What would u do if u realized a friend of yours had stolen something from you?

Sweden
August 17, 2008 4:13pm CST
I have a neighbour and I've known her for about one year now and she's very pleasant and good in many ways but after she had visit me a couple of times I was thinking "something's not right here" I felt it was something with her and I thought maybe she's a thief?But I choose not to care about that because I thought that as long as I didn't see her taking anything I had no evidence..but then..one day I had bought a new packet of cigarrettes and I had only maybe taken 3-4 from the packet and I sat down by the pc and my friend went out on my balcony(where I left my cigarrettes) and she said I'm just checking something ..and I went after her and asked what? And she came up with a really bad excuse and I saw her putting something down in her purse...I snapped my packet and discouvered 10 cigarrettes was left..and I asked her..Have you taken any cigarettes from me? Ofcourse she didn't confessed and was getting very nervous and started talking about everything else...
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17 responses
@34momma (13882)
• United States
18 Aug 08
she would no longer be my friend. my home is where i feel comfort. and i can't have people in my home who don't respect that. stealing from me is just not cool. i can't not have people in my house who i can't trust. i am sorry to hear that someone would take something from you
• Sweden
19 Aug 08
Thanks for your reply and good words..I am so grateful for really having good friends I CAN trust and you're right it's meant to feel safe in your own home!
• India
18 Aug 08
Yes.Really its heart breaking if someone so close does something so unexpected.At the same I would like to say that there are some people who are mentally sick, and this that sickness that sometimes forces them to do those cheap things.Better you first find out whether your friend is suffering or not.Find out if your friend is deprived of anything that she wished to get from the core of his heart.Considering everything if you find her guilty,better not to keep the relation.Always take your precious time to consider anyone to be a good FRIEND of yours.
• Sweden
19 Aug 08
Yes I got really sad but at the same time I know she is disturb so..well well life goes on :) Thanks for you reply:)
• United States
18 Aug 08
that sux i've had my i touch almost stolen same thing it was this girl that seemed pretty nice and all and i trusted her and we were friends for a whole year at school and she asked to borrow it for a class period bad idea on my part she tried to steal that and my headphones and they were expensive ones to that i love. Thank god one of my friends found her and got it back for me. I learned don't trust anyone with your stuff or with your stuff alone lol. Then the next day i had a group of friend that were all want to settle this american style the name of my high school and i was all no just leave it shes not worth our tme. Anyways yeah don't trust anyone with your stuff lol
• Sweden
18 Aug 08
I can't understand that a so called "friend" can do such a thing??!! It's terrible!! Good you got the headphones back but you can never trust such a person again!!
• Sweden
18 Aug 08
I think it's the best too to confront her and keep your eyes open..and trust your intuition,good luck!
• Indonesia
18 Aug 08
wew...i had friend like that...so difficulut... but...maybe i will ask her/him...talk about it..very carefully... nevertheless she is my friend...i i'll forgive her...n hope she will not do it anymore...
• Sweden
18 Aug 08
Good for me cause i dont have that kind of friend,But if i have one and i noticed that she steal something from me then i will be probably ask her honestly and ask why she like to do like this things to me.And i will explain to her that it is not good altittude.
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• Sweden
18 Aug 08
Yes it's not always easy to talk about such stuffs but it's nececarry especially for your selfesteem I think!!
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@ivieigen (98)
• Philippines
18 Aug 08
go to her straight to the point, this is not to embarassed her of the thing she really did but to help her in a way not to get things worst. maybe she has a problem and talking to her might help her.
• Sweden
18 Aug 08
Yes I think that too isn't that tough love?
• India
18 Aug 08
Yeh ! Thats great...
• Sweden
3 Sep 08
Ya?
@Ithink (9980)
• United States
18 Aug 08
I would probably confront the person, first of all as a guest in your house that is just lack of respect and why would you want to have someone willingly in your house that disrespects you? If you really like the person, Id still confront them to let them know that you know and then maybe they wont do it again. Of course you did confront her and she lied to you, so now you have a liar and a theif coming into your home. I would then sit her down and tell her right out you know that she did and you dont appreciate it and it was wrong. I would then tell her if it EVER happened again that she would no longer be welcome in the home, or at the very least not out of your site in your home.
• Sweden
3 Sep 08
Yes exactly you are right why would I have such a person in my house(!) Thank you for your support!!I really appreciate it!
@satyakam (1112)
• India
18 Aug 08
Well friend,some people are habituated like this,you can't change their habit,as she is your friend it will be bad if you accuse her directly,one good way is when she comes to your room,you remain there and dont leave that place and keep some costly things which are small in size out of her rich ,like in closed cupboard .You dont have other way,if you want her friendship .Good luck.
