Unconditional Love

Philippines
August 16, 2008 8:03am CST
Loving without conditions, no expectations. Is there such a thing? Love sometimes fade as I've seen it from some of my friends. The sweetness diminishes and its more of an act and an obligation rather than something you enjoy and cherish. How do you keep the flames from burning?
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23 responses
• United States
21 Aug 08
First, forget about "keep the flames burning?" Passion is passion. Love is love. They are not the same. That feeling of excitement and twitterpation is a distraction, a delusion, a lie. True love comes from trust, faith, compassion, empathy, understanding, and a certain toughness to see it through bumps in the road. Passion has nothing to do with love, in my humble opinion.
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• Philippines
21 Aug 08
wow. I was speechless for about ten seconds. I can't utter any words because of what you've said. I really didn't get it at first because I thought it was a negative comment, but in the end I realized that its a wonderful comment.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
17 Aug 08
unconditional love is only possible if you love yourself. This means that you can see the wonderful life energy that flows through all of us. It's impossible to do this if you are judgemental of anyone, even yourself. Each moment of life is the only moment you have and should be filled with the joy of that life. Sure there are things going on all around you but if you can tune in to just that one moment you will find that all is OK, you have no needs and you are free to love. LOL
• Philippines
21 Aug 08
So my love right now is not near this unconditional love. It's because I have doubts on myself, and I am hard to trust anybody because of what I experienced with my dad, he left my mom for another girl.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
17 Aug 08
Well, for me, I feel especially when it comes to Marriage, it is being able to talk about anything, and finding time to be together doing things you enjoy. Before kids come along, this would be taking trips together, and finding things you can do even if $$ is a problem. Also praying together, having a relationship with God together, and allowing nothing to come in between you. Personally for me, it is better to stay single if you are not ready for committment and make sure you know the person you're willing to make that committment with than to jump into something you might regret a little time later.
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• Philippines
18 Aug 08
Yeah I agree, but how do you know if it's the right time and if he is the right guy? Would there be signs or you just know it like crawling for the first time in your life?
• Nepal
18 Aug 08
Love means the aim and the expectation. Love need the way to go and the it give you the result. The love must be meaningful. Love need guidance and then it guides you all. Love is the truth to the way and then it satisfies you . If not that changes to hate.
@zeny_zion (1283)
• Philippines
21 Aug 08
i dont believe in unconditional love. it has always be a limit. cause if you dont do that the guy will abuse you.
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• Philippines
18 Aug 08
yes, if you know how to keep the passion and love growing, and you and your partner are faithful to each other...just love him /her of what he has and what he dont have, love all of him..learn to accept his faults and weaknesses, give and take..=)
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
17 Aug 08
relationships wherein love constantly fades after sometime isn't considered "love", the way i see it. it's just infatuation. real love does not and will never fade no matter what happens and no matter what changes will come along the way. my boyfriend and i have been in this relationship for 2 years and 4 months and have been living in together for a year and four months. i say that despite our differences, our love for each other continues to grow. how we keep the flames burning? we respect and trust one another thus giving us freedom to do what we want with responsibility. that keeps the love alive.
• Philippines
18 Aug 08
thanks for the wonderful response. I can't say for now that you have a love that never fades but somehow I feel you can sustain that feeling for each other. Its not that I'm doubting what you've said its just that you can't still say right. Let's round it off to 5 years, is five years enough to say that your love would never fade? I have seen lots of relationship that went on for about 10-15 years but later on found out that the flame wasn't there anymore or that the feeling that they felt long ago is totally not there anymore. I just don't know... I really have doubts in this love thing.
@shana123 (2095)
• India
17 Aug 08
Better understanding and faithfulness on the person whom we love will help us is experiencing the unconditional love from them and sometimes even if they hurt us if we keep showing our unconditional love to them then we can surely oneday get that love back reciporcated from them.. GOD is the one who never withdrwas HIS unconditional love from us.. and HE rocks forver..
