I stop trusting people...
By klaudine
@klaudine (3650)
Indonesia
August 19, 2008 2:11am CST
I used to be someone who sees everything from the positive side. I always see people as a good person, and believe that bad people do bad things because they have to do it to survive. I used to pity bad people because I thought that they just not happy with their lifes.
My friends told me that I was wrong. They told me over and over again that life isn't that friendly. But they words meant nothing to me until the world itself toaught me a hard lesson I never forget. I got many problems in one timeline, and all because of me trusting those people, who didn't deserve it.
I helped someone who ended up trying to hook up with my GF. One that I consider as a friend backstabbed me and left me in a huge debt. Someone that I thought would care about my life, left me when I said I need her the most. My mom didn't understand what I did and I did all by myself.
I learned that living is not easy, and I tried not to trust anyone anymore. I don't trust people and I don't trust God. I don't trust anything that can't be seen and can talk. I even don't trust myself afraid if one day my heart will betray my mind. I put my trust in money and cigarettes, and education and knowledge which will be my savior whenever I have to stand on my own feet.
I don't believe in love and salvation. Cigarette is my salvation and money is my savior. By doing this I can survive. That way I can hold on in this crueal world. And this way I know I wouldn't be happy, but at least I can stand up straight and never get hurt anymore.
What do you thing about that? Tell me your opinion and if you ever feel the same or experienced the same thing with me, would you share it?
6 responses
@yadav8797 (1211)
• India
29 Aug 08
friend your are saying right. i am totally agree with you that there is no trust left on the people .this is shown in your story.
but in my opinion friend,all people in the world not same.some people are also good.so don't think that trustworthy people not left on the earth. i have lots of examples on these on my surroundings.people are alway forcing good peoples coming into the bad things.in these situation good ones have to self control on yourself and not moved into the bad things.
@asiatic_r10 (265)
• Indonesia
23 Aug 08
Stop trusting people is only a short cut to your problem. Life teaches you to be careful and be wise to choose which person you can trust and which cannot. All the experiences that you mentioned above basically only want to teaches you on how to be careful and wise in life. You should be able to learn from those experiences to determine in the future which kind of person you can trust and which cannot. From those experiences, life will not teach you to stop trusting people but teach you how to be wise on trusting people. I am not saying that after you learnt it then there will be noone who will betray you or make you dissapointed; but at least you will learn more and more each day to be wiser. Also, by knowing that so many people can be trusted, why don't you be someone that can be trusted by others. At least you made the world better by adding one more trusted person, which is you.
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@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
23 Aug 08
I know it was a short cut and someday I have to trust people again. If I don't trust people I won't get married and leave all alone... But for now, I just need to keep myself from being hurt. Because as you know, that's the way I love myself, and that's the way I am protecting myself for now.
You are so wise and I believe that you are strong enough to handle people, but I am not. Later I would try to learn to trust again, but for now, I'd rather have myseld healed first :)
Thank you so much for a very good input.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
19 Aug 08
it was the case with me few months back. its because my so called best friend took advantage of my trust. he took advantage of friendship for his own and cheated me big time. so i thought I am not correct in judguing them i stoppe dtrusting them
@SydneyHazelton (4586)
• Singapore
19 Aug 08
Don't be so hard on yourself. There were times when I trusted people but they betrayed my trust. I'm careful when dealing with people so as not to get duped by others. There are some people you can trust, not everyone is the same.
@tina2696 (127)
• United States
19 Aug 08
We all make mistakes Kladine. You should not expect so much of yourself, we are only human. You trusted someone you shouldn't have, I think we have all done this at one point or another. Don't let the nastiness of that person change you. Unfortunately, there are nasty people out there but not all of us are like that. Keep your head up and dont change a thing, you are perfect as you are!!!
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@ivan2000bd (1009)
• Sweden
19 Aug 08
our life is too long. so ypou have to trust people again and again. stay fine friend.
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