Help! My Daughter has a lousy boyfriend!
By hillgirl311
@hillgirl311 (180)
United States
August 18, 2008 3:10pm CST
Hi there Everyone,
My Daughter is going to be 19 this month. As soon as she turned 18, she moved in with her boyfriend. Well, she is now back home because they had a hard time making ends meet. Anyway, she is still with this low life. He gets fired from every job that he ever had & then lies & says that he quit. He cheated on her twice that she knows of. He used her car to take these girls out in. You see, his car broke down so he went out & bought a quad. That's real smart. She is working part time & I have got her enrolled to start Massage Therapy school. She is always bugging me for gas money so that she can run his sorry behind around. She gets upset when I tell her that he is no good, but sometimes I have to voice my opinion. I have to find a way to get her away from this dirt bag. Of course, we all want the best for our kids so if there is any advice out there, I would greatly appreciate it.
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3 responses
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
19 Aug 08
There is not a harder job in the world than being a teen girls' mother. They can pick some of the lousiest guys to date and it seems that they can not see any bad in them at all no matter what they do. It is awful and yet the only thing that we can do is talk to them,give our opinions and hope that they will let some of our advice sink it!
@hillgirl311 (180)
• United States
21 Aug 08
She picked a bummer alright. He is a pure user & she just keeps on giving. I used to give to him too before I really knew him. Then I realized that he was taking advantage of us & I stopped. Before my daughter drove, I would pick him up 14 miles away as long as he had a ride home. He said that his mother was going to take him home that night. He would call, & call, & call. Well, guess who would take him home at night since she wouldn't answer the phone. This happened every time that I picked him up. That is a 28 mile trip just to take him home & go back home myself. Gas got too high for that. Now my daughter does it & is always looking for gas money. I say that he can work & pay it. He will never be a good provider. I want her to be with someone that can help take care of his family.
@zeny_zion (1283)
• Philippines
18 Aug 08
if you dont like the guy tell her in a nice way. if your daughter likes the guy its really hard to control it. i know mom's knows whats best in their children. but you see if you are inlove they are blind and deaf. they really wont listen. maybe, if theres really something wrong with your daughters bf let her see it. just incase she really dont like to live the bf. we cant do anything about it. i think you have to pray that your daughter realized that he got the wrong man.
@hillgirl311 (180)
• United States
19 Aug 08
I pray that she sees it too. She told me that he cheated on her twice...but him & the other girls just "hung out together". How gullable can one be. She is in love & obviously he isn't. I pray for them to break up but how will she take it? He will be fine, I'm sure.
@dagda24 (366)
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18 Aug 08
Unfortunately the more you try to get her away from him the more you'll push her toward him. That's normally how it works with teenagers, certainly how I felt when my parents didn't approve of the latest boyfriend I picked up (which was most of them).
The best you can do is hope that she grows in herself and realises that she can do better. DOn't try to pull her away from him or put him down all the time, but don't encourage it either and hopefully it will run it's course.
perhaps when she goes to school to learn massage therapy she will make some new friends and grow discontent with her boyfriend.
I hope it all works out.
@hillgirl311 (180)
• United States
19 Aug 08
That is the absolute truth. My Aunt is dying of cancer & I gave my daugher alot of things from her house. We moved my Aunt in with my Mother. We are trying to sell her house...but I asked for the things back & Kara told me that his mother has them stored in her attick. I told her that I would use them until she needed them again & she said that they were fine where they were at. The day that I gave her my Aunt's belongings, I told her that they were to stay within the family. Do I need to drive out there to find out if this family took over these things or do I just let it go? I'm afraid that this boyfriend of hers is gonna move in with another girl & take all of my Aunt's stuff with him. His mother is also a bum so she is probably using it.
