How do you think of islamic women?
By Flouya
@Flouya (283)
India
August 20, 2008 12:35am CST
As far as i know, in islamic country ,the man can marry four women at the same time.
However, i learned that islamic women seem have no complain on it.
I have met a Iranian girl,she said that's Allah's will.
I am confused,why most of them are subjected to the complusory regulation.
They look very happy,supported by men seems the only way of women.
I have lot of questions on it?
Could you tell me something about islamic cluture?
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15 responses
@berrys (864)
• Singapore
20 Aug 08
let me just start of by saying I am NOT an Islamic woman. But I do have friends that are Islam and the man basically do not need so many wives but their just greedy. They are allowed to re-marry and most of my Islam friends think its disgusting but if you believe in your religion that greatly theres really nothing you can say and most countries like Iran being Muslim is not a religion but a way of life. Ever since they were young they were forced into the religion, its the only religion they know off until they grow older and after practicing it for many years they just stick to it. Another one of their beliefs is that the women should cover up her assets so she wouldn't attract men (often they cover their hair,nose,lips,body,legs everything but the eyes)[if you ask me the men should keep their eyes to themselves]but those are in the middle eastern countries can you imagine its already steaming hot there on top of that their completely covered. However the Asian Muslims practice differently. But one thing that all Muslim believe is that if your not a Muslim your considered a (theres a term for it but i forgot it) the word means a non-believer
@dbzfan (253)
• India
20 Aug 08
Well It,s Their Culture.
IF Tey are Happy With it.
There is nothing Anyone Can do About it.
And after Their Marriage.
They have to hide their Faces entire Life inside a Burkha.
They are Not Even to See Any Other Men Expect Their Husband.
And Their Husband Would Divorce Tem if He Sees his Wife Even Talking to Any Man.
Except for Their Relatives.
@November21 (385)
• Qatar
20 Aug 08
100,000 per year in America alone, are converting to islam .forevery 1 convert to islam , 4 females convert to islam.
THEY ARE DISCOVERING THE FACTS AND NOT BASING THEIR DECISIONS ON BIASED MEDIA. they realise they deserve to know the complete unadulterated truth.
1- the Bible convicts women as the original sinners(ie. Eve picking from the forbidden tree) {Genesis 2:4-3:24}
The Koran clarifies that it was Adam not Eve {Koran 7:19-25}
2- The Bible says "The birth of a daughter is a loss" {Ecclesiasticus 22:3}
The Koran says both are an equal blessing {Koran 24:49}
3- The Bible forbids women from speaking in church{I Corinthians 14:34-35}
The Koran says women can argue with the prophet{58:1}
4- In the Bible divorced women are Labeled as Adulteress , not men {Matthew 5:31-32}
The Koran does not have Biblical double standards {Koran 30:21}
5- In the Bible, widows and sisters do not inherit any property or wealth. only men do {Numbers 27:1-11}
The Koran abolished this male greed {Koran 4:22} and God protects all.
6- The Bible Allows Multiple wives{I kings 11:3}
In the Quran God limits the number to 4 only under certain situations(with the wife's permission) and prefers you marry only one wife{koran 4:3}the koran gives the woman the right to choose who to marry.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
20 Aug 08
I can't speak for Islamic tradition as I know practically nothing about it. I can say that the practice of polygamy is not all that unusual and certainly not necessarily a bad thing as it is often portrayed. These women are probably fine with it because that is what they believe in. There are benefits to this type of arrangement. Some people may not be willing to do it but it really can work for others. Probably they can not understand how people can be happy in a monogamous relationship.
@ashar123 (2357)
• India
21 Aug 08
I have read all of your discussion and you seem alot confused. You did not ask any questions that what you want to know about Islamic Culture. You just mentioned you have lots of questions. In Islam there is freedom to everyone. IN an Islamic Country, if there are Christians living, they have all the freedom to live life according to their own wish. Now coming about what you mentioned about having four wives.
Yes, it is allowed in Islam only if the man can support four wives. Your Iranian friend did not tell you that in Islam, if a man wants to marry second wife, he has to get permission from his first wife. He can only marry if he has the permission from his first wife. Same is if he wants to marry third. He has to take permissions from both first and second wife and so on in the case of fourth. Feel free to ask any question about Islamic Culture.
@youless (112481)
• Guangzhou, China
21 Aug 08
You are right that a man can marry four women in the Islam religion. However, I think the situation is changed as time goes by. In some Islamic countries, such as Turkey. Man can only marry to one woman. I learned this from a Turkish friend.
