Would You Treat Someone The Same If YOu Found Out They Were Gay, Bi, or Les
By Payout
@payout (3794)
United States
August 14, 2008 9:03pm CST
See I notice ever Since my cousins Mom found out about me being Bi she still loves me and stuff. Well her some which is my cousin who is like my age. Me and him are really cool and get along well. Well every since everyone found about about my secret about me being Bi.
Some people treat me different like, Now I can't even go spend sometime with my cousin all because his Grandma whom he lives with doesn't like People like me. I don't understand I'm still the same person I just told you a secret of mine. I think thats just stupid and people who don't understand that just need help.
At first when my father found out he didn't talk to me for like awhile but, I guess realize I'm me and I'm still the same person. only if everyone can see that.
See today I ask my cousin can I stay a night over there, He asked his mom she said No. When my Brother was able to stay a night they came up with this new rule only One person can stay a night at a time. See my Brother told me if he would of ask for him to stay a night they would probably say Yes.
I don't care anymore if people can accept the decisions I make in my life then forget them. I wasn't put on this earth for them to like me and for there approval. I'm em and I'm not going to change Unless I want to. THE END
but anyway...
-Would you Treat Someone The Same If You Found Out They Were Gay, Bi, or a Lesbian ???
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18 responses
@nanciem (1105)
• United States
15 Aug 08
Absolutley! They would be treated the same way, they are the same person.. would you treat me any different?
I myself am not bi, nor, homosexual, but if I was... would it matter? I think you are right on with the "new rule" it's bullcrap. I think alot of times people are not so secure within themselves, and may even be curious, why else eould they be "Scared", they are scared that it may be something they want to "explore" that is not as readily acceptable in society... which sux!
It is all discrimination, just like in school, eating at the cafeteria.. other kids saying "ewwwww OMG I can't believe you are eating that".. Well yeah I like it, and if people are brought up that way.. it carries on.
I did so happen to like the School Lunches, some people teased me , but who cares! I liked it!. Never hide yourself for fear of rejection, if someone rejects you... move on!
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@gemini_rose (16264)
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15 Aug 08
No, I would not treat anyone different. See I did not know that you were Bi, but now I do it does not change anything!
I recently met a girl on facebook and we got talking and she is really nice and we get on really well. She did not say anything at first, but eventually she told me that she was a lesbian, but it did not change my feelings towards her at all. She had held off in telling me because when she has told other women before they have been horrible to her and stop talking to her. It is not a problem for me.
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@jingbautista (2456)
• Philippines
15 Aug 08
somehow the treatment is different already. they or i mean you have different world already.. i could not treat them equally with the other persons, because of the differences we have. but the respect is still there..dont worry.
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@noreligion (105)
• United States
15 Aug 08
I would treat any person that came out of the closet the same. They are the same person I always knew. Being gay, bi, les does not change a person's personality or tastes. I believe many of your relatives are ignorant of what it is to be gay, bi or les. Good luck to you.
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@youngsweetheart (772)
• United States
15 Aug 08
I'm very sorry that you're facing that in your life; it's not an easy thing to tell people to begin with, but to have people you love treat you differently or even reject you is horrible.
I had a friend in high school, and after I graduated he came to visit me and spend a couple days at my place. While he was there, he told me that he was gay - I was one of the first people he came out to. I was not terribly surprised. I love him the same and he's still one of my best friends - the only difference is that we make some REALLY inappropriate jokes with each other, although even that is not much different, merely the nature of the jokes changed. ;) Since then two of my other friends have come out, and I adore them both. Just because they happen to like men instead of women makes no difference to me.
In many cases, I think loved ones have a hard time dealing with a person coming out not because they suddenly think the person has changed, but because they are afraid of the difficult life ahead of their loved one. I have two children, and I can assure you I would love them just the same if they were gay, straight, bi, whatever - but I hope they are straight, not because I couldn't accept anything else, but because their life will be so much harder if they are not due to all the bigotry, prejudice, and flat out hate of homosexuals. But if one my kids were gay, I would welcome them AND the person they love into my home with open arms.
I hope you make it through this difficult time, and that the people who love you come around. Good luck!
@urcheekyangel (438)
• Philippines
15 Aug 08
we should treat them the samething as we treat others, for they are still human like us, they wanted to be treated equally, of course! everyone does!...
