what would you do if your spouse's daughter treated you like you were invisible?

United States
August 16, 2008 5:20pm CST
What would you do if your spouse's Daughter treated you like you were invisible. my hubbies daughter is 27 yrs old. she has 3 kids. she has been a difficult child. She can be sweet but tends to get mixed up with the wrong guys. She was mad at us for 3 years because we did not condone her druggie boyfriend and support their lifestyle. Recently, she has begun talking to her dad again. But she literally does not acknowledge me. Acts like I am not even there. What would you do if you were me? She is mad at me because I once asked her if she were on drugs. I thought this was a reasonable question since they left two of the kids with us and then returned at 4am beating on our door. I always think people keep company with people who are like them. She also called the cops on us and made up a bunch of stuff. She has acted very strange at times and I was not trying to be unkind but was wanting to offer help if needed. I know I am the step mom but I should not be made to feel bad when I did nothing. What do you think and what would you do??
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pam210
@pam210 (344)
• United States
17 Aug 08
What a difficult situation but sometimes you just have to let it go. My husband and have been together for 11 years and we each have 2 older children 22 and 18 and then we have 2 children together 5 and 3. We have been through it all with our 4 older children. We have had the cops called on us by his ex wife when his daughter called her and said we were being mean to her. We have had my stepson not talk to us for 2 yrs and then call us from jail and ask to come home and then after 1 yr got made at us and hasn't talk to us for 2 yrs. We have a good relationship with everyone but my stepson. My oldest daughter who is 22 does not acknowledge my husband as much as she should. When we were married her dad played the pity card that I had replaced him and my daughter just stuck up for her dad. I have told her that we love her and want her as part of the family but especially since we have 2 kids together who are her brother and sister she needs to respect my husband, her stepdad and her siblings father. It is still difficult but with some understanding from my husband and my daughter trying it is getting better. My advice to you is your husband has to have that conversation with his daughter and if she is going to come around she has to respect you and then you may choose to give her a little slack and not expect her to be as gracious as she should but she should respect you and your home. Good Luck.