Is a wife a man's 'property'? Does the woman have to do everything for the man?

Hello marina, Oh! what a disgusting man, my husband goes to work and he does the washing, I don't. I do other housework and I go out with my friends and he does the same, women are not mens propertys, they are human beings and I think he needs to grow up. Tamara

there are a lot of men out there that have this mentality. I cant stand those men. Every time someone acts like that I tell the other person they could do better and most times they believe me and understand why I say that - they arent happy when it comes down to it if the man is thinking of them as "property" - its not like they can sell us to someone or anything grrrrrrrr geez that upsets me

A woman is definitely not a man's property. As an open-minded man, I treat my wife fairly and I deeply understand how women of today have become empowered in their own right. Women should be well respected and treated by men.

That is so crazy. There are guys that think this way and it makes my blood boil. I know a couple and I have no idea how they think this way. They think that a woman should not have an opinion, take care of the house totally and be servant to the man. I think also in some religions the families believe that the man is the dominant figure and the woman is less than him. I feel a man and a woman are equal and have equal responsibilities. If one works more outside the home than the other then the one working less may have more to do at their home. It is true men are physically stronger, this is a biological fact, but that does not make them superior at all.

No, I am a very independent woman (lady), and I wish some man would come to me and tell me I am their property, they will truly have trouble on their hands, I feel we are all equal. My Motto is: I will not walk behind you I will not walk in front of you. I will will walk beside you.

I beleive that each and every individual is their own property. Back in the day things were different and women were not as independant than now. The women would do anything as long as that insured that she was being taken care of. Now...we can take care of ourselves and some men do not like this idea. They don't like that they may not be the breadwinner or that you won't depend on him for every little thing. You don't have to ask for permission on everything and you expect help around the house whether it's cleaning or kids. Marriage is a joint responsibility and both parties contribute 100 percent while being their own person. No one should be able to control another human being. Unless that is what they want. This is not being a feminist but rather speaking your mind and if there is something that you don't aggree with something you shouldn't sit by and watch it going on while you know very well how you feel about the situation. Certain cultures expect different things from both man and woman. You have to do what you think is right not the culture. You can go on doing what is expected of the culture and be miserable your whole life. This goes to show that you should only do what makes you happy, and if your with a man that thinks his women belong to him, and you don't like that...you should show him the door. Women have worked too hard to gain equal rights as men and when someone is stuck in the stone age and refuses to accept the intelligence of women then they need to be put in their place. Speaking for all women in general of course. :)

He needs a reality check. God made man and woman equal. He did put the husband as the head of the wife but she also has the right to chose to respect that or not. If she does not there might be consequences but then the husband should also love his wife as he would his own self and cherish her and God did make woman to be mans help mate. Which means men cannot make it without a woman and visa versa. But a wife is no one's property, she is a free moral agent and not anyones slave. Marriage is a commitment, not a partnership it is a give and give situation there is no 50/50 it is 100 percent from both. My husband is my head, I respect and love him but he does not own me and he understands that and I do not own him. We love one another and are friends as well as lovers. We share in the chores and other things as well.

i think this is very disgusting. how a woman can be said a property of a man? it is very bad i think. this idea itself is bad. i will not say it is extrinsic from earth. but still in many countries, the peopel have this idea. this must be changed.

That man would be sadly disappointed in me. When I'm with a man, I love doing things for him...cooking etc. IF it is appreciated. Usually, it works both ways...he also does nice things for me as well. They are gestures of love and caring. I have dated those types of men as you describe above. It is degrading and takes the pleasure out of doing anything for them. It should not be acceptable at all. Unfortunately, there are still women out there that will allow themselves to be treated as little slaves. It does kind of make me mad because all those women fought long and hard for us to be treated fairly and with respect and while they made so much progress, it is amazing to see how many women today will still let men order them around and treat them like little slaves as if they have no brain of their own.

My good Lord! Tell me it isn't true Mert! Respect and consideration in a relationship is all important. If both have that for the other and people are getting what they need then doing whatever for the other is no problem. When this breaks down and people are not putting forth but are taking it is time to stop and look at the mix. Not wholesome and good. Move your shoes to another address! Life is too short not to get respect and atleast a 50/50 mesh in it all.

