one man woman & one woman man
By jinxky
@jinxky (2248)
Philippines
August 13, 2008 9:51pm CST
are you faithful to your partner? are you a one man woman or one woman man? why do people loves to cheat or should i say they cheat always? why they are not satisfied with their partners despite of loving him/her with all of his/her heart? when you cheat, your partner is faithful with you, but when your faithful, your partner is cheating. i just really don't get the logic of this.
when your in a relationship, are you giving your all or you still leave a few percent for yourself? and why do people lie? they will tell you that they love you, but they are not. i've got friends who became victims of this 'love' as well as myself in fact my friend just broke up with his bf yesterday coz she caught her bf cheating, but we still continue to find our love despite of hurting ourselves. please share your views, thanks
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29 responses
@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
14 Aug 08
Yes I am. I have always been faithful in anything I do (relationship inclusive). To me, being faithful is very simple and I simply cannot understand why some people cannot be faithful. I simple cannot.
This is the reason why I choose to be away from relationships for now. Since I can't trust, I do not see the point in trying to find love.
If love does exist, it will find me.
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@margabandu (25)
•
14 Aug 08
hello! nice topic! we got married in 1988 and we are going to celebrate our 20th wedding anversary in october this year. happened to be we understand each other enjoying our happy married life and we are having two children.
margabandu
www.succeedmyindia.com
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@Ithink (9980)
• United States
14 Aug 08
Im totally faithful and I know he is to me too. It isnt just love that keeps you faithful, it is alot of things. I do think that there are those that cheat just because they arent mature enough to understand what a real relationship is suppose to be. There are those that cheat just because they dont care about anyone but themselves really.
To know that you have someone that is going to be there for you is an amazing feeling and to know that you are "THE ONE" is great. I have that with my husband and I love knowing that after work he is coming home to me and our family.
It is nice being able to go out and he knows Im coming home to him and Im not going to do anything to disrespect or ruin our lives.
You can give all to the relationship and still have a percent to you. We have our own hobbies, everyone needs time to themselves too. I play on a pool league and he goes hunting and canoeing. Being you is also part of a relationship, after all it was YOU that he fell for.
One other thing relationships arent easy and I dont think we would want them to be totally. If they were there would be no work involved and then you would take things for granted.
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@shav9292 (928)
• India
14 Aug 08
let me explain the logic to you....we as general always want something new like a new tv or new computer or new something we cant live with the same old things for long time so we change them.just like we change our cars we change our partners but some times we keep the old car and just test drive the new one.....lol....i cant stop my laugh.
jinxky i am just kidding i do not mean the above whatsoever nor have i cheated anyone in my past.i know it is sad but that's the way it is and forever will be.
what happens happens for good.take care.
good day.
@iambaiyunlvshui (122)
• China
14 Aug 08
yes we sometimes keep some secreat messenge to pur best lovers .this is common .it may be for we need keep some thing gpr only us
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@darlenelove (80)
• Philippines
14 Aug 08
by nature, men or women are faithful. originally its one man woman & one woman man. their are factors that affects these concept or shall we say principle. once you have broken their trust in any possible way...rebellion occurs...then cheating comes next.
for me breaking once trust is like breaking a glass...you cannot put it back, to how it was used to be. a new once cannot replace the old one. no matter how beautiful the new one is, compare to the old one..its never be the same.
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@sweetcouple (221)
• India
13 Sep 08
i was, i am, and i will be a only and only one man woman. i love my husband tooooo much to think of anything else other than him. onlything is he wasn;t faithful to me. well, i am also a human being. i too might have lot of lacunas that he disliked, which i did not reckon to change in me which inturn finally led him in seeing someone else. there is no logic here. it is just mind set. not everyone' mentality, attitude, perceptions are similar. so surely everyone tend to have their own ideas. though at the time of their marriage they might vow to keep up with their partner in all aspects, it becomes very difficult to actually face and adjust to the situations when it comes to practical happenings. so the problems would naturally arise.
@misshoney (973)
• Philippines
14 Aug 08
Hello jinx. I also have a boyfriend, we have been together for almost a year now. I am definitely a one man-woman. I am so faithful (my bf is also faithful) with him because I love him and value the trust that he gives me. And also because I respect him, I would never do anything to hurt him or do something that would destroy his love and trust. I think some people cheat because they give in to temptation and forget (or take for granted) the love and respect that people in a relationship should always have for each other. They cheat because they do not know how to appreciate the things or people that are important in their lives. They will only know what they’ve got when it’s gone
@metal_monkee (930)
• Philippines
14 Aug 08
hi jinxky...
