Worst ENEMY

Philippines
August 18, 2008 11:20pm CST
I've been working a creative writer in an outsourcing company for two years now. Two years ago, I met two new friends who are also creative writers in our office. We became close, like sisters. I'm friends with all my officemates but our friendship really has this tight bonding. Months after that, these friends of mine developed their friendship and became lovers. I was really happy for them. I treated them nicely and shared my life to them. One day, a friend also close to mine, told me that they were talking behind my back when they're together and I'm not around. They talked about negative things about me, personal things about my family, relationship and even my financial status. I was very hurt that time that I cried because I treated them as my friends. After that situation, nothing changed. Still, I gave them another chance to realize that what they were doing to me were wrong until I had this argument with the other one. I got so angry that all the pain and hurt burst out! We were not talking in the office now. They been talking and writing bad things about me in the blog and I couldn't accept it but still I didn't fight back. I was very happy all my office mates didn't believed everything they said and wrote. I knew they know me more than that. They even deleted my Multiply account. A friend told me that they have guessed my password and was able to delete my account in Multiply. They even opened my Yahoo Mail account. They always write negative things about other people, make bogus accounts for their enemies for revenge. These people really needs medical attention. I'm a friendly person and I never had problems interacting with people. Maybe I've have met the worst people in the world that I treated my friends before. I don't wanna fight back and take revenge because I don't want to be like desperate like them. I just followed my mother's advice: "Don't bother those people who are bringing you down and saying negative things about you. They are just a waste of time. Pity them because they are maybe experiencing too much angst and insecurities in them that they are blaming it to the world, to the people. The moment you become affected, do the same things they do and take revenge...then you'll be like them too. What will you do if this also happens to you?
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5 responses
@nanayangel (7879)
• Philippines
19 Aug 08
Hi there Angie! I think that what they did was really mean. What I should do is ignore them, since what's important is that I know them. That's what I should do. But I don't always do what I should. Knowing me, I will definitely confront them. I will tell them exactly how I feel and what I think about them. Just to let it all out. I'm sorry to hear that you're under such a bad situation but stay strong. This too shall pass.
• Philippines
19 Aug 08
Really MEAN sis! I know them that well that confrontation will be nonsense because they will never admit their fault even though it's obvious that they are guilty of what they did. They are really the worst people I've ever met.
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• Philippines
19 Aug 08
Let's just hope that they'll realize their mistake soon but if not, maybe they'll get tired if you'll continuously ignore them.
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• Philippines
20 Aug 08
I know it will take long for them to realize it. I'm bothered now that they are making friends with new employees. I'm afraid that they will do it again to innocent people.
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• United States
20 Aug 08
Yea, that is mean and im sorry if you thought they were your friends but they should not be treating you that way and its good your found out now and maybe it could of gotten nastier (wait, deleting accounts, thats nasty) in the future, man, I have experienced this so many times when I have gone out of my way to make friends but Im starting to think its best to let friends come to you...thats just me, Im working on finding friends through hobbies, not just casual encounters. I agree with your mother though, some people are so insecure that they will even be threatened by kindness and thats not something you should be hard on yourself about, its something they have to learn, and just be strong and dont feel guilt, like you have to apologize for anything if they try to be nice to you again. It happens but maybe this has paved the way for you to meet new friends, maybe in your office, that probably couldn't be your friends because of the other two--just be openminded but with reason.
• Philippines
20 Aug 08
Super mean! Yes, I don't deserved to be treated that way because I've been nice to them all the time. I have many ways to get even and take revenge but I don't want to do it because they have been a part of my life. I can say that being insecure is one of the reason why they treat me like that. I thank God that my mother is there to ease what I feel towards those people. Thanks for the advice! =)
@James72 (26790)
• Australia
20 Aug 08
Well all you can hope I guess is that becasue of your complete lack of response to their actions the novelty will eventuially wear off and they will give up! If I have learned anything in life it is that the people that you least expect to do the wrong thing by you always seem to at some stage or another! Sounds like they are perfect for each other..... Until such time as they do something illegal or threatening to you personally I would continue to ignore them. Some people just feel so much better about themselves by belittline others. the fact of the matter is that it is a glaring or obvious statement regarding their OWN insecurities as people. There is always karma too! Don't ever be afraid to make light of what they are doing to you also. People tend to get confused if you seem to find their actions funny rather than distressing!
@myliezl0903 (2726)
• Philippines
20 Aug 08
hi there angie! well, actually your mom was right! if you get affected and you do the same thing then most likely you'll become one of them too! and i guess it would be better if you'll just ignore them or rather believe in "three folds rule" ...
• Philippines
20 Aug 08
Of course, Mothers know best for their children. I've been ignoring them for 6 months now. Thanks! =)
@mjmlagat (3170)
• Philippines
20 Aug 08
Mothers really know what's best for their children, take heed of the advice from you mother. Do not waste your life getting even with those worthless attitudes of those girls. You know your worth and the valuable things you can do for your life and the community where you live. Look for other friends who are worthy lof your care. Good luck!
• United States
2 Sep 08
better leave them alone... there are lots of people love's you more than you expected...they are the one that's TRUE...:-)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
Thanks for the advice mjmlagat! =) My mother really knows what's best for me. They are really worthless of my time. I'd rather waste my time doing other things than wasting my time on them. Ashnic thanks for being my friend even though we just get to know each other in the office for a short time! =) I really appreciate that you are on my side always. I'm hoping for long friendship between us.