dad v stepdad

Speaking as someone who has had various step parents, I would like to say that it's great that you have a man who loves your girls as his own. My stepdad sees no difference between me and his two biological sons - there's even a decent chance I'm a bit of the favorite, and he didn't come into my life until I was eleven. One thing I'd like to ask is how old are your girls, and how long has this man been in your life and theirs? In my experience, the sudden appearance of a father figure who is immediately a touch disciplinarian is very rought for a child. I'm not saying he should be the best friend, but he needs to get to know the kids and for them to get to know him before he jumps in with the discipline too much. I don't think it's necessarily harder on male to raise kids that aren't his, except at the beginning - the acceptance phase, so to speak - because of the reason in the paragraph above. Most kids will resent someone they don't know very well disciplining them harshly - particularly if they are not used to it. Try to talk with him, calmly, about how you prefer your kids to be disciplined. The two of you need to make sure you're on the same page to avoid confusion - and as hard as it can be, don't take him to task for his methods in front of the girls, even when you really disagree. It undermines his authority, and if he's going to stick around, that won't do any of you any favors. Best of luck!

Ok Lay of the guy I am the father to 4 children who are not mine by blood. So I raise them as if they were mine. Love is a choice and like your man I choose to love the children as he does yours. You would not want to be in a relationship where the guy didn't love them, or even want anything to do with them. You'd say he's doesn't do anything with them..... It is really hard to be a parent when your not the real parent. The best day of my life was when our youngest called me Dad, because he wanted to. :) What is it you don't like about the way he is with them.