Whats the exact time to have kids

I guess I'm quite qualified to make a response on your query. I'm a married woman for more than five years now and God has blessed us with one daughter for a child. Like you, my in-laws were very much anxious to have their first grandchild. My husband is the eldest of 7 siblings and I am also the eldest of four siblings. It took us more than a year before our firstborn finally came into our life. I was even nervous before I got pregnant because I thought that I was barren. Honestly, my husband and I even decided that I stop from work so that it would be easy for me to bear our child. He thought that I was stressed from work. But even if it took us quite some time before our daughter came, it's but unfortunate that we were unable to save as much money in anticipation of our child. Now, we have finally realized this but I guess it's a bit late already because we have incurred a substantial amount of monetary obligations from various people, credit card companies, government, and loan agencies. These were used to purchase much of our daughter's needs like infant formula, diaper, cereals, crib, beddings, dresses, and other stuff. Anyway, we are currently taking time before deciding to follow up on our second child. Our daughter is turning three next week and come to think of it, her age gap with her future sibling is no less than three years and nine months if we decide to have our second child. But presently, my husband and I are enjoying time with our firstborn. I guess another year or two of waiting for our second offspring will do. And I'll try to make sure that we have already paid up all our loans before our second child comes. So, I believe that there is no exact age or time as to when to have a child. It's better to assess if both you and your husband are quite capable to raise a child financially, emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually. If both of you are mature enough to handle this new phase and addition in your life together, it's high time for you to have kids. I know that your in-laws mean well, but you have the last say on this. Good luck and God bless your marriage.

It all depends on your health. Some women can wait until they are in their thirties and can get pregnant, my daughter-in-law for one, others have to have their children in their late teens and early twenties or they will never have any more children, me for instance. The financial situation is secondary. Do you want to wait six months for your first child? If you do, then go with your husband's suggestion, but if you do not, start budgeting and managing your money so your husband is prepared financially able to start a family earlier. The right time is when you are ready. Your in-laws are worried that they may die before they see their first grand child.

It depends on the couple when to have kids.The first thing is to know each other after marriage,be comfortable with each other,enjoy married life and then when both of them are ready to have kids,go for it. So the basic thing is not to be in hurry to have kids.Things happen automatically with time.We only have to be patient. But one must be mentally prepared for the future.

There is no exact time. You should have kids when you're economically and emotionally ready. That is if you want them - don't have them because your parents want you to. I'm 38 and my husband and I have been married years and I just had a baby 20 months ago. I wasn't ready until then. My mom had one baby young and two about my age - maybe a little older.

when both of u r ready !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

for me the exact time to have kids is a) when you are stable and with a job b) when you have experienced going out with friends and with your significant other to an extent that when you already have children your diminished social life will not be a problem c) when you are already responsible enough d) when you can already take care of yourself e) when you can already take care of your significant other f) when you can put your loved ones first instead of yourslef

I have to say it's the right time when you both agree it is, but honestly is there really a "right time", LOL. But I do suggest getting a bit closer to it, both of you guys agreeing your ready is best.

There is no "right" time to have kids. Sometimes they are a surprise....it always works out one way or another. Ideally, it is a planned event between you and your spouse and the right time for that would be when you both feel ready. Either way, it is not up to someone else to dictate to you when to have children or even if to have children! That is a very personal decision between you and your partner and no one else's business. Definitly DO NOT have them just to please the in-laws!! I had my first child when I was 21 and my 2nd & 3rd when I was in my early 30's and my last when I was in my late 30's.....Seriously...there is no perfect time.

The right time to have children is when You and Your Husband are ready-- not when your in-laws or anyone else says you should. If he is not ready yet and wants to wait 6 months, and that is what you want too, you should wait. If the in-laws get upset, just explain to them, or have your husband do it, that you are not yet ready, and you will have children when you are ready. There is no one time that is right for everyone, so your in-laws don't know when is right for you, only you and your husband know.

It's different for everyone. You may feel like having kids when you have completed other goals in your life. Some people want to have kids early and then try to focus on their other goals. You have to do what's comfortable for you. There is no right or wrong way in my book. Just make sure that you have your priorities in check.

Having a child is your decision and no one can tell you when the right time is. Only you know your situation. All parents start asking their kids to have kids when they get older. They want grandchildren but they aren't the one's who have to live with them, play with them, support them financially and wake up with them. You guys are goin to have to do all that. If neither of you are ready yet then I wait until you are. There is no need in forcing yourselves to have children when it's only them that will suffer in the end. Next time the inlaws say something about having a baby, just laugh and say in due time. Try not to let it bother you and remember, YOU are the one having the child, not THEM.

I would say you would have to be ready when you both are ready cause your mother-in-laws would care for them to a point but you have to take care of them plus the cost to care for them like dipers and formulia and doctor vists but I am single and have never been married and I am 30 so I would love to know too but I know you need that suff to consider too but then what would you do if either one couldn't have any kids woudl you in-laws get upset but then there is always adoption

Kids can bring so much joy, but they also require a lot of your time, so if you guys are not ready, I think it's best to do what you all feel is better for you right now. Grandma is just ready for some grandbabies, but like someone else said in another post, grandma can get rid of them when she's through spoiling and enjoying them.