yes i agree with you...i really feel sad for those many cases of unfaithful bf/gf and husband/wife...those individual cheating should be punished because they should be thankful for what they have a loving partners in the first place...unlike many people that are still single and searching for that special someone...
anyways for your question are you faithful to your partner? hmmm well i sad to tell i am still looking for that special someone so i cannot answer that...but if the question is being faithful to friends and employer i think i am both 100%
SMILE ALWAYS...^_^
@metal_monkee (930)
• Philippines
14 Aug 08
ungrateful lots... its becoz of "GREED" and "Lust" i think
hmmm i think someones response you are waiting...^_^
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
14 Aug 08
Well of course my dear friend, I am a one man woman. I love my husband so much and I will never ever cheat him. I know he does love me too and I trust he is also very faithful to me. Well there are really some people who cheats just like you I've seen this scenario in my friends lives as well and oh I see how they suffer because of unfaithfulness of their loved one. Are there really born cheaters? Maybe yes and I suppose they are really not in love but only after lust and flesh. But you are right despite the hurt and pain, let's continue to love but make sure you find the right one to fall in love with. Cheers!
@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
14 Aug 08
I'm sorry to hear what happened to your friends. I am a one woman man really although I have a lot of girl friends but surely I only belong to my girlfriend solely. I think that a lot of people are two timing because they couldn't accept the fact that something that they want is missing with their partner. I see this in a lot of people who I know have cheated in their relationship. Actually I don't see the point why you should go find it with another person because if you really love your partner you would love her even though he or she lacks something right? Also I think that for couples out there please be kind to your partners it is also one of the reasons why many go find another one because sometimes they feel that they are not being loved back.
@tivonshi (110)
• China
14 Aug 08
oh,sorry to hear that.
I guess I leave a few percent for myself,coz i need my life after all.
i don't think this is cheating.
i love my gf,but it doesn't mean that i should pay all attention to her,coz i have a job,i have friends,i have family.There isn't only one person in my life.
@tasneem2006 (2)
• India
14 Aug 08
love is not definable.love is a feeling which can be not seen it can only be felt and understood.Love can be anytime with anyone and anywhere.Love can be of a child with a middle aged man or same age group etc.The love what you are talking of you donot like is common in any educated good family people.But now a days this has been a common trend of cheating each other in relations and that is why movies's script is also being inspired by it.Extra marital affair has become a common issue these days inspite of this some people are not still ready to accept it due to social obligations.You might be correct in thinking that your right that these issues should not be encouraged and appreciated but on other hand it must be correct for the person who is actually doing it.So it depends from person to person because of different psychology.
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
14 Aug 08
Yes, I am very loyal to my boyfriend. I believe in one man to one woman or one woman to one man. People cheat because they never really loved their partner to begin with or they got bored of their partner (which is ridiculous, how can you get bored of the one you love if you are truly in love with them?). Neither of us are cheating on each other, I would know if he was and I would hunt him down and get him if he did. I give whatever it is that I can give when I am in a relationship. If I can give him something, then I give it to him. People lie to protect themselves, but I believe that there is a time to lie and a time not to lie, and couples should never truly lie to each other. I do not think anyone should cheat on anyone, it is stupid. Choose the person that you are truly in love with and commit, or call yourself a swinger and do what you want. The last thing that you ever want to do is hurt someone because you never know how that person will react. If my boyfriend ever cheated on me, I would do everything in my power t get even. Remember "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned".
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
20 Aug 08
CHeating is common inside of everybody.. Everybody cheats, not just in love, but in everything.. ONce one gets the feeling of cheating and not getting caught, they will wanna cheat in whatever way they can, if they cant control themselves..
IN terms of love, love can never be enough, because if love is enough, there wun be any arguements between couples.. And also, we tend to compare our bf/gf to others and thus the comparison makes our heart yearns for something that's missing.. So once that happens, we will wanna fill it up, but not with our bf/gf, instead we find someone else to fill in the small gap which we think its harmless.. So as time goes by, the cheating feeling is set inside our heart and once we dun get caught, we will think it's fine..
And so, it's important to control oneself no matter what happens ^_^ muahhhhhh
@zeny_zion (1283)
• Philippines
14 Aug 08
men are cheaters so they cant be one woman man. they are liars and crazy. im not telling that all men are like that. but most of the men are like that.
@IInsanity (290)
• Malaysia
14 Aug 08
i'm faithful to my boyfriend. some things happened in the past and makes me appreciate him more.
i have this theory about why people cheat on their spouses:
they are attracted to new things.
it is like, when you have a car, you'll of course love the car and always take car of it. but if there is a new car nearby, you can't help but take a look at it. and maybe you'll think it's alright to drive it for a while even though you already have a nice car.