Of course it's totally unfair that a man can marry four women. It's unfair for everybody. The love can't be shared. If a man can marry four woman, it should be the same for woman. A woman can marry four men.
Fortunately, today the world is much more civilized and therefore such kind of rule shall not appear any more.
I love China
@myay4life (12)
• Nigeria
20 Aug 08
hi flouya, i realy like your dicussion and little i know about islamic culture is that a man can marry four women at the same time if he is financialy okay, put them in seprate apartment, and satisfying thier need as each each of them want it.
@sincere4frdship (2228)
• India
20 Aug 08
They count women as thing for enjoyment . Never take them as equal human beings as man and never give them oppurtunity to do the same things as men . These are basic rules of their society . But some places are changing as women are also doing good work there , but still they have to work so much in this area as they can't get develop without help of women too ...
Thanks !!!
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
20 Aug 08
I think Islamic women do have a say too when it comes to marriage. I have watched from a drama before that when the first wife did not agree for the muslim man to marry again, he can’t marry again. So I guess they do know that when they marry again, they will be responsible enough to be able to handle another wife, and another family. As for me, I will never ever let my husband marry another one.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
20 Aug 08
I do not think they are really happy. It sort of reminds me of the movies I saw when the haggard woman in the tattered dress in the Western Movie said that she is happy and you can see the tiredness and sadness in their eyes. I am sure that many of them wish that their husband did not have those other three wives. I do think that they believe they have no choice and they have to work hard so their husbands do not go to the other women. And the only way they get freedom is when they become the grandmother of the house and their sons have to look after them.
You talk about respect, so why is there no respect the Christian and Jewish culture in the Islam countries? Why is there so much silence against the Christian and Jewish families being massacred there?
@winzpc (2354)
• Indonesia
20 Aug 08
I know a little about that, because I live in country with mayority islamic people. As I know there are rights for man to have more than one wife, the number of wife that can they married is not been limited. As long as the man could fullfill there job as husband like can make sure the prosperty of their wife life, they can have another wife. But in here nowadays, the woman is very unpro and disagree about this poligamy culture because they afraid the prosperity or the attention for them will become less.
Nowadays the woman is a carrier woman like, business woman or has own business, they have other way of thinking. if they caught their husband has third person in their life, The woman will request divorce from their husband. That's all I know.
@jassybok (21)
• Malaysia
20 Aug 08
Many people have the wrong perception with the muslims especially muslim's marriage. As for my opinion culture and religion is two different things. Not all muslim in this world are like that. No matter what religion you embrace there is the good and the bad people. Some follows their religion strictly and some are not. So it is unfair that we view all muslims or all muslim man are like that. As a fact Muslim man can marry 4 but with conditions. The man can afford to take care of their wives, fair to all his wives and bla.. bla..bla. And if you do not comply to those conditions just wait as you will receive ALLAH punishment. But think the other side as a human no matter what your religion are you tend to make mistakes, sin and we are not perfect. So Allah says it is best that you marry only 1 (one) woman. Dont simply say thinks that we dont really understand. We may be wondering about the issue but dont give the judgement. I have friends who are married with more than one. They are happy but it is best to keep only one.
@rjyuggy (102)
• Canada
20 Aug 08
In my opinion, Islamic women are very conservative women. Anyway, they have a strong feminine side.
@pjones83 (59)
• United States
20 Aug 08
The only knowledge I have on the Islamic culture is what was taught to me by the military. We must have training on the culture of a counrty before we go there so that we will be able to respect their culture and follow their rules while we are there. One of the first things we are told is not to stare at the women, which for me was not hard because my mother taught me it was not polite to stare, but to keep us from staring the military showed up pictures so we would know what to expect. after all it is normal to be curious, but the saying curiosity killed the cat was brought to mind when they told us what the consequence of staring would be. I have always been intrigued with the cultures overseas. The women may not have the freedoms that we have in the U.S., but they also do not have to worry about their man cheating on them seeing how they know when he is married to another woman. and the man takes care of them, sometimes I wish had someone to do everything for me like they do. But I also agree that I do not believe I could live that way after having so many freedoms.
@valeria1 (2721)
• United States
20 Aug 08
I do not know much about it but I will give you my opinion anyway! I would never live in a country that you have to share your man with others hahahaha, I am too jealous for it so I am glad I am not part of that culture! I love the photo by the way great avatar!
