Can you "forgive and forget"?
By skaterx
@skaterx (530)
Finland
August 15, 2008 1:50pm CST
For some things, I feel like I just can't. Some things still make me angry, like if someone has betrayed or hurt me in anyway. I try to forgive them and move on, and that part is ok, but I don't think I ever really "forget" that, even if I think about it, the hurt is still there.
What is it like for you? Can you "forgive and forget" like the saying goes?
2 responses
@ThisBeIt (22)
• United States
15 Aug 08
I can usually forgive and forget when people do stuff, it might take a while, but I can. I think that a big part of forgetting is to not hold a grudge. With big things, it might be impossible to 'forget' what they did, but if you can forgive them and treat them like nothing ever happened, it's as good as forgotten.
@skaterx (530)
• Finland
15 Aug 08
Yeah, i think the reason its hard to forget is maybe we have a built-in mechanism to protect us from harm, say like we notice something that has hurt us before, we remember it because it's trying to protect us from similar situations in the future. I was wondering if the quote was just a cliche. I know it feels nice to forgive and forget, but i can basically forgive but honestly, if its a big thing I don't just forget it. If someone seriously betrays you and hurts you, i think you remember that, even if you want to forget it i think.
@tapnaroy12 (875)
• India
15 Aug 08
hi skaterx
Well, it all depends whom i have to forgive and forget. A stranger? or a friend or a relative.
Certainly if someone very close to me hurts me, i'll easily forgive him/her. But I'll forget it easily if I find a sense of guiltyness in him/her. Otherwise, it'll take time to forget.
For someone who isn't much related to me I may or may forgive at all but certainly quickly forget the incident.
