What is the biggest responsibility in having a child?

@MaasK1 (133)
France
August 19, 2008 2:42am CST
I do not have kids yet but I am thinking about it and I know you have to change your lifestyle and all that, but I was wondering when you had your child what was the biggest responsibility in your mind towards that child? How did you prioritize?
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@glay22 (512)
• Philippines
19 Aug 08
me too, i don't have kids yet but i think the greatest responsibility parents have to their children is giving them a good life so that they may become productive individuals in the future parents should be good providers and guides so that their kids won't get sick or won't go astray
@MaasK1 (133)
• France
23 Aug 08
Thank you glay, I believe in that.
@jammyt (2818)
• Philippines
19 Aug 08
My lifestyle change and took a 180 degrees turn. I used to go out a lot but when I had my daughter I rarely go out. I buy more for her than for me. I make sure I am always home for her so that she feels my presence and not just the nannies. Also, it is very expensive to have a child.. there's milk, nappies, clothes, food, etc but it is all worth it!
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@MaasK1 (133)
• France
23 Aug 08
Seems you have to open your hands for the going out or doing things for yourself, and is all expensive when comes to a child, when you say is worth it what that means?
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
19 Aug 08
looking after it's welfare, 24/7 ,365 days a year,it's quite a responibility if u take itseriouly & u should. it's worth every minute of it.
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@MaasK1 (133)
• France
23 Aug 08
The worth part I do not get it, but maybe because I do not have a child.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
23 Aug 08
when i said it was worth every minute of it i just meant i'd do it all over again. having your own child is such a blessing & i loved every minute of raising my 2 boys. there were bad times of course. when you are a single mother like i was you wonder sometime how you are going to get them everything they need from food on upto clothes, school suplies etc. but u find a way because you love them. i did w/out for my sons to have what they needed & wanted it but it was worth it. they are both good guys w/children of their own. those grandbabies are something special to. i hope one day u have children & then u will know what i mean.
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@valeria1 (2721)
• United States
19 Aug 08
I do not have a child and for the fact of the big responsibility you will take for the rest of your life. I am thinking though, I love my husband and I know I will be with him forever and I would say that in the begining all the basis that that child needs and from there would be education, good morals, healthy environment and all that this child will need to become a great human being!
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@valeria1 (2721)
• United States
23 Aug 08
Thank you M, for the BR, I love you!
@MaasK1 (133)
• France
23 Aug 08
Val did you read all the above seems a big deal of responsibility?
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@kayedanda (1850)
• Philippines
19 Aug 08
well, the first that comes to mind is that i should be able to provide for her basic needs. before, when i was single, i work for my family and i help in the expenses at home. now, i mainly work for svet (my daughter) and strive to earn as much as i can so that all her needs will be provided. i don't really go out much so basically, nothing in my lifestyle changed when svet came. it's only that i feel more responsible than ever now because i have a helpless darling angel who counts on me for support. i hated waking up in the middle of the night before (even to pee), but when svet came, i'm awake every 2 or 3 am to feed her milk. when you become a parent, YOU are not the center of your attention anymore. everything must be for the child, everything you do must be for his/her benefit. when you become a parent, you must abandon any selfishness in you, as being a mom/dad equates to selflessness. :)
@MaasK1 (133)
• France
23 Aug 08
Seems it is a very big responsibility there I am starting to really thinkg about this.