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
15 Aug 08
I wouldn't treat anyone different. My friends son just came out to them not to long ago. She is having a little trouble with it but she still loves him and supports him. I also recently found out a family friend has come out too. He has been like a brother to me. I still love him and support him. I haven't actually been around him since he came out because we live a few hours away, so it might be ackward at first, but it always is lol. I'm sorry that some of your family is having a hard time with it. You're right, they can either except it or not, but you are still you.
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@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
15 Aug 08
Dear friend,
I would not differentiate in treating these people. Until they tend do some thing bad that hurts me. Otherwise they are always treated like others with much of humanitarian considerations. I too even have friends of these types of people and I never treated any bad to them. I hope they too are human only thing is that some of these people are grouped to a minor group that some people in society would let them down in certain times without any justifiable reasons. I hope I do consider them as other people who I see it is some sort of religious selection of friends I do have friends almost from various religions and I do not have any differentiation in the name of that also.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
15 Aug 08
I'd treat them the same. I know this because I have found out things like this about people that are close to me. I don't understand either why some people are so bothered by it but obviously they are. It is people like that who make it so hard for gay people to be honest about who they are. They fear rejection from people that they love and care about. Their fear is real, sadly. Your story is testimony to that. you can't change people and likewise, don't let them change you. As you said, you are who you are. I'm sorry you are being rejected by some very important people in your life but know what? it is their loss also.
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@hayashane27 (153)
• Philippines
15 Aug 08
Hi There Payout,
I always made up my mind not to judge my fellow no matter what race, color, status and what he is as a person.
But about your family not treating you as the same, i think it's just their initial reaction. They maybe surprise as it is out of there expectation that you are Bi. I think being a family of yours, they are just concern about you going the wrong way. But if you can prove them they are wrong by being a better person, they will soon realize that being a Bi is not a problem so long as you are living a good life.
So just hang in there, be good and stand still. Everything will fall into the right place at the right time. Just pray.
Have a good day! Happy Myloting!
@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
15 Aug 08
Definitely there would be changes but of course I wouldn't treat them badly. Maybe I would be more understanding to that person especially I know how hard it is for them. Actually I appreciate those people who are really true to themselves and are not afraid to reveal who they really are to the whole world even if it means rejection from others.
@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
15 Aug 08
I would treat everyone the same. We are all God's creation and I wouldn't want anyone discriminating me either, so I won't discriminate other people even if they are gays etc. We are not perfect and each one has a defect, whatever it will be, we're still humans.
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@moondrop824 (241)
• United States
15 Aug 08
I sure would! I have gay, and bi and lesbian friends and I think they are all great!
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@wantaferrari (142)
• India
18 Aug 08
yes, i would treat them the same...as u said, the way that we treated them before is because of what he/she was like, now just because he/she told u a secret doesnt make him/her any different. Its the same person i liked before.
Sorry about your situation, but u know how people can be conservative in their thoughts. Open minded people are hard to find, so appreciate that they are less fortunate mortals blessed with only a small mind. Leave them alone, and dont change ur behaviour. be the same person, and keep smiling!
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@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
15 Aug 08
It is not the life style of a person what makes him or her who they are. I treat all people the same. They have a right to live their lives the way they want to. People are very narrow minded that think because of a way a person lives makes him bad or good. People should mind their own business and if they don't like the person because of the way they live don't go around them. People are who they are because of what is in their heart not because of a life style.
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@liquorice (3887)
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15 Aug 08
I wouldn't treat them any differently . There have been a few people that I know who have come out, and although I hadn't suspected it with any of them and it was perhaps a bit of a surprise, I still felt exactly the same about them and nothing changed. One of them was a friend at university, who one day decided to come out formally in front of our class! People were surprised, but we admired him for being brave, and didn't really get why he felt the need to tell us all together in this way, lol! But he must have had his reasons, and he didn't seem to lose any friends over it.
I don't think it makes any difference. Like you say, they, (and you), are still the same person as before. And what people get up to in their personal lives isn't anybody's business really, whether their straight, gay or bi. So why should it make a difference to anybody which of these you are? (Hope that made sense, lol!)
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@carrieandjohn (554)
• United States
18 Aug 08
I would not treat anyone any different since I am bi also. I have been bi almost nine years, but I am about to marry a wonderful man. He accepts that I like women and he has no problem with it. His family and mine understand and accept it. They don't treat me any different. If one of my girls was to come home and tell me they was a Lesbian or BI. I would not care. It is their life and they live it the way they want. Happy MyLotting!! Keep up all the wonderful post.