Anger getting out of control?
By roshand8
@roshand8 (1478)
Sri Lanka
August 17, 2008 11:54pm CST
Just be silly.If someone does something to make you angry and you call them a name in your head,imagine a picture of the thing you called them.So if you call someone "dirt bag" or a "bucket head" picture what that actually looks like! Hopefully that will make you laugh to yourself and take things down.
Relax,practice deep breathing.Repeat calm words to yourself,such as "relax" or "calm down".Imagine your peaceful place,like beach or your garden.
Stop,take a deep breath,and think before you lose your cool and say something that will make the situation worse.Re-think that approach and come up with an alternative thing to say in it's place.
We get angry because we feel helpless,or like..someone is imposing a situation on us,but we have choices.We can make a different choice to improve our mood and situation.If you are waiting too long for service in a restaurant,you can choose to leave and not go back to the restaurant again.You still might be little angry for having wasted time,but not as angry as you would be if you continued to wait and waste more time.Even trying to think about future alternatives will take your mind off of how mad you are now,you will be much happier and healthier when you plan to avoid these circumstances.
few years back I used to yell at some people when they make me really really angry.what do you do when your anger is out of control?
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12 responses
@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
19 Aug 08
Hi roshand 8,I used to get very wild often,but now slowly I've learnt to be calm.I've heard about taking deep breath when we are angry,but I 'l forget to do that when am angry,I can only shout at people when am angry.I shall try to follow your great tips hereafter.thanks for sharing ,keep mylotting.
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and thank you for sharing.Good day.Have fun 
and cheers..
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
18 Aug 08
Hi roshand,
[i]Many time I know how to control it and just count 1-10 to relieve me and make me think wide and open to understand and analyze the situation..But, there are times, that I need to speak right there and then to be heard and I will shout to express myself..
I have tried also sending a txt message to a friend who makes me mad for a very private reasons![/i]
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
19 Aug 08
ohhh...for sure I will try that! thanks for the tip!
@shell1986 (405)
• United States
2 Sep 08
Usually when I get very upset the only way I can calm down is to cry. Weird I know but I don't cry tears of sadness, it is just a way to get my emotion out without saying something that I may regret. I always feel guilty when I let my anger get the best of me and I have found that it is a great way to let my emotions go without hurting anyones feelings.
@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
20 Aug 08
When I am angry, I tend to take deep breaths and calm down. Very often I manage to do it. But there are t imes when I let go and all hell breaks through. I tend to speak my mind and I feel much better after that. I also calm down v ery fast, and the best part of my emotions is that i do not keep it in my heart. Once it is out and I have calmed down, I forget and forgive. Maybe that is why I am such a happy person. lol.
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
20 Aug 08
Well the tips you've just shared is very helpful. Thanks! I would admit that I once was a short-tempered person. But thank God I have changed coz I now have realized the value self control. I still do get angry in situations that I do have valid reasons but I make sure that I still have control of myself. If I am angry I just keep my mouth from uttering any words because I might regret later. I always remember what the word of Gods says about controlling anger in Provers. 17:28 - KJV: Even a fool when he holdeth his peace is counted wise and he that shutteth his lips is esteemed a man of understanding."
Other Bible verses taken from NIV that help me deal with my anger are as follows:
Proverbs 12:16 A fool shows his annoyance at once, but a prudent man overlooks an insult.
Proverbs 14:29 A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly.
Proverbs 29:22 An angry man stirs up dissension, and a hot-tempered one commits many sins.
Proverbs 30:33 For as churning the milk produces butter, and as twisting the nose produces blood, so stirring up anger produces strife."
Ecclesiastes 7:9 Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
19 Aug 08
Hey roshand. I know exactly what you're saying. I used to
be really out of control. I was talking to my roomate
about that last night. He remembers not too long ago when
I would flip out at just about anything someone would say
to me. I have gotten my anger under control, but it has
taken therapy, anger management and alot of other things
to get me where I am today. It definitely didn't happen
overnight. I had a very serious anger problem. If pushed
I probably could still get there, but hopefully I wouldn't.
I now think before I speak or act out. It is all about
taking control. For some people it takes more than for
others. Anger can be a very serious and dangerous emotion
and can lead to physical violence and even worse.
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
19 Aug 08
The good thing about me when I get angry is that
i will be silent as the night. I don't yell to anybody
or scream and do something stupid. I just stay in one
corner waiting for my anger to subside.
@StarChild517 (657)
• United States
19 Aug 08
I used to have a really bad temper when I became angry though most of the time I was calm as can be I just learned anger is a waste of energy and does no good.
@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
19 Aug 08
Thanks for the tips I also get angry at times too but I just try to relax and of course the tips you have given will really help.
I also get angry at times too but I just try to relax and of course the tips you have given will really help. 
@polaris714 (607)
• Philippines
19 Aug 08
Sometimes I get so angry that I get a migraine. I suppose it comes more from frustration than the anger itself. And also because often I am unable to express my anger. Thank you for sharing your tips. They'll be very useful.
@valeria1 (2721)
• United States
19 Aug 08
I love your ideas, really you should publish a book! I see your viewpoint and I love it to picture something and laugh in their face when I am angry. I saw this and was phenomenal actually was a person very trained in communication skills and she heard some absurd of someone and she laugh in their face instead of answering then she turned around and left! The person just stayed there as a pole, hahahaha!
