Stuck between two bestfriends

hi jallyjoe...that is so horrible for you both. the thing is your first girl really needs you and it was a crime that separated you two. she really needs you now more than ever and her best friend she be understanding and caring for her as well and put her first. you need to help your first girl thru this.

as you told she was raped.....and then she left, maybe she was really depressed about it, Dont forget her as you havnt already go to her as she wants you dude! Not for pity or sympathy but for love. Go to your first love!

it is really sticky situation. but my idea is do not mess with two lives. talk to her frankly that you are already in relationship.otherwise it will be ruin for all. i have seen similar cases where 3 lives are ruined.

since you still love her (the first one) , and since she is pregnant , i thing you should get her back . now you have her and your son vs the new girlfriend ..!

well, if you love your first girlfriend yet, so stay with her... and try to solve your situation with the other one, dude.

Well, if you love both of them so much, then leave it to chance. Flip a coin and see who it is. If you love the other more than the other, then choose that person.

Sounds like you are in a bit of a pickle. What does your gut or your heart tell you? Who do you truly love? Who truly loves you? Who would risk it all for you? Who would you risk it all for? Who would you die for? Who would die for you? You have to question everything and you have to answer those questions.

I dont know actually why did you leave your first girl just like that even before confirming with a break up? you should have been with her all her crisis if not or atleast should have been waiting for her till her come back.. meawhile you got her best friend now.. but you have to understand that this second girl just came in your life since you were all alone and its like she has taken her friend's place.. so you should get back to your first and forver girl friend now.. being raped is not her problem it was done by someother stupids..Dont neglect your first girl friend,if your second girl friend is not agrying with it just tell her clearly about this even if she is pesturing you just neglect the second and tell your first girl friend all about what happened to you.. and you people get married soon..

If you still love her until now your pass gf, why didn't you understand her that time, you just let her slip away, and now your still in love with her. That's kind a unfair for her. Especially your girfriend right now is one of her friends. You can't love someone that you already move on. Haven't you think of that on the first place you courted and have a relationship with her friend right now. Don't you think that you were just lonely that time and needed just someone to appease your feelings. Pass is pass, now is now!Do you think you should waigh first with what your feelings between the two and not hurting anyone's feelings. In a relationship you don't play with your feelings and emotions and hurting sdomeone who you love. I think you should tell your gf now what you feel and being honest who you really love. I just hope she will understand you more if she loves you. Love is feeling love. Try to think first, not all the time you will use your heart. Waigh what you feel first!Don't me indicisive. Have a nice day!

yes ! the same situation is with my self ... i am also sticked in my 2 best friends ... they both are saying to choose one of us ... because they both are enemies of each other .... i want to be friend of both ... but ... they are saying me to choose one ...

When you and your first girlfriend parted last year,you didn't redeem the love only because she moved away from you.Maybe that hurt her heart.you truely loved her and should certainly look for and persuade her and go on with the love.Because it eas not her fault.And you said you still loved her now,so go and find her and explain the truth to decide whether there is possible to keep on the relationship.

That is a nasty situation to be in.I'm so sorry for your girlfriend.Nobody would want that predicament but if you truly loved her you should have stuck with her.Sure, you both need time to sort things out and you do need to mull things over.I am assuming you've been able to rethink your decision.Just be careful in assessing what you really feel.One way or another, someone's going to be hurt but you have to come out clean.The bestfriend is bound to understand. My situation is not as similar but my ex bf had to choose between me with whom he had a relationship of almost 8 years and a girl he had secretly been seeing for 3 years and got pregnant.He was so indecisive and would choose me when he's infront of me and would choose the other behind my back.I didn't get mad at him and I chose to let go but in the end he had no options left.He was left all alone.He tried to get back with me after some time but I was so numb already and I lost all love for him because he had no balls. Well, if ever you pray just ask for enlightenment and guidance.Follow your heart because it will ultimately make you happy.

You are in the worst ever situation, as BRUTAL as this sounds, I would wash my hands of the whole mess, and rebuild your life, all of this can only end in more tears, and you my friend will be ultimate looser, your two girl friends will probably remain friends, and there won't be a place for you, Buddha be with you...

It is a real sticky situation. Whoever you choose someone will get hurt and their friendship will most probably be strained by this incident. Who to choose is entirely up to you. Who do you like most, and who do you feel most comfortable with are feelings only you know. You must also consider if you can forget the unfortunate crime especially in the future. If you don't or can't, whenever things are strained between you and your first, it'll inevitably come in and you'll subconsciously throw it in to any arguments, which means the girl will feel hurt all over again and things will get worst and most probably things won't last long. But you also have to consider that if she wants you back, it means she still loves you and needs your help and support. Even if you cannot be with her again, please do continue to support her during these rough times as much as possible. It is a tough decision but its entirely up to you. Theoratically, being with your first again seems the right choice, but in real life, emotions and feelings come into play and it isn't that easy anymore. Hope that this helps and that whatever your choice, you will not regret it.

Depends on how much you love the first person and the second...since you had said that you still love the first person, hope you love her more, but are you sure you can accept her with whatever had happened to her, are you sure there will be no nagging later in life after you both getting married, then go ahead with her since she needs your love more than the second one, and also i think the second one can understand because they are both are good friends, i dont think she can stop you from loving her for you are going to accept her after all the terrible things happening to her...so go ahead and accept the first one's love with the consent of the second one

My heart goes out to you as you are really stuck between a rock and a hard place. The problem is that I think you have only gotten the first of a long hard road ahead. It is unfortuanate that your girlfriend was raped and will forever live with that. She also has a child as a result of the rape. It seems that she may have had to endure that alone, as you weren't there nor was her best friend. Maybe now she is starting to get things back in order. I am wondering if she knew already that the two people that she loved were now in a relationship. This will be or is another blow for her and you never know how this will set her back. As I am sure that she will or does feel betrayed. I dont want to blame or point fingers but I would never have let that happen. I've heard people say that you sometimes have no control over where your emotions go, but for me, under any circumstances would I be able to start or enter a relationship with someone that has had a relationship with one of my friends or relatives. In the end you will probally regret this whole ordeal, as because of the previous relationships no matter which one you end up with, you will forever probally be reminded of the situation. I just don't see a happy ending unfortunately. Good Luck to you.