Surprising Dad...

Slepart, you might be surprised to find that your dad has been longing to be closer to you. no matter what kind of personality type he is, he probably is thinking a lot of the same ways you are. he probably feels even more so than you, that he has let you down in many ways as a father. so if you do innitiate something affectionate he will soften his heart and open him up to decide to take action and build the relationship. just be careful to do it with real love as motivation, because love conquers all. be careful and sincere in choosing but don,t spend a lot of money. just give it much thought. 1. what does he like to do.,2. what have you both always enjoyed together.,3. what project or hobby does he enjoy,etc. if he is a busy body and you think he might not take it seriously or brush your attempt off, then write him a nice,positive letter or get him away from everything, if you find it uncomfortable to tell him you love him(was hard for me) do it anyway. make yourself say it.in fact, do this first before you show him what you have for him. then he will be more apt to take it as seriously as you are. good luck. hope i helped. and give no thought to embarassment, it can keep us from a lot of big things.

Its good that you are gifting him something on his bday.

Can do what my mom did with me. I was the kid that never got in trouble and she ran after ther others because well they were in troble all the time then my younger sister had kids so then she babysat and then my brothers kids. My one day out of the blues put her arm around me and sat I hope you know I love you so much. I just didn't have to chase after you like I did you sisters and your brother. I knew through the years she loved me was no doubt but it was nice to hear it and we got closer after that. I bonded with her and got to spen a lot of time with her the last 5 years of her life. So please try to come up with the worlds to let him know you love him. They aren't with us forever and you will miss him greatly when he is gone.

Why don't you arrange to do something with just your dad on that day? (or maybe plan it on a day close to his birthday) like, inviting him to a game to one of his favorite teams... or maybe going to a place that you know your dad really likes. With that, it wouldn't be too demostrative (methinks you're not the showy type huh?) You can also maybe take him to a dinner somewhere and the two of you sort of bond.... What else? Throwing a small birthday bash with his friends and loved ones would also be nice. There are endless possibilities... You know your dad best so you can actually make the final decision. Don't worry about looking to demostrative or affectionate. My standing has always been show what you feel before it's too late. You can take it from there.... Do let us know how things turn out okay? Good luck...