• Sweden
3 Sep 08
Thanks for your reply and attention.I think it has running out in the sand now our "friendship" and I don't feel comfortable with stay in the same room as her all the time and watch my back.It's not right so I just hope she understands that I don't want to be her friend anymore..or else I have to talk to her..
@Mamagee (392)
• Malaysia
18 Aug 08
I will never trust her anymore. The first time she stole small thing, second time she will still the bigger thing and after that she will do the same thing or take advantage due to our carelessness.
• Sweden
18 Aug 08
Yes..that's true:) I don't need a friend like that...nobody does!
• Australia
18 Aug 08
Yeah she is a theif sometimes you can just tell that the ora isn't right with someone and now she has stolen from you that should be enough proof for you. It is not worth it to have friends like that in your life not that long ago one of my so called friends stole my brand new phones that i got for my 21st birthday. Apart from the fact my brother is going to bash his stupid looking face in, i still don't have my phone or the friend anymore... lose the dodgy friends atleast you get to keep your belongings.
• Sweden
19 Aug 08
No I know it's not worth it to hav efriends like that,they are not a true friend. I'm sorry to hear that with the phone,good you don't have her anymore at least you can keep your belongings now:)
@ShellyB (5241)
• United States
18 Aug 08
That is sad. It has not happen to me but I hope that things between you and her get better, it is hard to let someone in your home if you lose the trust.
• Sweden
18 Aug 08
Exactly!!Thank you for those great words I will think about them:)
• United States
18 Aug 08
Dump the friend! Do n ot allow someone to come in your home that you can not trust. You are lucky that at this point it has only been small. What if she collects information about you and does Identity Theft? May other things can happen. My husband had someone else use his birthdate and address when they got pulled over for a ticket. This resulted in my husband having a warrent for an unpaid traffic ticket. He knew nothing about the ticket because of course he is not the one that was stopped. It is hard to correcft issues like this. You could have your credit ruined or even wind up in jail. She could take somthing more valuable the next time. Dump her and if necessary, change your locks.
• Sweden
18 Aug 08
Change my look hehe yes maybe I'll do that:) This was a very good reply I really agree with you I will dump her as a friend!!She's not worthy my friendship and have never been!!Thanks
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@rony1masc (230)
• India
18 Aug 08
you did great thing snatching her bag and found thief. first thing try to understand her its bad habbit. understand her only one time. these guys never change their hobbies at all. i have friends like this. and some of my things stolen from my house too. if u have a good friends other try to discuss with this matter. i usually tells to my friends when ever cause problems.
• Sweden
18 Aug 08
I wish I had done that..snatched her purse but I didn't ..I am a coward..lol But there are no more times and I'm going to watch my back now. It's terrible to have to do that but not all humanbeings are honest..that's a fact.
@p3y5566 (171)
• Malaysia
18 Aug 08
hi..nice to meet you here... luckily.... this is not happen to me.... and i hope it will never happen to me also.. if it does happen to me... and that is the first time to stole my thing i will let he or she go and ask he or she promise to don't do it again to me or others...if i saw it at second time i will call police.... have a nice day and happy my lotting!!!
• Sweden
3 Sep 08
Hi..very nice to meet you too here:) I'm glad it didn't happen to you.Thanks for your advise to call the police,that was a good idea!
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
18 Aug 08
Many years ago I had a neighbor that did this to me.....what happened was really funny in the end though as she took a bottle of perfume that I hadn't opened. Well a few weeks later I went to a birthday party in the neighborhood and low and behold.....the gift she had given to the birthday girl was my perfume....The opportunity was there so I couldn't resist....I said. Hey that looks just like the perfume I am missing...! She turned so red you wouldn't believe it! LOL...she never took anything from my house again.....of course I didn't give her the opportunity to either. I never invited her back!
• Sweden
18 Aug 08
Oh hehe that was funny!! It was very brave of you to say that and not to invite her home again that was very good!!
@sirnose (2436)
• United States
17 Aug 08
Yes,I have had this happen to me more than once all you can do is leave the person alone or just except that this person is a thief and will do it to you again and again if you keep this friendship with her.Sometime it is a form of jealous impluse which drive such a person they feel that you have more than they do and it isn't fair so they take from others,I'll bet that others have experience the same thing from this person ask around because now you know for a fact this person is a theif.
• Sweden
18 Aug 08
Yes I've heard it from a lot of other pple that she's stolen from other friends too.She lives with her boyfriend and she earn her own money but her boyfriend takes care of her money so she can't do something with them.Thank's for your reply:)
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
Maybe you are in too much familiarity. She is so confident that you don;t care if she will get something. Maybe this is not the only time she did it and you seems not making it a big deal when it happened before, so, she was used to it. Well, there are people who are like that. They take advantage of your kindness. The best thing is to confront her and tell her straight that, next time she has to ask..