do you and your sibling always fight?
By carloLL2004
@carloLL2004 (376)
Philippines
August 17, 2008 9:09pm CST
i'm 22 years old now, and a professional, i have a sister who is 20 years old, since we are kids, we really never get along with each other, we always argue and fight, until now, she never listens to me, and always push her opinion towards her persepective to other things, and she's like a boarder here in the house, she always go out and acting like she's always busy, that's why my father is angry sometimes because she had no time to help on the chores anymore. when we are still kids, i always tease her, but now we are grown up, and there's no reason for her to act like a baby. sometimes she goes home then sleeps, not doing her responsibilities here in the house. My father always told her, that she was still a student, and she was still depending on the support of the family, that's why she should do her responsibilities as a member of the family.
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5 responses
@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
18 Aug 08
Well... i have 2 sisters and a brother, we're not having the same opinion in almost of anything buut arguing and fighting for us is a process of adjusting. If you find her too much interfering your life by pushing you to agree with her, you can tell her that you don't like it.
Tell her that you both are grown up people, where a discussion is a discussion, and a discussion means everybody has the same rights to have a different opinion. Your mindset that she's so stubborn and all makes it difficult to have a good conversation with her, because you both use emotions when start any discussion.
As a big sister, you should be able to talk as a more mature person, arguing with her and get too emotional would make you as childish as her. Trust me it wouldn't work at all... I believe you have tried many things to talk to her, but talking is not talking when nobody's listening.
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@carloLL2004 (376)
• Philippines
18 Aug 08
well i am his brother, she really had an attitude problem even to my parents. even if you talk to her calmly, whe will snag you, she's like a bull. she'll begin to shout if she's irritated by anyone here from the house, i sometimes lose my temper, and i feel like i want to choke her. hehe.
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@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
18 Aug 08
Oh.. i am so sorry... i thought you were a girl...
well.. i actually can understand. If you are 20 so I believe she is still a teenager. I am sure it is hard to deal with them when they are still a hot blooded teenager who never listen. But I believe you are more mature than her so you should be able to give her a word or two everyday, or you just leave her alone until she got herself into trouble... it is usually easier to talk to someone when someone did a stupid things that put themselves in a trouble and ask you for help...
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@carloLL2004 (376)
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
im 22 and my sister is 20, she's not a troublesome teenager, she even do good on her studies, having high grades, but there's a boundary for everthing, we have our responsibilities in our life, and we cannot depend on others to do it. the problem is my sister is smart, or she thinks she's smart that she's like a traffic, she's always looks busy even if there's nothing else to do, busy on things that are really not useful.
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@yogeshdhusa (2236)
• India
20 Aug 08
Hi, carloll, this happnes when they hate something done by elderly people.. You will see a child disrespect the father or a person because he might have hurt him , insulted him.. same way i still hate my brother because he always used to say that i dont do thing correctly, used to dominate me.insult me.. now i am grown up and i dont listen to him.. this might be the case with your sister.. thanks and enjoy :)
@carloLL2004 (376)
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
no, my sister is a smartass, she really thinks she's smart, she's always busy to things that are not useful, when she's tired she sleeps without doing her chores at home.
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
18 Aug 08
I don't get along with my sister at all. When we were kids she would lie to mom and dad ,telling them that i hit her.And of course I would get in trouble.She has a bad attitude about everything but only the people close to her know.All her friends and people at church think shes an angel.SO yeah we always argue.
I get along with my younger brother though always have.We barely ever argue and when we do were fine in a couple of minutes...
I hope it makes you feel better to know youre not alone on the sister situation lol
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@carloLL2004 (376)
• Philippines
18 Aug 08
yeah, yeah, you're right man, her friends think that she's mature and responsible, but when she's at home, her true color appears.
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@lira23 (208)
• United States
22 Aug 08
You can be older still and fight with your siblings. I am 23 myself and fight with my 19 year old brother and 21 year old sister.It is called sibling rivalry,it happens in every family and especially if your the older one, shes grown up as well and is going to tell you things like"you can't tell me what to do,I don't have to listen to you" but you'll always be there for each other when you need a friend. For example my younger sister likes to argue with me that her boyfriend is smarter than everyone else,I laugh at her and she gets huffy over it, so I usually grit my teeth and wait for her to go home or go some where else.
@carloLL2004 (376)
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
haha, i don't ask my sister about that stuff, because she won't tell anyway, and im a protective brother, overprotective, and she gets angry when i brought that subject up, one time she brings a guy friend here, i ask the guy what's purpose in visiting my sister? she's not sick, and he's like, uhmm, ehhhh, well, and i ask why is it your hair long, are you a girl? why is your beard not shaved? hehe, just for fun.
@Ann_margaret22 (80)
• Philippines
18 Jan 09
well hmm i think its much better for your father to talk to her. i bet she will understand. Maybe she's not awarre of her attitude towards the family and the house chores. i know you can still fix it, just have a nice and sincere conversation and everything will be just fine ^-^
@carloLL2004 (376)
• Philippines
20 Jan 09
thanks for the comment, that increased my earnings by $0.1, thank you
