talk or listen?
By skenthal
@skenthal (1020)
Turkey
August 17, 2008 12:59pm CST
i am sure everyone of us gets into much arguments and discussions everyday. some of us try to be more calm and passive doesnt talks too much and only talks when needed, and some of us is more aggressive,talks too much to convince people with him/her, for myself i am in the second group i cant be calm when there is really exciting discussion or argument, i always try to talk be aggresive enough i think my characteristic is like that, what about you? in discussions and arguments, do you tend to listen and be calm or talk more and be aggressive? 
2 responses
@valeria1 (2721)
• United States
17 Aug 08
It depends of what I am discussing about, for example if I know that I am right and the other person is saying I am wrong I start to boil! Also, if someone accuses me of something that I did not do, I will be very mad! In general though I am very calm like you, I can sit back and observe and then calmly come with some bright idea!
@granite_butterfly (448)
• Canada
17 Aug 08
I am a sweet potpourri of both talker and listener. Generally, I listen but also find that sometimes I like and need to be heard. I have yet to learn the gentle balance between being a talker and being a listener.
Sometimes I am passive and sometimes I am aggressive, both of these to a blatant fault. There is work to be done here.
@dannie0821 (42)
• China
22 Aug 08
Yes,I think it is better that we can have the balance between being a talker and a listener.For me,I'm generally a listener,of course most of the time,I will find myself not active enough,it's a disadvantage of my personality that needs to be improved,I'm sure of that.But however,I have a collegue who is on the contrary very aggressive talker.Not reasonablly in certain cases that she thought she was right,I think she just thinks she is always right in everything.That's enough to make others sick,isn't it? So I think how to handle the proper degree is just very important as to communicate with others.
