Why People can't MOVE ON!
By eve301345
@eve301345 (658)
Philippines
August 19, 2008 3:38am CST
I am wondering why it is so hard or impossible for some people to forget their past. I grew up with a very poor family with violence involve inside the house. I have moved on from that but I have a sister who until now still cant. I am working now abroad and helping my family and sending this sister of mine to school and every time she saw mistake from my other brother and sister she just hurt them physically which I couldn't do to them. I ask her why she do that and she tell me why not mum and dad use to do that before to us. I told her not to do it but she just get mad at me even I am older than her. I don't know what to do to make her change. Can you give me advice please.
4 responses
@vegegirl (828)
• Australia
19 Aug 08
Eve it's also possible that she was affected differently to you, especially as she was younger than you when it happened.
Did you ask her if she wants her brother and sister to go through that as well? If she didn't enjoy it, why would she want to do it to them? I wonder if anything happened to your sister that you don't know about or did she suffer more than you did?
@eve301345 (658)
• Philippines
20 Aug 08
I don't know, I think what happen to her is no different from mine. To be honest I am older than her but I am scared of her more than shes scared of me. She just respect me because I am sending her to school I think thats the reason.
@Susannalin (65)
• China
19 Aug 08
It is really a tough question.I know people are different, but I really don't know how to change them. Maybe you should ask her how she feels about your parents when your parents do those scold things to her, and it is easy to imagine how your siblings feel about her. Ask her whether she wants to be the kind of person that your parents are. I hope it could help.
@eve301345 (658)
• Philippines
20 Aug 08
I ask her already about that and the answer I got form her was she hated them. I ask her to if she gonna do that to her children and she said never and I told her then she should not do that but she just don't want to listen.
@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
19 Aug 08
Hi friend ,I can understand your feelings.You stay with her and advice her kindly not to behave so.You tell her thats not good for her being violent and it will affect her future,tell her that good people and the world wont accept her and she will be ignored by everyone.she will certainly listen .be patient and kind to her.she will change one day.all the best.happy mylotting.
@Manojknair (603)
• India
19 Aug 08
All people are not mentally strong. Some get hurt very soon and it remains in their heart for long. But who comes out of that get success and will enjoy a good life. Dont think about the worst past but do think about the beautiful future ahead.
