Can you imagine yourself living with neighbors who are almost all your enemies?

Philippines
August 13, 2008 8:41pm CST
Our family is living in a small beautiful place. Before, all our neighbors are our friends. There are times wherein misunderstanding occurs but it will be easily settled down. Just last year, they will not smile to us or even just say hello anymore. The reason why this thing happened is because of different interests. They don do not like the things we like. Another problem here is that our other neigbors joined to them. I never think we are wrong and almost all people in our place know what kind of people we are. What do you think?
5 responses
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
14 Aug 08
I don't think neighbors will just join forces against you without a reason. There must be something you've done unaware that makes them do that to you. I have a neighbor beside me whom all the neighbors around don't like them including me. Almost everybody hate them... know why? They usually came home late and their car which is an old model is very noisy which i think has an engine problem and the muffler which is amplified are loud and too noisy. They came home which is usually in the middle of the neighbors sleep and we feel like throwing some spikes every time they passes us. They are rude and when they got a quarrel with one of the neighbors, they left the house and everybody applauded. You must be sensitive enough to know the culture around so you wont be left out.
• Philippines
16 Aug 08
The only reason why they are joining their forces against our family, I think, is because they have more money compared to us. Based on experience, if you have lots of money, many people will love you. If you do not have money anymore, your friends will disappear. I am only working in the Philippines; I am earning pesos only. Unlike them, they have members of their family working abroad (not nurse but domestic helper). They find it hard to look for a job in the Philippines because they have not earned a degree. We have done nothing to disturb them.
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
Though there were some who are boastful of their wealth, but its not our pinoy culture to belittle a neighbor who has less money. We are a helpful and loving race and we don't feel untoward to any person who has done nothing but simply being poor. You should know the very reason why neighbors treated you that way. Wealth is not the issue, for sure there are things you don't know why they feel that way towards you. I hope you can find the answer soon.
@mimico (3617)
• Philippines
15 Aug 08
Hello there, I've never had this happen to me before. I'm not close with my neighbors at all. We rarely see each other nor do we ever speak, so we don't have anything to fight about anyway. It would really upset me though if I were enemies with my neighbors. I'll maybe want to move out and find a new place.
@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
14 Aug 08
I have never heard of all the neighbours all going together and going against you. You had to have done something to make them feel this way. My family lives inbetween two and one lives behind us that we don't get along with. One neighbour is because of his actions that he has done. One being stealing water from us to water his lawn and garden. (We have to pay for water so when you get a huge bill you wonder why.) As well as he has come over and has stolen my moms flowers. Now how steals from their neighbour. Anyway there is alot there that is just too much to explain here. The neighbour on the otherside is a little weird and has damaged my property and has done several other things. The neighbours behind us have called the cops because of us having a fire. Yes we are in the city but if it is in a closed space and someone is there watching it there is no problem. Another thing they called the cops on us for having loud music. It was only 7:00pm and you are allowed to have it till 11:00. So they have burnt their own bridges with us.
• Philippines
14 Aug 08
gosh i hope that would never happen. i have been living in the same area for nearly 30 years now, it has a nice neighborhood. though i don't know all of my neighbors that well but we do get along and there are no fights or trouble going on. only that one time when a son of a neighbor went home drunk at the wee hours of the morning disrupting the neighborhood with his shouting and cursing with no one in general. glad to say they moved to another city to live in.
• China
15 Aug 08
I'm sorry to hear that it bothers you so much.There must be something wrong about this situation and you should find it out,because neighborhood relationship is important part of your daily life.If you know that it maybe some misunderstandings because of different interests which cause the unhappiness,try to explain and make it clear to your neighbors.Before everything is settled,you'd better keep the thought"never think we are wrong" deep inside your mind and never show it to your neighbors,because i don't think it's a good way to solve the problem,since your neighbors may think it in the same way,then,who will be the one to make things fine?Just don't treat it too seriously,and don't think all your neighbors are mean persons,try to communicate with them, then i think all of you will find the way to be peaceful with each other.Just some suggestins for you,have a good day!