Relationships after having a baby
By jmtdgtsam55
@jmtdgtsam55 (61)
August 17, 2008 2:19pm CST
I am sure I am not alone when I say my physical relationship has changed since having a baby.I just do not feel physically attractive - although my husband doesn't agree, I am scared to become intimate or let myself relax in this way - the spontaneity has gone, I have to be a bit tipsy to get myself to make the first move.
My husband and I were and still are very close in every way other than the bedroom. We still cuddle and kiss (although not often lingering), we talk about EVERY aspect of our relationship and feelings and he has been extremely understanding, but I often wonder if he would ever feel the need to find a bit of nookie elsewhere. Don't get me wrong I trust him totally 110%, but it can't be easy for a sexually active man to have the physical part of his relationship almost disappear. I mean 3 or 4 times in almost 2 years is not good right??/ Does anyone have any advice on how to get things ticking over again?
3 responses
@beatrizguiselle (1118)
• Spain
17 Aug 08
Hello there! Well, I have no clue about having a baby and how relatioships turn. I understand that after having a baby things change... the body changes. If you allow me to give you advide, I would suggest you sit down with your huband and open yourself up to him (if you havent already). Before this I suggest to sit down with yourself, think about what you think is causing the problem, then ask yourself why? and what can you do to change that. Meditation can help you out alot. Take a day off go away from home, leave your baby with a siter, or someone you trust, just get away from your home for a little bit, go to the park and think deeply on the subject. focus on it and analyse every aspect of it.
Im not sure if this will help you, but i honestly hope you can get thing smoothed out!
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
18 Aug 08
Don't think that your body change after having the baby, it will come back after a few mos. their is a lot of ways my gf has 2 daughters still I find her very sexy. She was telling me that she went really for a work out after delivering her youngest daughter.Having a child is a total fullfillment of a woman. I believe in romance that it should always be there it should not stop not because you already have a child. It bind you both more. Don't think of negative thoughts life is so simple. Just cool down! Communicate with your husband open up he will understand I'm sure of that. Things will come back to normal. Do you believe that their is a post partum of depression before and after delivering a baby.That's what my gf was telling me. She even gain waight she was 220 that time now she's 138lbs.
Anyway have a nice day!
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
18 Aug 08
Hey girl don't feel worried! Everything will go back to normal. It just take time! Their really a depression before and after having a baby. Just cool down! Take it easy! My gf has 2 daughters and she was telling me it wasn't that easy it takes her a year she really went to a gym and workout. She really gain a lot of waight 220 now she's 138lbs. Now why don't you open up everything what you feelwith your husband. For sure he will understand and having a child binds you more stronger. Don't stop the romance. Don't make it complicated everything has a solution. Take it step by step. Have a nice day! Go out with your baby in the park or in the mall. Your husband loves you so much just think that way! Just don't change!
@zeny_zion (1283)
• Philippines
18 Aug 08
when i got married my world is moving just for my husband. but, when i got a baby, i devoted my time for my baby. i dont know why. but i think the baby is more fragile. my husband can take care of himself. while the baby is not.
