Do your spouse become your best friend?

Indonesia
August 19, 2008 2:30pm CST
Yes I do, but I will need my women friends to share about womens problem. I feel awkward to share it with my spouse beause he will try to understand although he doesn't know what I mean...how about you? Do you feel the same?
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whywiki
@whywiki (6066)
• Canada
19 Aug 08
My spouse is one of two best friends I have. This way I have both bases covered. What my hubby can't understand as he is a man my best girlfriend can understand so between the two of them I am pretty well covered.
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fleurshine
@fleurshine (100)
• Indonesia
19 Aug 08
Yup...they complete you, and you are so lucky to have them beside you.
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Bebekoh
@lrglara (1334)
• Philippines
19 Aug 08
my spouse is my bestfriend. i still have girlfriends and find time to be together but other than that, he is the one i really go to for any emotional problems...
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soulist
@soulist (2985)
• United States
19 Aug 08
My boyfriend has become my best friend, but like you said I do need my gal pal to talk to about somethings. It's okay to have more than one best friend and I have both, my best friend is like my sister, and my boyfriend has become my best friend. It's okay to want to have someone other than your spouse to share things with.
fleurshine
@fleurshine (100)
• Indonesia
20 Aug 08
yes, I do the same like you. Thanks for your response.
acevivx
@acevivx (1566)
• Philippines
20 Aug 08
Well if I had a spouse now, I guess he could become a best friend and since he is my spouse I know I would be able to share with him all my problems even women problems. I don't understand why you wouldn't be able to with your spouse. I always believed that when you are married to someone, you are almost one and the same, no secrets and all problems shared. and since he is your spouse with whom you are defintely most intimate with, it is surprising why you would not be able to consult with him your woman problems. Wouldn't a spouse who is also your best friend someone you can confide in about everything? You know, considering the trust and confidence and love which is suppose to exist between spouses who are also best friends.
fleurshine
@fleurshine (100)
• Indonesia
20 Aug 08
I get the point, I consider him as my soul mate, part of mine, but sometimes I would like to share with my girlfriend especially about women problems. It's not because I don't believe in him but like I keep something special just for my self. If the problem needs his concern like health, of course the first one who will know is him.by the way, thanks for your opinion.
bamakelly
@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
19 Aug 08
I definitely see where you are coming from. I have been married for four years and sometimes it is easier to communicate with a woman friend. Some things only a woman can understand and you don't feel so embarrassed. I do find my husband to be supportive to me and also helpful in certain situations of distress. He is a very good communicator and that is very helpful in a marriage.
fleurshine
@fleurshine (100)
• Indonesia
20 Aug 08
Yes, you have the same feeling with me. That's what I feel about it.
angusthethird
@angusthethird (515)
• United States
20 Aug 08
Yes, I believe that ultimately your spouse should be your absolute best friend. However, I don't feel diminished in my life because my wife has women friends. There are things I need to talk about with all men--that could be my pastor and a bunch of other guys from church--that I could not dare tell my wife. And there is stuff, I am sure, that she will tell our First Lady and the women of the church that she would never want to tell me. I would not want her to trust another dude more than she trusts me however. If that ever happened, I would fear the demise of my marriage was close at hand.