Should a Daughter get married soon after completing Studies
By atibas
@atibas (11)
Nepal
August 17, 2008 5:12am CST
Though the western countries have not been making any kind of force on their daughter's decision, it is still found in Eastern region Countries.
People often view Daughter as liability to others. They think though the daughter is born to them, she is still not their entirely and they need to give her to others in the way people payback long term loan.
Looking at these cases, people take care of their daughter very much. They hardly think whether their daughter is enjoying the environment they have created for her or not but just want to keep here inside a boundary. They want their daughter to do as they wish, follow every norms as set by the society despite caring how useful they are for her career enhancement and life planning. They make their daughter to keep fasting on every occasion. If we say they are doing all these for her betterment, then why not for sons.
They send their daughters to school and then college. They do not force their sons to study any specific subject or not to choose any but the daughter should study what the parents want and where they want her to study. As we can see, most of the parents still dont want their daughters to choose Journalism despite how good she is in it and how much interested.
And after finishing her study, almost all parents force her for marriage with a rich and societal guy. They don't think she might want to work to make her career or she might have her own decision about her marriage..........
All the dreams a girl sets during her life just get ruined................
3 responses
@fleur_petal (883)
• India
17 Aug 08
well its not at all necessary and things are quite changing atleast in India. i have just completed my studies and my parents are in no hurry to get me married. infact my mom is forcing me to go and work abroad and get settled in my career first. the same is the case with all the friends who are girls. even their parents are asking them to settle in their careers...
@snowberries (399)
• Australia
17 Aug 08
That's really great to hear fleur_petal, great for you actually!! I'm really happy that you are not being forced to do something you don't want to, and you will have the opportunity to travel and work overseas. I know so many doors will open for you from those opportunities. :)
@ardenilia (21)
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23 Aug 08
Unfortunately, there are still conservative set of parents in the already globalized world. It's undeniable since some families still holding strong to their traditions and roots without giving a time to ponder that maybe it's time they should become lenient and open up their minds to the globe and embrace issues that can be adapted and assimilated into their own culture or beliefs, at least few issues, few important issues like career, social, marriage & family.
But i do believe that there's not only conservative parents whose opinions strictly based on their existing belief/culture, i guess some parents are just conservative in nature. They refuse to see that their daughters have a life of their own. Their daughters and sons are individuals as well. Daughters have thier own thinking. Gone are the old days where girls are restricted to what their parents authorized and decide for them.
Yes, parents are the ones who gave us life and give us proper upbringing. But they can't decide who or what we want to be. Parents can only show us the way and guide us to which directions we should choose best. But they have to accept if their children choose another road, which none has taken. And good parents would support their children no matter what their decisions would be. And should let the children knew that if things ever go wrong, they can always find their way back to their parents. That will in fact, make the children grow closer, haev more respect and trust their parents even more.
For dear atibas, you're a grown woman and your parents should accept that it's time for their little girl to leave the nest to build her own. Talk to them like and adult would and they should be proud of how wonderful and mature their daughter had become not for how low you can bend for your parents. You're a great individual and it's all because the truist and love your parents have given you. Prove to them that they have raised a great daughter indeed. =)
@cishi1230 (197)
• Philippines
19 Aug 08
i think a girl should only get married if she is mentally, spiritually, physically, financially matured..if she was already able to establish things that will make her a better person and she feels like she's ready enough to face the challenges of a married life then that will be the best time for her to settle down..
