Under age Drinking: What Would You Have Done??

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I have two children. My daughter is 16 and my son is 19 and is in college. My kids both know how my husband and I feel about under age drinking. We have strict rules about it to protect them and ourselves as in our state, parents are held responsible if under age kids are caught drinking while in their home. Although I know my son has admitted that he drinks a beer now and then at school. He has no car their and all parties are held on campus so everyone walks back to their dorm rooms and no one is driving. My daughter is well aware of the consequences and she said she has no real desire to drink any way since she knows someone from her school who was hospitalized for alcohol poisoning and that scared her pretty good. My daughter often invites her friends over to hang out and I encourage her to do that so I know where she is and who she's hanging out with. One night her best friend was over and two boys, who I've known for many years, were over. They were all hanging out in the sunroom and I have to walk through there to let my dogs out. We also keep our son's mini fridge in there for cold water bottles and juice. I wanted to grab a water bottle on my way back into the livingroom so I opened the fridge and right away noticed two cans of beer in there. I right away suspected that there was drinking that had been going on, because I could smell the faintest scent of beer. I called my daughter into the kitchen and she said that the boys brought over the beer, but they only brought the two cans and she told them how stupid they were for doing it. She also said to me that she told them not to open the cans in her house. I was in a real quandry about what to do. She had not been drinking as I couldn't smell any beer on her breath or on her clothes, but I'm quite sure at least one of the boys came into the house having already had a beer. The problem is I know these boys well and I know their parents very well too. My daughter begged me not to say anything to anyone. She said she would tell the boys that they had to leave by a certain time and they were not to bring the beer back out of the house. She told me she is very fearful of being labeled a snitch and I agreed that I wouldn't say anything, but they had to leave without the beer. Sure enough, they left shortly after and left the beer in the fridge. I've since seen at least one of the moms of one of the boys, but I said nothing about that night. I'm wondering if I did the right thing, but I didn't want to rat him out as I didn't want my daughter to be blamed for it. Did I do the right thing? What would you have done if you were me?