What should i do in my aaaaarrrrghhhh husband?

hi there, u r in the exact same situation as i was some time ago, my son is 25 months old now and when his time came to start to learn walking or even crawling, my husband was very protective and cautious about it, we had arguements also and are still having now over my son, but issues r diff. anyway how i tackled the situation was when my husband was away at work, i had full control over my son and i let him walk alone but be around him to watch over him, and when my husband is around i laid down some old blankets or comforter on the floor so my son to walk on.

Yea, that can be frustrating because when it comes to walking, kids learn it the way they learn it and that is by themselves through experience. But I do think its healthy for both parents to have their own style and even read that somewhere that its makes your kid more well rounded so maybe when your husband is around you can allow him to be in charge with that issue but do it your way when he's not because when he's done and walking you'll realize there are much bigger things to stress about. I am the sort who thinks its ok for a child to bump his head or fall down and yea I do get frustrated when Im in public and my child falls or bumps her head a little and you hear such gasps or people are ready to call an ambulance, not the way I grew up so I feel you there. Still, I think the arguing your kids do not like and just want parents to get a long and even when their infants does affect them and I only tell you through my experience, my youngest picked up some habits from our arguing so now that she is about to turn two were a lot more careful about how we do it.

You know what, let him be. If he's excited about the child, let him feel the excitement. Sooner or later he'd realize he needs to let go, but for now, let him enjoy his moments. You're lucky to have a husband who's more than willing to take care of your little boy. There are a lot of husbands who don't give that sort of attention, you know. Let him enjoy these few years (like 1-2) then start disciplining them both when your son reacher age 3. hahahaha

now you're complaining :p as mom and i have told you a thousand times before, you just do what you have to do, but let joey have his say on the matter. you should let him read the posts in this discussion, they are a good read, and might open up joey's mind a bit about the normalNESS of a child getting bruised in the knee or getting bumped in the head from time to time. i liked one answer here that said their parents belong to the 'walk it off' school of first aid (good one, there. gave you a positive rating). you know mom raised us the same way and as you can see, we turned out okay :) i'm glad me and paul are still not on the i-am-right-and-you're-wrong-about-our-child stage, and when we get there, may we find a middle ground where we can raise svet without having to argue about the rightness of how things should be done. may you and joey find the same, somehow :)

I think you're both right. Children need to explore their own world and learn what's good and what's not. But there's also alot that a 1 year old doesn't know yet and you shouldn't expect him to yet. Kids are going to fall down, get bumps and bruises but if you can help cushion that from time to time then it makes it easier. If your child was heading towards some stairs, would you help him down them or let him try them out on his own and risk him falling and breaking something? Some things you can avoid. Plus if your home is babyproofed then it really shouldn't be a problem. No sharp corners on tables and such. I hope that helps.

I am going through the same thing right now, but my man says I am "neglecting" him when I let him fall and things like that -- try telling him that its a learning thing and it throws you into a fight -- I understand your frustrations!!!

He is such a nice father but your mom who wants your child to be more confident and want him to learn everything by himself thats really sounds good too.. i know both are lovable parents but you people care for your child in different way.. in future atleast you two take decision in oness..and if im in your place i would not definitely see my son falling down atleast i would go and catch him , i cant see him hurt or cry but i guess my guy will be like you who wants his child to learn by himself.. see both are good but watch him over always sometimes things may go wrong sometimes without knowing he might get hurt so always keep a eye on him..

I wouldn't worry too much. I think he's concerned your son will hurt himself badly you know? a small knock or bump can be serious in some cases. I know where you are coming from too and even though I was very much like your husband and my husband like you, my son managed to explore on his own most of the time.

As one of four kids and a father to 7, I tend to treat the very early years the way we were raised. Let the kid stumble and fall; it teaches him to get back up. That's a primer for life in general. Childhood is a cornucopia of bumps, bruises, cuts and owwwies. I'm not saying to be negligent...we've gotta keep our eye on them 24/7 at that age, but we need to let them get strong as they can on their own. My mom and dad were from the "walk it off" school of first aid, unless it was a fracture or something serious. It's probably the main reason that I have been able to deal with injuries without panicking. Good luck!

I always love this kind of topic about babies. I think both you and your husband is right. Your husbands protectiveness is very sweet. That is okay because he is the father and he just don't want his son getting hurt in the process. You are right too about letting the baby learn on his own. He is too young to take care of himself. So you must be there always on his side to assist him on the learning process.

I have passed that time. Now my kid can walk,though,sometime she bumped her head.

well... men usually tend to be more protective because they do not have to do taugh job like the moms do...all they can do to show their care is to be over protective... you are his mom...you know him better...and you should tell your husband that you know your child more than he does... so brig him up the way you want...he will become tough this way...

Father's are like that. But they have to be the ones who understand why a child should do things by himself/herself. One-year-old children are playful and wriggly. They like to go here and there..touch and get things they see. What's important here is, parents are to be right there beside these little kids, watching them not to be harmed. For being a protective Daddy of your husband, it is not bad. But you should tell him, it is part of your child's growing up.