I'm so worried. She asked me "What would you do if I ran away?"
By tiffsmom2007
@tiffsmom2007 (279)
United States
August 17, 2008 2:53am CST
I was shocked to say the least and told her "I would go find you and bring you home." I thought she was just asking at first like kids do but then I looked over at her and noticed her eyes were red and swollen from crying, I knew right away she was serious. Now I'm wondering did she ask so that I would talk her out of doing it or was this her way of saying goodbye? I can't even think of going to sleep tonight for fear she will be gone when I wake up. She says she hates her life. I don't understand...I don't spank her, ground her, or anything. I know why she wants to leave kind of...she was seeing this boy and they were serious and then he broke up with her because his mother said she didn't want him seeing her anymore. Well, a few weeks went by and they started seeing each other again the mom let their emotions get involved again and then pulled the same stunt "I don't want you even talking to her." I am so mad at this woman right now and lay the blame for my baby wanting to run away with this boy right at her feet. What am I supposed to do? I can't tell the mom because it will only make matters worse. I can't threating the boy for the same reason. Am I gonna have to stay awake all night every night for the next 2 years until she turns 18? I fully believe if my baby leaves I will either hurt somebody or hurt myself.
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@mobilecubie (820)
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
Hello tiffsmom. Well this really sounds serious. Have you to talked to her seriously? The boy's mom doesn't approve of their relationship but do you? I think she just needs someone to talk to you should let her know that she can talk to you. You know how kids these days are and how they handle mature issues like love. All you need to be is open and accessible to her. Some would even say be her best friend and not judge her actions right away. She needs you now more than ever because she is confused (blame it on the hormones). I bet all you really need to do is have a good long mother-daughter talk and all will be well. I hope everything works out just fine.
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@tiffsmom2007 (279)
• United States
17 Aug 08
Yes I approve of thier relationship. This boy is very nice, he treats her well when they are dating, and he doesn't try to push her into anything she isn't ready for. I asked her if she wanted to talk about it and she just said no. I asked her if their was anything I could do to help her and she said "You can't fix this mom." She is sleeping right now, I told her before she went to sleep that I was staying up all night. I'm hoping she will feel better when she wakes up. School starts Monday and they are in the same grade so maybe I can make her understand that they will be able to see each other everyday now.
@mobilecubie (820)
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
Children often says "you can't fix this mom" which actually means "let me handle this for a bit but I'm happy and thankful for your concern and support". The also say "no" but it usually means "not yet". Just be there for her and don't try to get ahead of her decisions or actions. She needs you now more than ever though she doesn't show it. This a crucial part of growing up. And if ever her decisions doesn't conform with what you like, I hope you don't get mad or judge her right away.
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@spalladino (17891)
• United States
17 Aug 08
I think that you should talk to your daughter if she's still there in the morning and try to give her some perspective on teenage relationships. I'm not trying to minimize her feelings for this boy, I do remember being her age, but he's not worth the trouble she could end up in if she takes off and she needs to know that there are dangers out there these days and that running away will only make matters worse. Is there a counselor at their school who could talk to his mother about this relationship and what her objections are?
@tiffsmom2007 (279)
• United States
17 Aug 08
I asked her if she ran away how would she eat, where would she sleep? I also told her she could end up like a girl did a few years ago, although that girl wasn't a run away. She said "I won't end up like that mom!" I told her that's probably what that girl thought too. I'm 100% sure she will be here later today beacuse I'm not going to sleep until my husband wakes up.
