David being a famous example.
I have however,been unable to find examples of older women marring younger men in historical data. Now, a woman is classed as a cradle snatcher if she dates anyone younger and those younger men who marry older women are addressed as MR(the lady's name) and not by his own name
I do not think that it is fair what is good for the goose is good for the gander.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
14 Aug 08
It is personal thing. As far as I am concerned I can befried younger persons and older to me, as well. You need to switch gears when talking and befriending the younger lot and you need to be bit mature and serious, when interacting with senior guys. Sometimes the vibes between two people get so strong that we completely forget about age factor.
@nutanjain (898)
• India
14 Aug 08
[i] even i agree with you that age has no boundaries abd age does not matter s if you are doing or are engaged in the right type of work
and also age has nothing to do with the quality of the work that you are engaged in and also the agae makes you prone to losing types if you start to comcentrte in that part !!?????[/i]
@deltasswat18 (233)
• Singapore
14 Aug 08
Hello pinkista,
I personally believe that age doesn't really matters, as long as it is still in the acceptable range. As everyone probably notice, women age faster than men. Thus, it will be best if my mate's age is either same or younger than me, if not, it will make her feel bad.
Just imagine when a aged women goes out with her husband, everyone will start to thought she is my mother or elder sister instead of wife.
Thus, to safeguard the vulnerable feeling of women, I will try to get a younger or same age as me.
For me, if I ever saw anyone on the street who is dating anyone older or younger, it doesn't really concern me. Ultimately, it is their life, their relationship and their decision. Why should I give my opinion or judge them if I don't even know that in the first place? It is not fair for them to receive such judgment or fair for me to leave such a bad impression or opinion on them.
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@jassybok (21)
• Malaysia
14 Aug 08
Yap!! Age doesnt matter. Age is only a figure. But what matters is that when the lady is much older than her partner. When the lady reach the age of menopause and the man still leads an active life style. For man life starts at forty and woman ??? Have to think of that too.