I heard my two year old cursing while playing...

Awww that's so sad. I vote that you talk to your in laws about this. You can't punish your child. She's only two after all so she won't understand why it's perfectly fine for her grandparents to cuss while she can't. Maybe you can leave her in a day care center instead? You'll need to shell out more money but at least you know that your child's education and upbringing is in good hands.

I have the same situation with my daughter who is two also. They do pick it up very quickly if they hear it said around them! My daughter will say the words more if she knows that she gets attention from it, but I am just getting through to her now that it is not nice for her to say these words and now she will not say them if I am around.

Hello aseretdd, If it happens to me, I will do the same. I will not punish him as he is too small to understand but I will talk to the person (whom I think he got to learn those abusive words) directly to solve the problem. I have a problem with my babysitter too. I am teaching my son to speak in English and whenever he learns a new word and starts to pronounce it proudly to others, my babysitter will always make sure he pronounces the same word over and over in my own language and makes him confused. I told her once that I want my son to learn as he can't speak other language with his father except English (and the father is also lazy to teach his son his own language!).

Thankfully I have not had this happen yet. But I am not shy about asking people to watch their language around my son. He is close to 2, and this age is when their language is exploding and they repeat Everything they hear. I would not make too big an issue out of it with your daughter. The more you talk about it, the more intrigued she will become and use the words just to push your buttons. And certainly don't punish her. At most, when you hear her saying the words, tell her those are not nice words, and give her other words to say that are more acceptable. I would, however, talk with her grandparents. Tell them that you would appreciate them not using foul language around her because she has begun to repeat it. Hopefully they will comply and help to teach her more appropriate words.

Oh yes. A nephew of mine shocked a lot of people including thei parents when he uttered cuss word in front of everyone when he was playing with some friends. he was around two or three years old. Oh the parents were quite embarrassed since we all know from who the child heard those cuss words. Little children are like pitchers with big ears. They hear everything and absorb what they hear without even understanding the words. But they know when to say those words because they say them in the same situations when those words were used by someone. You should have heard the parents start blaming each other. They couldn't believe their ears. Well they learned not to surse around their children for sure.

No, haven't been in that situation of yours. But it's quite alarming since you've said she's only 2 years old? She was just starting to learn properly to speak. Gosh! It is wise to talk to your in-laws about what had happened and explain to them how to treat the child. They're parents too and they're suppose to know that. There might also be other factors like maybe hearing those foul words from the neighbors or strangers. You see a child that age can easily grasp things in her mind. So it's good that you're sensitive on how things should be. But and as always, all that would become of our child would be mainly due to us parents and never blame it to others. You have to tell your child that saying such words are bad and should not be uttered by her. You have to tell it to her in a manner that you are talking with a 2-year old and therefore easiness and lightness on the subject and with a little playful attitude should be done for her to properly understand it. Good luck, I hope you're in-laws would help you train the toddler very well and to you to succeed in honing your beautiful angel.

Oh My GOD! even my 3.5 year old niece does sometimes. it may be her mother does so. as she spend more time with her mother, she has learned from her. it is also difficult to make them understand. they are too young.

Hi aseretdd, [i]Environment really is very influential..That is the best thing to do, just talk to them and I know they will understand it! I have not tried taking care of a kids! but, I heard from neighbors..it was more sad in her since her eldest will call her "flirt"! First time the kid utter it, she was hitting him so bad which for me also is not good[/i]!

When my two kids were growing, they were exposed to children who cursed left and right. But oh, boy,, how they were able to select only what's right and proper. I am proud of them, they never learned, or maybe they learned but never uttered such words.

I agree that the child should not be punished under these circumstances. The less fuss made over it would seem to be the b est. I can imagine how shocked you must have been!

I can imagine how shocked and surprised you must have been when you heard about this. Since this discussion was a year back, how's the situation now? What did you do and did you talk to your daughter about it..? I'm guessing she's 3 and getting more clever now like in doing things of her own, playing, eating and whatnot..

They always say the bad words perfectly and pretty much all little kids do it. If she did pick it up at the grandparents you should mention to them what she is saying. Don't accuse, but rather say "We all need to be more careful of what is being said around her." By saying "we" it doesn't sound like an accusation and they won't be as apt to take it as an offense. My middle child is autistic and she picked up some language. She was older than two, but still did not understand the concept of what she was saying and why it was wrong. I had to do something she would understand. Whenever she said the word I would give her brother a quarter. When she realized she was missing out on the money, she stopped. Others may have a different opinion, but I say ignore it. The more of an issue you make it the worse it will be.

i have had the same problem in the past now that my kids know the diffrence i do punish them such as sending them tothe coroner time out ect the bad thing is the will learn it from any where like my son once said th n word he didnt get ti from us because i hate that word so the question is where he haidly leaves are side my guess i messed up and watched something not thinking i dont know so yes i agree dont punish until you know tat she knows it is wrong but she still keeps doing it

I think you made the right decision: talk to her properly and not scold her for something she doesn't understand fully. She's a little kid and most of the things she do are things that she copied from adults. Then talking with your in-laws in order to fix the source of her misdemeanor is the next step. I don't really know at what age kids understand the lesson of "just because other people do it, doesn't mean it's right". I hope she's doing better! Thanks for the response on my discussion!

My older son did it once before and I talked to him. I figure he would be exposed to it from somewhere....so I might as well teach him not to repeat it and make him aware it is wrong than go around stopping everyone who used it when he was around. Since it is your daughter's grandparents....you can tell them to be careful when she is around....you can also mention to them that she has been repeating it. But I would also suggest making sure your daughter knows that you are not happy when she uses it. She might not understand how it is bad....but she will understand that mummy doesn't like me using this word and she will stop.

my little one picked up her colorful vocabulary from my inlaws as well. not that i dont ever cuss, because i have a mouth like a trucker sometimes.. and yer right, the only way to really deal with it is to speak to yer inlaws. if they dont comply (as mine didnt) explain to her that certain words are "indoor words". is how i at least kept mine from swearing up a storm in public.

I have had to tell my son that some times adults say naughty words and kids should not use these words. When he says them I gently remind him and now he is the reminder in the house. It is a shock the first time you hear your child swear especially at a young age. The key is to not overreact or make a big deal out of it because then they will do it just to get a reaction. Talk to her grandparents and just kindly ask them to watch the kinds of words they use around her because she is at an age where she is a recorder and will repeat anything she hears even though she doesn't understand the meaning.

When my son was 2 his favorite things to say were bad words. It was cute at first, but after hearing them alot, it wasn't so cute. I just told him he is not allowed to say those words, that only adults were and he understood. Now he's 4 and instead of saying the bad words, he says the "good" words- like butt, dang, crap, or biatch. He even corrects me when I say a word he isn't allowed to say.

i think you should talk with the in-laws, but she will here these things all her life(and see things). i believe you can and should punish her, but not at first. continue correcting her until you are sure she knows the rules and then warn her that there will be consequences next time,and follow through.

yup..he was 3 yrs at time and we blame ourselves bec our nephew heard it from us u should really talk to ur in laws about it