In this day and age you would think that would be the case, but some women just accept men like that and like to have that title. I am sure a lot of men think it and don't tell their wives as well, but treat them like property. There is fault in the woman too if she decides to be with a man like that. In my brothers case he has the same issue almost, though he is owned by his wife hahaha. I would never let a man push me around or tell me what I can or cannot do, he would be slapped if he said so, and I would not marry him. The best relationship for me is to have equality and shared roles between the couple, any other way just seems too prehistoric.

The wife can never be called a property. She is a human being who is alive and not an object that has no life. She is and never will be owned by anybody because she own herself. That man should wake up from the pedestal he put himself in. He should open his eyes.

I think there is nothing wrong in doing everything for a man you love.He too in turn will do anything for women when they are not well or need help.both are equal.without men its difficult for women to run a family with children and without women men cant look after the children and house properly. There should be mutual understanding,and thers no point arguing like why cant men do everything and why should women do everything.there should be mutual understanding and adjustment ,thats married life.otherwise you dont marry.

i really oppose to that notion of a wife being his husband's property. all of us are created equal and that equality should be respected in all aspects. it doesn't follow any rule that once you are married, you are your husband's property. i agree with you marina,that guy deserves a frying pan on the head. he's very unfair to his wife and he should never have married her in the first place.if he thinks that all women are servants to their husbands, i think he's living in the 10th century.

I don't think it's acceptable. I come from a state where till 30 years back...the matriarchal system was followed...and women had more say in matters (even though there were some customs where the women didn't really argue with a man). But basically I come from a state of very strong women and even when the matriarchal system changes, most families turned into equal partnership families (atleast that's what I grew up seeing). I would be very angry if my husband assumed I was his 'property' and he would be out of my life (with lots of bruises) if he ever said that to me! I do not stand this kind of nonsense and I don't think it is a feminist way of looking at things. I believe couples are 'life partners' and not 'property'. There are also some women who think in this fashion and I think that's wrong too.

No one is anyone's property, ever, and that's that. That includes children..they are not the property of their parents. They are just in our care for awhile, to be nurtured and guided and loved, then let go. The man may rescue the woman in some respects, but the woman also rescues the man. True love actually gives freedom. For someone to say they possess someone else, does not mean they love them. This idea that the woman has to do all those things is nuts. I mean I was a wife and mother, and I liked being a wife and mother. I didn't mind cooking for my family, and cleaning our home and so on. Unfortunately, my husband at the time took advantage of all that, and assumed that I should be doing all that, and not have to reciprocate with me. It's just got to go both ways. Marriage is a two way street, and both partners need to participate to make it work. I suppose this woman must have been raised with parents who believed in this way. The husband, too. There are cults out there that teach these things. Very strange for sure.

I don't agree with this man at all. I'm married and a stay at home mom, but it's not because my husband brings in the cash he can order me around. We have an equal relationship based on love and trust. I'm not his property nor he is mine. Men (and even women) who think like that should really wake up and see in what time they are living right now. It's not the 17th century anymore. It makes me sick to my stomach to know there are still people like that around at this time. Have a nice day

I think that the woman should only be obligated for such tasks if she agrees to that contract of her own free will, without any outside influence. For example, there are several lifestyles involving a more submissive and a more dominant partner... and there are those who still prefer the more traditional lifestyle of the man bringing home the goods and the woman taking care of the house. Now, personally, I don't care for that at all, and the idea of "belonging" to anybody in such a fashion repulses me. But as long as the woman wants to do what she's doing, then... I guess more power to her.

Ciao Marina, sometimes (often) in this reality tv show people are pay for say such a ball-sh..t!! they need them for the show otherwise they don't have nothing to say..they will end when nobody watch such a programm.. Nun

No, that is not acceptable behavior. I myself am a married young woman, and no, marriage does not work that way. I don't really know why some men think that way. i've seen those shows on t.v. as well, and they way they treat their wives is really shocking. Marriage is a 2-way street, there is no "property" in marriage. I really think that some people should not be married, and the men who treattheir wives in that way, should not be. I'm not sure why the women don't leave. Maybe they've taken all of their wives self worth and confidence. All I know is life is too short to be mistreated or unhappy. Hopefully the women in those types of situations will realize that one day. No one has to be unhappy in their marriage. If you can't fix your marriage, there are a lot of good, decent men out there with good morals. You just have to know where to find them.