Does a Mama's girl make a good wife?

Why not go with her on those days, or is that not allowed? You are part of the family now and there shouldn't be time schedualed with them when you are home. She married you and when you are home that is suppose to be your time together. Two people starting out need to learn about each other and they need to Talk about EVERYTHING. If you don't then you will have problems all the way. But Don't yell if you can keep from it and Don't Ever Hit. And Don't Ever Say Anything That You Can't Take Back. Once Said Never For Gotten. Trust Me I have Been There, in every situation. How long have you been married? How old are the two of you? I hope I have helped. Good Luck. JLMack

hi did you know her before you got married? was there no intamacy before you got married ? well if her mother has no husband that is why she is so attached to her mother because if her sister got married to then she will be alone. i dont think there is a problem with her spending time with her mum but the problem is your time with her and no emotional intimacy with her. i think you should spend more time to her get close emotionally. talk to her. maybe tell her the way you are feeling and you want it to be sort out before it is a real issue.

Ok, Mildman your doing the right thing trying to understand your situation. My take on this is that your wife has some intimacy issues and I can only speculate because I dont even know your wife but maybe she suffered from not having a male role model in her life and that is something that she doesnt feel safe around or something happened, maybe she doesn't trust men because of something with her father, Im thinking more like this. I had some real trust issues because my dad walked out on the family when my parents divorced and when your a kid you dont think, hey, it wasn't working, all you see is that he's gone--that really affected me in that it took me a long time to trust that my boyfriend was serious for the long run and not ready to walk out so what others are saying about you showering her with you love will help but don't compromise your own feelings and emotions and make it clear that you need certain things from her and you have to stress this, because your married now, and emotions can fester if left unsaid. I have seen this with other people how moms and daughters can be so attached and while I do not understand it myself because I have always leaned more toward my dad (I looked up to him highly) I do think it would help for your wifes mother to give you two time to settle into your marriage and she should understand this because, hey, your in your newlywed phase--its normal to want a lot of time together, maybe you can suggest your thinking babies and that will work, she should back right off, NO! Im kidding! LOL. But do talk to her mother alone even if she will mention it to your wife later, because I think these things can lead to codependencies and thats not healthy. Your daughter should be more independant from her mother and if she needs her mom to tote her around everywhere that doesnt seem like she is but I will tell you that my bf (of seven years) has taught me a lot about life and made me so much more safe and independent in my life than I was before meeting him. You have to set aside at least one day together in this stage of your marriage, she has some trust issues--you shouldn't be feeling like its not ok to bother her. Can you too go play tennis together, have any friends you can bring along? Something along those lines, Friday night bowling is actually kind of fun, join a league together--something! Dont lose your integrity though.

try to befriend or be close to her mom, find out why your wife endears her so and try to imagine her as your mom and appreciate her as well. Then talk to your wife to let her know how you feel so that your marriage can last a loonnnnnnng time. Let it out while its early-while the issue is small :)

Talk this out with your wife and I hope that you will resolve this soon .

Is she the only daughter? I guess you are newly married. Is she really close to you? Once she stats loving you , she will definitely try to spend more time with you and she wont feel like leaving you and going anywhere. A girl who is more attached to her parents will obviously be more attached with her husband but it takes some time for it. You hsould make her feel how much you love and care for her.Then,you ll see a change in her son.