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@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
I have read somewhere that love must come from within yourself and you must have an overwhelming love for yourself which overflows and touches those around you. Very often I get the feeling of loving everything and it is a feeling which is not directed at any person, just a feeling of love for all things on this earth and beyond. Sometimes I just get the feeling of blah.
@snakequeen (1299)
• India
17 Aug 08
There is no love without expectation. Pre-requisite for love is expectation only, at least the expectation of being loved! Therefore you can conclude love definitely starts with expectation only. It is also a fact that love diminishes over a period of time, and as you know change is changeless!
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• United States
16 Aug 08
I'll give an example... I have a friend and I love him unconditionally. That means if he gets in to a relationship and is happy, I am happy for him. Don't get me wrong, I love this man and I may be sad for myself, but I want him to be happy. If I didn't want him to be happy, regardless of who it was with, I dont think it would be real love.
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
Okay thats is really really nice. Out of curiosity are you somehow infatuated or may I say that are you in love with him? Or is he just a friend that you really love as a friend?
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@rocker21 (2716)
• India
16 Aug 08
i dont know :(
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
thanks for dropping by.
@metalhalo (599)
• United States
17 Aug 08
The love between parents and their children is unconditional. I love my son with everything I have. No expectations, no conditions. Love between lovers can be different and I suppose it can fade with time. But I also believe that if there was love to begin with that it can always be brought back. This whole business of "falling out of love" is just hogwash to me. Love takes faith, commitment, understanding and compromise. Love can be the hardest thing we do and it can be the easiest thing too. Those who get that will be able to keep the flames burning forever.
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17 Aug 08
Hi there! I think the best example of unconditional love will be God's love for us. But if it's too deep to explain and very intangible if I would say so, then let's make it simple. A mother's love is unconditional. Try to take a look at the way your mom loves you...better yet, once you get to be a mom yourself, you'll know it from the moment your child is born, you'll feel that you will love this child unconditionally. Well, not just feel, but you have that commitment and fondness of loving your child forever :)
• Philippines
18 Aug 08
I know that God's love is eternal and unconditional just like the love of our mother to us. Simply because God created us and our mother gave birth to us, she's our flesh and blood so why wouldn't she love us? I am pertaining to that one person, who is meant for you till the last breath he takes. A person who doesn't knew you at all then for some reason fell in love with you and loved you unconditionally...
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
16 Aug 08
It's been almost 2 years still I love her each passing days. Love is so broad and it exist with two people who can accept each other for what they are and what they will be,even their mistakes,faults,and what they are lacking... Love is not asking in return,even the pain sometimes you have to embrace it. Facing together life, problems, happiness,and growth. Listening to each other,and spending now and forever... It's like you wanna spend your life together and not letting each other go. Love is a sacrifice that is why their is obligations and respensibility it is part of loving each other. To keep love burning their should always be romance and simplicity. Once you make it complicated that's the time love fades.Have a nice day!
@ellie333 (21016)
16 Aug 08
Hi Rhyannefranz, Unconditional love doesn't mean you have to like what the person does sometimes or even like them but you still love them. I know with my children there have been times where I really haven't liked how they were behaving but love unconditionally. Its is like anything in life it has highs and lows and it is getting through the low times and out the other side that makes the love grow stronger. Ellie :D
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
I always believe in true love. True love never fade. That is the real magic present in love. Despite the many trials and troubles that interfere, it can never diminish the power that love brings.
@fearie (153)
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
yes there is like God's loveto mankind and how parents love u or love of country that's uncondional love it's a type of love u'll give freely no matter what
• United States
17 Aug 08
I think there is such a thing as unconditional love. The problem with that is that both parties have to have that same intention otherwise it will fall out of place real fast
@dong1970 (1572)
• Philippines
21 Aug 08
yes i do believe in unconditional love,this is given by our Almighty to his children and also we got this from our parents and of course from our family