Pregnant teenage daughter

@rawpoet (2046)
United States
August 19, 2008 3:17pm CST
My daughter is 17 1/2 years and is 7 weeks pregnant. This is something that was planned, and I have no anger towards her. In fact, I am very happy for her and her fiancee. My question, do you think I should tell my family yet? I've already told my mother, but haven't told my father yet, who is divorced from my mom. We have a very big family and I wanna share the news. Do you think it's too early?
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@patgalca (18366)
• Orangeville, Ontario
19 Aug 08
I don't think it is advisable to say anything until 12 weeks. The risk of miscarriage is highest in the first trimester. When you have a miscarriage you have a lot of backtracking to do to try and remember who you told and then who they told, etc. It could be embarrassing if a few months down the road you ran into someone who asked if she had her baby yet. I didn't tell until 12 weeks in all three of my pregnancies. With my second pregnancy my husband told his mother after I told him not to say anything until after 3 months. I miscarried and he had to call her, and who she had told I don't know. People in my husband's family seem to be making the announcement the minute the stick turns blue. I would never do that.
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@rawpoet (2046)
• United States
19 Aug 08
This is something my mom says also. I just can't wait until this 1st trimester is over! Thank you for your honest response. Much appreciated. I'm also sorry about your loss. I had a few myself. Hugs.
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@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
19 Aug 08
well it depends on her health. i had a very healthy first baby and then a miscarriage and then a healthy second baby, so it might be best to wait a few more weeks. just my take anyways...
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@rawpoet (2046)
• United States
19 Aug 08
Thanks. I appreciate your honesty.
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@razor123 (979)
• India
27 Aug 08
Oh my goodness she is so small and already pregnant. But since your comfortable and say it was planned then i guess no issues about it as your her mom and would want the best for her. You could go ahead and tell your family i guess because sooner or later they are going to get to know about it and then they might get angry since you hid the whole thing about the pregnancy from them. So i guess you should tell them. But frankly speaking rawpoet your daughter is really small to be pregnant. Does she still go to college or school or she ha given up?
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@rawpoet (2046)
• United States
27 Aug 08
I don't know why you would say she's small. LOL! She's 5'5'' and weighs 140 and is very physically mature for her age. I also was pregnant very young, and did just fine. I decided to tell everybody. I couldn't wait! :)
@rawpoet (2046)
• United States
27 Aug 08
I forgot to add - she is not in school.