battred girlfriend.
@iceberry_kaye (199)
Philippines
August 14, 2008 11:55pm CST
i use to have this boyfriend. and we been together for 3 years and 4 months.. at first i was definetly verry happy with our relationship. he seems to be very nice, loving and caring and all the traits the girl that woul make fall in love when him. but when on our 1st year he begin to change. he always get with out any big rasons. he always make things big that will make us fight..! months after he begin beating me. he do it to often unreasonable. and sometimes he do it on public.. at that time i still did not mind of what he's doing to me all i know is that i love him, and i always put in my mind that everything is my fault... my friends keep on telling me that i have to leave but i refuse. i came to the point that i get mad at them for telling me what to do. i was so much blinded whith he's love.. on our third it became worst than the past years. the worst thing is after he beat me he keeps on hugging me and saying sory. but suddenly one time i accidentaly saw some girls txt on her phone and it seems that there on. that's the time i woke up from my bad dream. I broke up with him but he don't want to. but i insisted.. he keeps on waiting for me outside our house even at dawn when i look at the window he's still there. he keeps on sending messages that he dont want to loose me. and his sorry for everything. do i have to him? what shall i do? I still love him..
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@happyfeet25 (40)
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16 Aug 08
i also hav dat kind of boyfriend right now and iv been sacrificing for almost 5 years now..in as much as i want to break up with him yet it's too difficult coz aside from the fact that im stil stupidly in love with him, wer working in the same place and it wud be very awkward f wel break up..right now i ask for a space after the last time he hit me..wer in a cool off state right now but he threats me be more bad,so i said that nobody wel now that wer like this and that we wil stil b acting like wer n a relationship..aktuali i cnt giv u a gud advice coz evn in myself, im confused on wat to do..i juz want u to know that ur mor brave than i do..cz evn f u love him, u dared not to bend down of his pleas..but wid me, im so weak that i easy fall in again after all those apologies and etc..wish i cud as brave as u..hop we can comunicate mor..maybe we can both help each other..and i tel u my story is worst..worst than wat i thought of..anywy, juz pray and think of ur future..esp ur future children if ul b wid him...
@iceberry_kaye (199)
• Philippines
18 Aug 08
hey,,
too bad we suffered samething.. I think you have to end you relationship as early as you can before it became worst and before you'll fall deeper to the guy..
:(
@mj_arls (9)
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17 Aug 08
Hi. The bible tells us that Love is patient. Love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is rude. It is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
If this guy loves u, why he is doing that to u? You know if he done to u that during ur boy/girl relationship, He will do that also when u are married. So think about it friends.
@proudmammabear (556)
• Canada
16 Aug 08
I say find a new place to live, get a new phone number and forget him. What is it that you love about him? How can you love someone who won't quit beating you, who is obviously cheating on you and doesn't treat you right? There are plenty of nice men out there in the world, that would give you the love that you so desire. Feeling Loved is a wonderful feeling, but you should never have to go through a beating just to get that feeling!
I say move because if he is not getting the hint that you are finnished with him, and he is still showing up at your place and sending you messages, he could do something crazy like end up killing you.
You are a beautiful woman, that I am sure has a very kind heart, and YOU DESERVE someone who will love you for you and will not even think about harming you in any way shape or form. You think that you love him, but I bet once you move on, once you find someone that will love you for you, after you first learn to love yourself, you will wonder why you ever thought you loved him in the first place.
I also suggest that you seek help by a councellor, because you are an abused woman, and that can shred your mental and emotional self to bits, maybe only making you think that he is the best you can do. Please Love yourself enough to take my advise, he is not worth it, no matter how much you think you love him.
@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
15 Aug 08
if he loves you, why will he beat you?..
if you really love him you should talk to him on why he's doing that to you. maybe he has his own reason in doing that.. sometimes, you also have to use your mind with that kind of situation. think about yourself. you are not yet married and yet he's still doing that..
and of course, ask him with regards to the messages that you saw on his mobile phone..
think first before making a decision. think of the consequences.
@mamuzo (225)
• South Africa
15 Aug 08
You have done good to yourself by breaking up with him, now you have got to be strong and not let him in your life again. He is an abuser and you deserve better. All abusers never really want to let go of their victims. He might say that he loves you and doesn't want to loose you but you need to ask yourself a question "If he loves you so, why then beat you and belittle you like that?" You are still young and single, you can still meet and wonderful guy that will treat you like gold, the kind of treatment that you know you deserve . . . you should never let anyone tell you any different from that. Please, don't fall for his tactics again, if you do you will die! Not physically but emotionally and even psychologically. You already said that you used to blame yourself for each and every fight or argument you had - that is what abusers do to you . . . don't give him the satisfaction, don't let him back in.
